Emotion is a person's psychological activity, so we need some scientific psychological knowledge to interpret it, which can guide us to make scientific judgments on some behaviors in intimate relationships, rather than being limited to personal subjective cognition and making wrong judgments. Similarly, more love is to apply theory to practice, thus internalizing our own thoughts and better guiding us to get along in the next few decades.
I seldom read emotional books before. I remember that one year on Tanabata, in order to avoid the crowds, the streets were full of dog food. Hiding in CITIC Bookstore, sitting by the window, I came across a best-selling book, Always Get Used to Being Alone, a book about love and life. It's an unexpected gift for Tanabata.
In fact, I don't like those fast food books that groan and express too much emotion. Plus, the author of this book is a post-90s girl younger than me. After reading the first few pages, I once wanted to give up. But in the end, I still can't help feeling that bestsellers have the hardcore strength of bestsellers and can really capture people's hearts. Here are some notes I made at that time:
1, as long as you believe, you will be much happier. Believe that you have the ability to live the life you like, that the people who are with you at this moment will make you happy, that your parents love you, that people who come into your life in the future will bring you different wonderful things, that human nature is good, that our vitality is tenacious, and that years will treat everyone who works hard.
Falling in love is everything has its vanquisher. When you meet the right person, you will be in good shape. Someone used to say, thank your predecessor for being your predecessor and teach us how to be better. Actually, I don't think so. Is the current, current person's state. Determines how you live. You will know how to fall in love with him when you see him.
3. Views on breaking up: Don't measure the proportion of love. In the relationship between men and women, it is a very precious thing to have a person who you particularly like and are willing to treat sincerely. At the same time, you don't have to ask the other person for too much feedback. Look down on yourself and ask for nothing in return. In a relationship, you should try your best to enter the market without regrets; It's time to leave and turn around smartly. The key is to enter and exit to give you absolute dominance. Don't cling to another person.
Later, I met a boy I liked very much, the kind that fell in love at first sight. I think it is wiser for me not to start lightly, but to rely on a love guide book. I analyzed it myself. Because of my family background, I am an anxious personality without love. Every time I fall in love, I will push too hard and finally die. It's a good start, but you can never win a long-term relationship. The book "Is Love Tired" served as my strategist during the period before I decided to have a relationship.