What about women? If you want to defeat your rival in love, you can't confront it head-on. If you want to win by outsmart yourself, a smart woman won't push herself to the gun. Let's take a look at this clever woman. When Hai Ming just pursued Yan Yan, Yan Yan felt that he had many advantages and that he must have many "ex-girlfriends". Yan Yan used both hard and soft, and finally got a blacklist from Haiming, which not only contained name, age and even family information, but also was very detailed. Although Yan Yan is very angry, she has so many beautiful women, but there is nothing she can do. Who let others have too many advantages? Yan Yan memorized everyone on this blacklist, in order to meet the brave in the narrow road in the future, because only knowing ourselves and knowing ourselves can win every battle. Shortly after marriage, the first rival in love appeared. Yan Yan happened to see a letter in his computer bag, which was ambiguous, affectionate and lovesick, and even signed "Huanhuan", which read "Walking by the sea, snuggling up to each other on the beach" and so on. After reading the letter, Yan Yan flew into a rage, angry with Mingshan and ran back to the bedroom. After calming down, compare the blacklist, Huanhuan: Graduated from Foreign Languages Institute, medium-looking, two years older than me, with two sisters and a good family. When she was in high school, she and her husband were at the front and back tables, and once said that she would let her husband plug in the door and enjoy a car and a mansion. Yan Yan thought, I have to be careful, this is a gold medal rival in love. Just then Hamming came to coax her, and she took the opportunity to let him write back. Of course, be polite to your rival in love, the only requirement is to write according to your own outline, and he can give it a little play. The first paragraph: greetings, the second paragraph: summing up the past, and the third paragraph: telling her that she has found her beloved ... After Hamming finished writing, Yan Yan read it, euphemistically calling it checking typos. Finally, Yan Yan also attached a recent photo of Zhang Mingshan, which made Mingshan feel very intimate. Two days after the letter & gt& gt& gt about how to beat the gold medal rival, the girl wrote back. The letter first expressed her disappointment with Hamming, saying that showing her letter to Yan Yan was a betrayal of her friends, and having a wife made her sad. She also said that Yan Yan is too headstrong to spoil too much ... This letter contains nothing but complaints and accusations. Seeing her husband's depressed expression, Yan Yan decided to write a reply herself. First of all, introduce yourself, write yourself beautifully and generously (the secret of a woman's beauty lies in anna sui), be knowledgeable and learn more; Secondly, explain how good Mingshan is to his friends and highly praise Mingshan. Finally, I talked about how I fell in love with Mingshan and how I trusted him. At the end, as the wife of the host, Yan Yan welcomed her as a guest, "warmly welcoming", literally treating every sentence with courtesy, but the deep meaning is that every sentence hides a knife and a murder. The letter was sent after Mingshan approved it. Since then, the woman has no phone calls or letters, and there is no news. After defeating the gold medal rival, Yan Yan is full of confidence, and she is more sure about what she may encounter in the future. One day not long after, Haiming received a phone call. When he faltered, Yan Yan became suspicious and picked up the extension to eavesdrop. She only heard the following conversation: "I haven't seen you for three years. Do you miss me? " "hmm." "Why don't you talk, is there anyone next to you? Make a new girlfriend! " "yes." "I miss you very much, always alone!" Yan Yan hung up the extension with the loudest voice and ran to the bedroom to start crying. Hamming came running in less than ten seconds, scared to death. Yan Yan began to complain with runny nose and tears: "Well, you hook up with others, how can you curse in front of my mother!" He said that he would live up to me and be good to me all his life. Now there is another woman, saying, who is she! Haiming wiped Yan Yan's tears and explained, "Yuanyuan, this is the girlfriend I made in front of you." . I haven't heard from you in three years. Because it is the first love, I can't bear to hurt her, so I am a little hesitant! "Yuan Yuan, a normal college graduate, is Hamming's first love. Yan Yan said: "Then you should also make it clear what to do if she is entangled in the future. I