By \ \ Sandy Sandy

Compared with my colleagues/classmates, I got married and had children earlier, but not so early, so my friends are curious about what family life is like.

Often ask me related questions, is it scary or cute to get married and have children? I feel that there are some things I want to tell pregnant women or women who want to get pregnant. Let's talk about the bad news with pain first:

First, the production process is really? It hurts!

I have had a caesarean section, and the so-called pain in labor (I don't know how long it will take) followed by the pain in caesarean section (I probably had a super pain of 1.5 days), no matter which one is very painful. The day after giving birth = the anesthetic is gone &; After pulling out the catheter, the nurse said I had to get out of bed and go to the toilet by myself. 10 step distance walked for 40 minutes because it was super? Level? Nothing? Enemy? It hurts!

My husband asked me what kind of pain it was, and I replied, "It's just the feeling that someone keeps beating your stomach! Although I have never been beaten, the pain of contractions is that no matter what you do, it will not be more comfortable. You can only take painkillers and injections all the time, so get ready!

Second, the body will really lose weight after childbirth.

Even though I have gained 7 kilograms, I feel that my stomach is looser than before+the shape of my chest is not as good as before. What's more, mothers who gained a lot of weight during pregnancy and didn't lose weight or have stretch marks will definitely be more depressed. A friend who gained 22 pounds during pregnancy told me that she was completely thin, but she felt loose all over!

Sad? Seeing these two points, you feel that being a mother is really great! In extreme pain. The risk of getting fat, ugly and old, having children. Personally, I will try my best to maintain it during pregnancy because I am afraid of long stretch marks. I seriously study how to raise a baby without eating meat, which is quite effective. If I am not too fat, I really won't have stretch marks. It will be better to recover faster!

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Third, bullying by others is not equal to your children.

Is it that seeing a terrible out-of-control child in a restaurant, plane or public place will give up the idea of having a baby? I want to tell you: if you are reading this article now, it means that you usually have the habit of reading parenting books, doing homework online and teaching yourself, so you should find good ways to teach your children.

It is very important to be psychologically prepared to accept life changes, learn the knowledge of pregnancy and parenting, find the parenting methods that you agree with and the ways that suit your family, insist on doing the right thing, and believe that you can bring out a cool and lovely baby!

It is really necessary and effective for parents to insist on not retrogressing easily in education.

Fourth, there will be fewer friends.

To be clear, there will be fewer fair-weather friends, because after giving birth, there will be fewer opportunities to go out to parties. However, true friends are always around (the concept of friendship test).

And even if they don't have children, they will be happy to accept my children. They even like listening to me talk about this little baby! It is also because of my example that they have a better imagination of what may happen in the future.

5. Life will change greatly.

Especially in the first few years of a child's life, you will find that you spent all weekend nights in nightclubs a few years ago. Now, stay in bed/at home with your children/family at any time, and make more psychological preparations! Because it's definitely going this way, huh? The time you can use freely will be greatly reduced.

But don't feel miserable, because life is full of choices, choosing single = having fun&; Just take care of yourself; Choose marriage and family = dull and stable &; Taking care of my dear ones and playing with children at home, I feel very satisfied!

Although I used to be free to fly around &; Yes, but I flew far away, played a lot and saw a lot. Now is a different way to enter a stable family life. I can still play, but the frequency is reduced. ) Getting married and having children makes me feel that my life is more complete, so I will make a brave choice after making psychological preparations, choose what you love and love what you choose!

Six or eighteen kinds of martial arts are proficient in everything.

The so-called mother strength. I can only nod like garlic, right, right, right! That's right! That's right! That's right! Before, I was not good at cooking, I couldn't get along with my children, I didn't dare to fight cockroaches, I didn't like going out by myself, and I didn't care much about the choice of food, but because I became a mother, I learned a lot that I never knew.

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Everything is arranged to take care of the child, from her daily life, health, learning to her mood. In order to do this well, I have read more relevant books, and even in the face of criticism and suggestions, my heart is much stronger. Although my cooking is still not very good, at least I can make my own non-staple food and tie it with my children 24 hours a day. I feel very happy.

Seven, know more about love.

Finally, it never occurred to me. For the first time in my life, I feel that my child is a lovely creature, and for the first time, I find that I will be so patient and love someone so much. She is my baby.

Watching her grow up day by day, my heart is full of excitement. She grows up little by little every day, learning more and understanding a little. She feels that my life seems to be satisfied by her. She has accomplished everything I have as a woman. I sincerely thank her for choosing me as her mother and coming into my life!