Women's nature is emotional, rich and sensitive. After divorce, women must go through two stages: collapse and rebirth. In the collapse stage, divorced women have obvious loneliness, loneliness and regret. ? Strong people choose to hide everything in their hearts and not show it easily, like a wounded beast licking their wounds alone in the dead of night. Compared with people who are not so strong, some people may become self-pitying and never get through this hurdle. Some people may also break the jar and let happiness get farther and farther away from themselves. Although things have changed, how can we help ourselves to be reborn and get out of the shadows?

First, release the pressure and learn to let go.

People can't always remember the past, they need to keep moving forward. But you can't suppress yourself. Cry a few times when you want to cry, and learn to release yourself. You can also talk to someone, and you can talk to your family about your joys and sorrows. If it is inconvenient to talk to your family, you must relax your heart with friends, old classmates, teachers or friends you didn't know very well before, let this pressure vent freely and learn to let it go.

Second, accept the reality objectively.

You can regard divorce as a unique experience in your life, accept the fact of divorce from the heart, and tell yourself that you have done your best for this failed marriage and really have no regrets. So, get back to your old life. At that time, at work, do what you like, return to your daily life and accept the reality bravely. Learn to live without him: when two people enter the marriage hall, it only means the beginning of a relationship, and the bumpy marriage life may eventually end. The day when fate really comes to an end, we must either part or immerse ourselves in the past. Separation only means the end of this relationship. Similarly, separation is also for the next encounter. If you get married after divorce, you will be reincarnated even if you die. Although, before, I have been used to living together, but we have to return to the living habits when we are single and get used to life without him. ?

Third, find a new living environment.

For divorced people, the surrounding natural environment and their own residence are very exciting. Moving to a new home and a new natural environment is very important to improve the mood of divorced people. It will help you get out of your bad mood as soon as possible and prevent you from remembering more scenes with your ex. Therefore, people after divorce should try to get rid of the original natural environment. Create a new mental state: mental state refers to the spirit. After divorce, people are depressed because, in their eyes, it seems that the spiritual world has collapsed. The shaping of a new mental state needs some help from outside. This kind of outside help can be the elderly, parents, their own teachers or people they trust. If you have certain beliefs, it will be very effective for divorced people. Treat everything around you like a dream: treat everything around you like a dream. Think of a beautiful marriage as a good dream, and divorce as a nightmare that has just woken up, since the nightmare has woken up. The following should be to pack yourself up and start again to meet the next, upcoming dream. ? Divert your attention and pay more attention to your family: If a divorced person doesn't know how to divert his attention, you should pay more attention to your relatives, your parents, your children, and more importantly, your parents and your children. Taking your parents and their daughters and grandchildren out for an outing or holiday trip and paying attention to each other can give you better emotional sustenance.

Fourth, change the natural environment.

A newly divorced person should never be alone all the time, but should always think behind closed doors. They must go to a new world, find some free time to go shopping with friends, go on holiday with their families, and play games and entertainment with colleagues. Or you can take the initiative to participate in young volunteers, or transfer to another place to work, change the office environment, or do something good to help others, and you will find that you will have a lot of happiness and your mood will be brand-new. ?

Fifth, enrich your knowledge.

Divorced people should enrich their food, clothing, housing and transportation, learn some knowledge, concentrate on other things, and don't have to concentrate on the past, so your social circle of food, clothing, housing and transportation will be small, make more friends and learn more knowledge. If you have children, you should also consider the education of the children and how to get along with the right people in your later life. After divorce, you should learn more knowledge. Emotional opening to the outside world: The best way to overcome the shadow of divorce is to welcome a new day with a happy and positive attitude, and maybe you will get a valuable emotion soon. First of all, we must understand that marriage is impermanent, and divorce is also a life change. Don't lock yourself up, face the future life positively and bravely. ?