Just like me, I'm sure you have some excellent girlfriends around you. They often associate with you who are purely "bad guys", but for some reason, these girls have never been interested in you. Why on earth is this? ! It's actually quite simple. The reason why girls choose men is not "whether he is a good man". They will choose those men because of instinct. Being a good man can't attract girls' interest. Being a good man won't make women lean towards you. I know this statement is really ridiculous and unacceptable. But this is a fact, and we have to accept it. Only by accepting this fact can you win in the emotional battlefield with girls, otherwise …
Taboo 2: trying to convince girls. What do most men do when they meet girls they like? In fact, girls won't agree. This is why men always want to convince girls.
Let me tell you, we can never change a girl's instinctive reaction to the concept of "attraction". Never. You can't make a girl feel "different" from you by so-called "logic and reason". Think it over. In reality, what should we do when girls are not interested in us? We prayed, begged, pestered and tried every means to change their minds. This is definitely the worst policy. Let's never do this again.
Taboo 3: Ask for women's consent. In our traditional concept, if a girl wants to like us, she must approve everything she does.
This is another bad plan. Women will never like men who obey Nuo Nuo and sweet talk. Don't get me wrong, it doesn't mean abusing girls in order to please them. But if you think that font size means to girls: to girls, always follow the leader and obey. You will never win a girl's heart. In fact, girls are extremely disgusted with such men. If you doubt me, why not ask the girls around you if they like such a man?
Taboo 4: Try to buy love through "money"
Think about it, how many times have you taken a girl out to dinner and bought her gifts and flowers? At the same time, she rejects you and accepts a rotten person who is not half as good to her as you? Does this happen from time to time in your life? This is actually a natural thing.
But when you do these things, you feel that they send an obvious signal: I know you don't like me, so I have to spend money to get your attention and goodwill. Your obvious attempt is just in line with girls' "defense system", that is, they lack that sense of wholeness and feel controlled at the same time. Yes, women regard these behaviors as "control".
Taboo 5: Simple statement.
Another big mistake is that many boys "share" their feelings and ideas with girls too early in the process of getting along with them.
Excellent girls are scarce, and they deserve more attention from men. Many people don't realize it, but the fact is: excellent girls are always targeted by others.
Excellent girls are "disturbed" by men many times every day. How about a week? Dozens of times, a month? Hundreds of times. We continue to believe that girls naturally associate with some boys, which shows that they must be very experienced in this field. They know what will happen next.
And after one or two dates, you can't wait to pick up girls, so you say to her, you know what? Actually, I like you very much. It is such rude words that scare the girls away. They leave you and never look back.
This makes girls feel that you are as hot as other boys and can't control yourself.
Don't be so rash, take a step back and relax ... you will find that the effect will be better.
Taboo 6: I don't know what a woman's "charm" means.
When it comes to the concept of attraction, women have a completely different "model" from men. You-you have to accept it first, and then do something.
When a man sees a girl with a good face, plump figure, beauty and kindness, he will immediately have an instinctive reaction. Does the same instinctive reaction apply to women?
Are women animals that judge men only by their eyes? I have studied this problem for a long time, and I can tell you that women have their own "attraction mechanism" relative to "appearance".
We have all noticed that we often see the phenomenon of "pig-headed beauty" and it happens from time to time. Think it over. Women pay more attention to men's "quality", and women like men who can give them "feelings" except appearance.
If you know how to use your body language and communication style, then when you see excellent girls again, you will definitely win their favor.
However, there is no free lunch. You must study and improve yourself from now on. Anyone can succeed as long as they work hard.
Learn more about chasing girls,
Taboo 7: insert yourself strongly, beauty psychology
Beauty psychology series:
Whether psychologically or physically, it is a long process for women to change their feelings. Many articles have made many comments on the process of women's emotional accumulation before, so I won't go into details here. In other words, women will not make arbitrary conclusions about a man in a short time, especially positive conclusions. You can ruin your relationship with a girl with a failed invitation, but rarely conquer a girl with a successful invitation. (Note: not without, but rarely) In Vita's view, women's emotional order is just the opposite of that of men. Women are emotional first and then emotional, and men are emotional first and then rational. Specifically, it can be said that women don't define each other's emotions at the initial stage of their relationship. Women are more concerned with examining and observing each other to see if their interaction is harmonious and their ambitions are consistent. More mature girls should also consider family background and economic conditions. But once a woman confirms the position of men in her mind, that is, they have completed the qualitative change from reason to sensibility, which is often based on girls' understanding of boys. Undoubtedly, men are visual animals, and they always say "I like you". In fact, these four words are too irresponsible and should be changed to "I like you". When chatting with a customer, he said that the customer was really "shocked" when he saw the girl for the first time, so he was elated and flowers were flying all over the sky (of course, he did not deny that his intentions were real and he was not playing with the girl's feelings). After knowing each other for a while, I suddenly found that they are very different, such as personality, hobbies, living habits and so on. I remember a passage in Struggle in which Xiangnan and Hanako were in the swimming pool, saying that they liked Yang Xiaoyun's perfect white body, but she watched TV with a vulgar expression.
It seems to be a truth. Therefore, I advise all comrades that it is very important to show their self-charm in the early stage of emotion, but in emotional expression, slow down and then slow down. Learn to think with your head, not just your eyes. Because sometimes what the eyes see is not necessarily true.
Taboo 8: Make up lessons strongly and talk about confession.
Confession itself should be an act of confirmation, an established fact, or a fact that you believe has a high success rate, so that you can make a final confirmation. But a bunch of people regard confession as a "notice"
Or as a "pursuit weapon"
"Well ... I like you. Can you be my girlfriend?" Do you know what many girls think?
"I don't know you very well, do I?" Or "We are just ordinary friends, how do I know if it is appropriate?"
Many girls' reactions are: a. Avoid you directly because they don't want to promise you; B. I don't agree or refuse directly, and I want to test or feel whether this boy is suitable or willing to pay.
If you don't want to promise you today and continue to accept your kindness or pursuit ... that's called bad intentions.
Many times, girls want to extend the observation time, so situation B happened. If a girl just wants to know whether it is appropriate, keep in touch with you and give a moderately friendly and ambiguous response, that is observation. ...
If you use "not good for you" to see if you are willing to continue to be good to me, it is a girl's brain problem. But in this world, too many people have no confidence in feelings and want to test the weight of feelings, so there will be bad temptations.
Taboo 9: It's not good for you, but you continue to be good for me-wow, you really love me. If it's bad for you, you run away-look, you really don't really love me.
Both boys and girls can do this kind of thing. I am not good to you, but you should continue to be good to me. That's not true love, that's really harmful. If a boy is bullied, tortured, and squeezed by a girl, and he has to be kind to the girl wholeheartedly, what level of man is that? Are you sure he is still a man?
By \ \ Sandy Sandy
Compared with my colleagues/classmates, I got married and had children ear