A few days ago, Zhao, who had disappeared for a long time, suddenly sent a Weibo, which caused countless netizens to marvel:

How did this happen after giving birth?

Yingying's small waist and handsome and powerful muscle lines show that she is a novice mother who has just given birth to a baby for only one year!

Many people sigh:

However, every appearance of Zhao postpartum can shatter the rumors and make everyone sit up and take notice. "Zhao's temperament has changed" has been searched more than once.

It used to be like this:

But some people will change when they have children:

Black hair and red lips, beautiful and whispering, she no longer blinks innocent eyes like Bambi in our impression, but sharp and charming eyes, all of which are announced to us with great ambition:

The queen has finally returned.

If there is any word to describe her state as a mother, it is probably: gentle and firm.

It is not that she wants to be a "desperate mother", but that no one knows better than her mother that women are not cruel and unstable!

How hard it is for a woman to live,

How many customs do we have to go through?

How painful is it to have a baby?

In medicine, the pain that humans can feel is divided into 12, while the pain in childbirth reaches 12.

Simply put: having a baby hurts, just like someone squeezing a watermelon out of your nostrils.

The documentary "The First Time in Life" made several dads experience this kind of "human pain".

A few seconds ago, my father couldn't help shouting "stop, stop, stop". This grinning scene was sad across the screen.

Women, on the other hand, have to endure not only the continuous labor pains from uterine contraction to placenta delivery 12- 18 hours, but also the pain of vaginal incision. And after giving birth, you have to sew three layers.

Wu, the mother of the second child, kept beating the hard wall with her hands when she opened the palace mouth, and tears could not help falling: "Please, give me no pain." I'm dying. 」

The doctor took a thick puncture needle through the spinal cord hole in her waist and poured the catheter into the epidural space. The doctor comforted her and said, hold on, this is the most painful needle.

Wu said to him, Nothing, hurry up.

Because this kind of pain is nothing compared with the pain of giving birth.

But at present, the average painless delivery rate is less than 10%.

This means that there is no choice of painless delivery in most areas, and countless mothers have to experience heartbreaking "twelve pains".

It doesn't matter whether it hurts or not. What is more stressful is the difficulty and danger in production.

27-year-old mother Xiang Shuang, pregnant with twins, should have been a sunny day with beautiful spring.

However, due to congenital aortic bicuspid malformation, Xiang Shuang had to undergo heart surgery at the 27th week of pregnancy.

The doctor said: the probability of fetal death is as high as 30%.

One operation, three lives, and a little carelessness may endanger the lives of the mother and fetus. When peeling off the heart valve and stopping the mother's heartbeat, we should observe the fetal heart in time.

The whole operation process is ready, which is even more dangerous.

When the operation was successful, Xiang Shuang's husband wiped his tears at the door:

"In this life, all I have to do is keep the three of them. 」

Which mother is not gambling?

I don't know how many lives are at stake in the simple sentence "Mother and child are safe".

According to statistics, about 830 women around the world die of pregnancy or childbirth-related complications every day, that is to say, almost every minute and a half, a mother's life is dying!

Pregnancy-induced hypertension, diabetes, perinatal cardiomyopathy, deep vein thrombosis ... If the condition is not well controlled, it will be very unfavorable to the fetus and maternal production, and even life-threatening.

Really, a desperate child was born.

Giving birth to a child is a matter of two people, but it is actually a woman who really faces everything.

Every mother is betting her life in exchange for the opening of the world door for her children.

Every contraction of the uterus is the horn of life.

As the saying goes:

Being a mother is not enough to talk about life.

Those who survive after giving birth are tough characters.

Will it be okay after giving birth?

No, the collapse of a woman and a mother has just begun.

Hair loss, stretch marks, sagging breasts, long spots, obesity, and urinary leakage. ...

Every time after birth, the sequelae are bothering them.

Physical pain is tolerable, but psychological pain is inevitable.

Due to the production, the mother's hormone secretion is abnormal, and her emotions are often out of control, which is very prone to postpartum depression. Scientific data show that:

Up to 70% of mothers have symptoms of postpartum depression.

On April 27, 2020, Ms. Su from Changsha jumped from the top floor with her second daughter, who was several months old.

20/kloc-June, 2008, a mother climbed to the top of the 33rd floor. She was very excited and shouted: This made me live!

Her son cried when he saw that his mother was crazy, and shouted at his mother with the voice of tearing the child:

"Mom, you don't leave me!

Aren't you my best mother?

Mom, don't be afraid, I'll come to save you right away! 」

Fortunately, she finally woke up in her son's cry for help, climbed in from outside the railing and cried with her son in her arms.

Sadly, from beginning to end, the father of the child did not appear.

So, you have to ask how a woman broke down?

