I don't know when it started, but anxiety seems to be the norm in everyone's life.
The triviality of life, the pressure of work and the troubles of interpersonal relationships often make people breathless.
If you are in this state, Mr. Liang Shiqiu's prose collection "It's better to be a cat and dog" may inject some sobriety into your anxious life.
Mr. Liang Shiqiu's elegant and humorous words show the spiritual world and life interest of a generation of "family members", and also let us see the world with a knowing smile and find it lovely.
For women, he said, "if women can get royalties for their stories, they will easily get rich."
About men, he said, "Men are lazy. He can sit lazily in the swivel chair, and his five senses and limbs, together with his brain (if any), will stop moving. "
Regarding spending money, he said: "Being angry doesn't have to cost money, but spending money must be angry."
Witty words make people laugh.
Some readers said: After breakfast every day, I should read a book for a while before going to work, even for half an hour, which will make me feel good all day.
Today, we read Liang Shiqiu's prose collection "It's better to be a cat and dog" and find a trace of poetry in the messy life; Choose a peaceful place in complex interpersonal relationships.
Enjoy a lazy life once in a while
To appreciate the beauty of life.
In this noisy era, everyone is trying to run forward and make a leisurely and comfortable life extremely compact.
For example, in order to lose weight, punching in for fitness every day increases the burden on the body after busy work;
For the so-called self-discipline, I insist on getting up early to read books every day, which leads to lack of sleep and many working conditions;
In order to achieve the goal of buying a house, I tried my best to make money, as if I had a little rest and felt guilty about not making progress.
The ashtray feels that self-discipline beyond one's energy and physical strength will cause stress and anxiety. In the long run, it will also affect a person's physical and mental health.
The ashtray has a friend who doesn't want to waste time and arranges his life to the brim.
Busy during the day on weekdays, she arranges yoga or fitness exercises for herself at night; On the rest day, she also took part in guitar classes, dance classes and book clubs from time to time.
She didn't have a rest when she needed it most, which led to her lack of energy at work and confusion every day. She had no sense of accomplishment except fatigue.
Later, she began to change her lifestyle. Every day after work, she will empty herself, chase dramas, read novels, plant flowers and grass, cultivate her mind and cultivate her nature, and the whole person will be nourished a lot.
Liang Shiqiu wrote: "I am a lazy person myself. I often take the path of least resistance and waste a lot of time."
The ashtray thinks that blind self-discipline is creating anxiety. A person doesn't even have the ability to rest, and it will only outweigh the benefits. Only by slowing down can we realize the beauty of life.
Just like actor Chen chooses to spend time with his family, reading books, playing the piano and playing chess to relieve his busy mood.
After each short repair, I once again devoted myself to the performing arts with great enthusiasm.
Excessive self-discipline is not necessarily a good thing, life is just right.
Allowing yourself to relax is a kind of life ability. It is a kind of life adjustment to enjoy laziness once in a while.
Only by adjusting the pace of life, finding balance, finding fun and nourishing the soul can we accumulate strength and go further.
Be yourself freely.
In order to get real happiness.
There are three cats in Liang's hometown, all stray cats brought home by his wife from the outdoors. The names of kittens are also very simple, namely White Ryoma Echizen, Black Cat Princess and Xiaohua.
Among them, White Ryoma Echizen and Princess Black Cat have completely different personalities.
Bai is withdrawn and used to being alone, while Princess Black Cat is light and lively.
When two cats are locked together, they will fight, so Liang Shiqiu has to implement an "isolation policy" for them. If the two cats are kept separately, they will live in peace.
Liang Shiqiu also drew a philosophy of life from raising cats: cats and dogs don't owe the world a share, they are always happy. People are good at bowing to the world, only occasionally happy.
People are born with different personalities.
Liang Shiqiu believes that we don't have to please others and change our personality. Just like cats and dogs, we can follow our own personality and live a hearty life.
He made it himself.
In a society that is good at pleasing, but not sophisticated, he chooses to keep his reserve and lofty.
When Liang Shiqiu was a teacher, he never greeted other teachers or participated in any social activities, which would be considered as unsociable and many people didn't like him.
But he never changed his personality to cater to others, but chose to win on his own.
The content of his lectures is rich and clear, which is very popular with students. When he is in class, the classroom is always packed, and he maintains his authority in the school by virtue of his knowledge.
In this world, we face different people and things every day. Sometimes in order to make people around us like it, we wronged ourselves, did things we didn't like, and said things we didn't like.
The ashtray feels that doing things in order to meet the expectations of the outside world will only be painful; Only by obeying nature and having sex can you feel happy.
As Chen Guo once said: There are always people who like you and there are always people who don't like you.