want you to call in front of me and end this. " Once again, Mingshan had to call back and explain on the phone that he had a girlfriend, and they all passed, and so on. After a long silence, the girl hung up. In fact, they haven't contacted each other for three years. God knows what the girl's motive is for suddenly calling. But Yan Yan thought: I must defend my love, make persistent efforts and successfully beat off his first lover! However, this matter was later shelved. & gt& gt& gt How to beat a man's first love One day after work, Hamming was smoking a stuffy cigarette. His expression told Yan Yan that something must have happened, but he wanted to say it, but it was hard to say it. How can we get him to confess? When night fell, Yan Yan politely volunteered, and Hamming accepted. After the lingering, Yan Yan said softly like a naive girl: "If you have something on your mind, just say it and we will solve it together! Seeing Yan Yan's understanding, Haiming confessed, "A former friend of mine borrowed 5000 yuan from me." "Who is it?" "Xiao Li" "Oh, let's talk about it tomorrow, I'm sleepy! "Xiao Li, one-year-old Hamming, is a gentle and lovely person. She is a classmate of Haiming Middle School and has always been considerate of Mingshan from junior high school to senior high school. After getting married, I heard that marriage is not very happy. Yan Yan thought, should I borrow it or not? I don't care how much I borrow. The point is that they haven't seen each other for years. At the beginning, they were so kind to hamming. Now that her marriage is unfortunate, she will definitely seek comfort from Hamming. With Hamming's kindness, she would never have any comfort between men and women with nothing to do. Who knows what will happen? But Yan Yan thought: don't borrow it, hamming will think I am stingy, and I should be generous. & gt& gt& gt How to keep the marriage fresh The next day after work, Yan Yan put 5,000 yuan in front of Hamming: "Let's lend it to her. She may need it badly. Let her come to our house to withdraw money, and I'll cook a meal for her. After all, you have been friends for more than ten years! " Hamming looked at Yan Yan gratefully and said emotionally, "You are so sensible. I decided not to lend it to her. I don't want her to misunderstand what I still miss. I would rather let her think that I am a selfish and stingy person! " Yan Yan said, "Is this good?" Hamming replied, "I'll call her back, don't worry!" " "This time, Yan Yan won again, which is really a step backwards. If your man is good enough, there will be no shortage of heterosexual suitors around him. Any woman who has a competitor around her is always uncomfortable. In the face of latecomers, the "fighting" way adopted by the parties will only accelerate the speed of men falling to the "enemy", and smart women will defeat their rival in love with smart methods. & gt& gt& gt A clever woman's trick to defeat her rival in love. When a rival in love appears, you must first know yourself and know yourself, so that you can "be invincible". Only knowing yourself, not knowing each other, will only be busy; I only know each other, but I don't know myself. I obviously lack self-confidence. Generally speaking, your rival in love and yourself are basically an order of magnitude. Because if the conditions are too high, you will never have a crush on your man; If the conditions are too low, your man will not like her, which is the basic principle of the balance of everything. Sometimes, men will think you are better than your rival in love only if you remain condescending in language and behavior. Only in this way can we conquer a man's heart and truly defeat his rival in love. At the same time, it is an expedient measure to suddenly reduce the number of contacts with him, or even not to meet for a period of time, but at the same time, we should also pay attention to maintaining certain contacts, including telephone calls. At this time, men will reflect on themselves, what they have done wrong in some aspects, what they have offended their wives, and so on. The more introspection a man has, the more effective it will be for his future emotional development. However, it should be noted that completely refusing to meet men will only accelerate men's giving up on you, but will push men to the rival side. In addition, to lock a man's heart, we must first lock a man's eyes and don't let ourselves get old. How many men like yellow-faced women? If you want a man to focus all his life, please keep a young face forever! & gt& gt& gt How to bid farewell to the yellow-faced woman?