Something like that

But every time the baby wants to drink milk, she asks her husband to give him a hand, and he plays with his mobile phone and says, "It's mom, not me ..."

I occasionally go to the convenience store after work, eat the cake quietly for an hour, and feel the privacy and tranquility that is not disturbed by anyone;

Just go downstairs to work every day, afraid to go upstairs, think about starving children, husbands who cook for themselves, nagging in-laws, crying around, crying enough to dry your tears, and then go upstairs to play a good wife and mother. ...

Just ask her, what's so tiring about watching the children wash a bowl?

But I don't know, how many days of bowls, clothes, disappointment and grievances have been suppressed in her heart?

The first year after delivery is the most difficult time for mothers.

Never say: Isn't it just having a baby? Why do you get postpartum depression?

I use this netizen's answer to answer you:

It's really easy to destroy a mother.

I'm afraid there's not a woman in this world who hasn't cried at night.

Mothers who survive postpartum depression are invincible.

You have to ask, what is the most important thing for women in China?

According to a study by the new york Work Life Policy Center, women in China are the most ambitious women in the world.

Career and family, both hands, both hands must be hard!

Therefore, you will see that China ranks first in the world in terms of total population and labor force.

Women in China hold up half the sky.

Far beyond the United States, Japan and India, the labor participation rate ranks first in the world.

Why is it so high?

When a woman reaches middle age, no one in China can understand the sharpness and hardship of life better than a woman.

Those who do well are not as good as those who marry well, and can only cheat those young girls who are not deeply involved in the world. They know that economic independence determines their right to speak and family status.

A friend said that she would never forget what her husband said when he quarreled:

"I work hard outside all day. Don't you take care of the children at home? You all depend on me, and you're still messing with me? 」

So no matter how tired and difficult it is, she has always insisted on her future work.

They can't guarantee that they won't be rejected because of their lust and lack of income, and they can't guarantee that the marriage ship will be safe all its life and there is no risk of hitting the rocks.

In addition, women in China face a high risk of divorce.

After divorce, Japanese women can get 50% of their husbands' pension in addition to their housing property.

American and German men who want to divorce must pay a large alimony to their ex-wives.

Even if the property is not in the woman's name, the British can divorce for the children's life.

But if they have no job and no income, it really depends on their husbands' "conscience".

Fortunately, women in China can earn their own money.

Moreover, I know more about the weight of the word "conscience".

When Tamia Liu got married, she was going to quit the show business and set her mind at ease to be a "good wife and mother".

Never thought, life played a big joke on her, her husband went bankrupt, and her marriage fell down and got stuck in the mud.

Her husband Kelly was once severely depressed. She keeps sleeping by taking medicine every day, and she has a bad temper. When everyone advised Tamia Liu to divorce, the good wife took on the burden of the whole family.

Having a second child, she took care of the child and comforted her husband.

Even when the hospital was preparing for delivery, Kelly convulsed and fainted outside the delivery room. Or did she try to get up from the delivery bed and cooperate with the doctor to drag her husband back from the jaws of death?

Out of the month, she is travel-stained, filming, making money, and paying debts for her husband and children without a complaint.

Not long ago, Tamia Liu's first live broadcast delivered a perfect answer that surprised everyone!

More than 20 million people are online, and the transaction amount is as high as 65.438+0.48 billion.

Even big stars like VIA and Li Jiaqi are not rich.

Whether spoiled women are good or not, they don't know.

But women in China know:

A woman who can make money by herself must be lucky.

It is better to be angry than to live up to expectations, and to rely on others is better to rely on yourself.

Some people say that women in this era are more tired than women in any other era.

Because they have a lot of work.

There is a survey. In a family of three with a three-year-old baby, a mother's workload is equivalent to hiring a nanny, a full-time driver, a kindergarten teacher and a cleaning aunt. ...

When these expenses add up, a mother's annual salary is as high as10.5 million yuan.

But women in China are not afraid of being alone in their children's shit pile, but of not sleeping all day and not being understood.

What I'm afraid of is being disappointed while giving.

Jimmy Lin's wife Chen Ruoyi is doing a lot of housework, trying to please her mother-in-law. It is pointed out that this is a problem. When she got a call from her mother, she was helpless and even doubted herself: Mom, do you think I'm okay?

Mom's words made people burst into tears instantly: you are a gift from heaven.

"You are a good wife, a good mother and a good daughter. Don't worry about anything. 」

What they want is never a big house or an expensive bag, but a word: you are really great.

Someone can say: don't be afraid, I am here!

Life is a sea, and a woman's life is never easy.

We often say that we should work hard and be loved all our lives.

But I hope you can understand that the meaning of hard work is not to please others, but to liberate and love yourself.

Relax, relax, don't force yourself, don't demand perfection in everything.