Only by strengthening your personality, being free from the influence of others and the outside world, and being yourself freely, can you live calmly.
Calm down and do things.
Everyone can create something extraordinary.
Liang Shiqiu wrote: The tree is alive, but it can't walk. Where it takes root, it will live there, and there will never be the pain of being displaced.
The attitude of trees is different, but without exception, trees are bathed in sunshine and rain, growing steadily, from germination to flowering to attracting bees and butterflies.
The ashtray feels like a tree for each of us. No matter what kind of environment you are in or what kind of work you are engaged in, you must calm down, be down-to-earth and take root at the grassroots level in order to achieve something.
Recently, Aunt Pusaihong, a Shanghai supermarket, became very popular in Weibo.
Aunt Pu is the cleaning manager of RT Mart supermarket. At first, she was different from other cleaning managers.
Others use the fly swatter and mosquito killing tools equipped in the shopping mall. According to the attributes of flies and mosquitoes, she made various "mosquito catching tools" by herself.
Knowing that mosquitoes like yellow, she made a yellow mosquito repellent sticky paper. Even the grass outside the supermarket was put into the fly trap by her.
More than that, in order to treat the symptoms and cure the root cause, Aunt Pu began to study the mosquito work schedule, distributed the self-made mosquito work schedule to customers free of charge, listed the 24-hour behavior characteristics of mosquitoes in the work schedule, and gave the corresponding family mosquito repellent coup.
There is a shop where she is. In summer, she stood barefoot for half an hour without a mosquito.
Aunt Pu has done a job that others look ordinary to kill mosquitoes to the extreme, and it has also become popular on the Internet.
In life, some people complain that there is more work and less money, and they always want to pay less and gain more; Or one mountain looks at the other, feeling that they are overqualified and frequently change jobs, resulting in nothing.
The ashtray feels that there is never a shortcut to success. Even if there are doubts and ridicule, grievances and hardships, only by taking root at the grassroots level and being down-to-earth, can we achieve extraordinary things in the ordinary.
In this world, there has never been an ideal career or an ideal life.
Any job in the world, if you calm down and do it in a down-to-earth manner, can stand out from the encirclement.
Always keep a normal heart.
Live freely.
Liang Shiqiu wrote: We came into this world without our consent, and we left this world without our consent. We are very passive.
There are always too many disappointments in life, and there are always people around you who don't like it. Irritable work often makes people crazy, and it is hopeless to run for life every day.
Complaining blindly will only increase your troubles. Only by learning to look at the suffering in life with a normal heart can we live calmly.
Liang Shiqiu was in turmoil all his life, but he still faced life with an open mind.
Liang Shiqiu returned from studying in Beijing to marry his fiancee. But after only ten days of stability, he caught up with the war and had to start a wandering life with his relatives.
In the next few years, they moved to Shanghai, Qingdao and Beiping. When life just settled down, the family should have been reunited, and soon after, my father died.
Later, he worked in Guangzhou, and then moved to Taiwan Province Province with the National Compilation Museum. He was separated from his children for more than 40 years and reunited with them in his later years.
Liang Shiqiu can face life changes calmly and enjoy every life course safely.
In the face of retirement, some people are afraid that life after retirement is empty and boring, which may lead to boredom and accelerate aging.
Liang Shiqiu believes that the ideal retirement life is to really retire, get rid of the position on which you depend for a living and do what you really want to do.
After retirement, Liang Shiqiu devoted his time to his own life, writing articles and meeting friends. He is very happy.
The ashtray feels that life is full of ups and downs, and we can't control the outside world. The only thing we can do is to settle our hearts, meet every experience with a normal heart, and live in the way we like.
As Lin Qingxuan once wrote, "Look at the world with a pure heart, live with a happy heart, have feelings with a normal heart, and sweep away obstacles with a soft heart".
Keep a normal heart, cherish everything in the moment, face the storms in life calmly, be fearless, have no regrets, and walk through every life course calmly in order to live comfortably.
Liang Shiqiu wrote in the book: Some people play with pens, some people play with money, some people play with antiques, some people play with musical instruments, and if nothing else, they just play.
Walking in this world, everyone is in their own helplessness and difficulties.
However, there are always people who face all anxiety and unbearable with a calm mind and live every day with a fun mind.
In the busy life of self-discipline, stealing a little laziness can also be regarded as the adjustment of life;
In an impetuous society, only by keeping a free and easy life can we get real happiness;
In the complicated workplace, only by learning to calm down and do things can we achieve something;
In an unhappy world, only by keeping a normal mind can we live comfortably.
I hope everyone can look at ordinary things in life with a poetic attitude like Liang Shiqiu, and know how to find peace in an anxious life and happiness in an ordinary life.