First of all, we must establish an idea: harmony is more important. Conflicts of interest or other conflicts are inevitable. When dealing with these contradictions, the first solution you think of should be reconciliation. After all, under the same roof, if you look up but don't look down, if you let anyone ruin your mood, you may suffer in the future, not others. Living in harmony with colleagues, in the eyes of your boss, your weight will rise to a higher level, because the harmonious handling of interpersonal relationships is not only the need of survival, but also the need of work and life. Getting along is an easy thing. A harmonious relationship makes your work and life with your colleagues around you simpler and more efficient. If you want to have a harmonious relationship, you must also remember one sentence: "A friendship between gentlemen is as light as water". Everyone works in the same company, and personal friendship is definitely very different. There is a natural relationship between distance and closeness. The key to the problem is how to deal with this "far and near" relationship. We can recall who we tend to have an opinion about. In fact, we have no objection to who is closely related to whom and who is alienated from whom, because for ourselves, there are also close people and relatively ordinary people. We don't even have any complaints about colleagues giving excuses to their friends for making mistakes, because no one has many good brothers and sisters to hide when something happens. However, when we found that this relationship between distance and distance began to expand because of the same interests, and even there was intrigue and rivalry, we began to frown. This situation is taboo in an excellent team, and it can even be said that it is the beginning of the disintegration and differentiation of a team, and the result is the paralysis of the whole team. In order to avoid this situation, what we have to do is to control the relationship between far and near. We should think so. Whether the relationship is intimate or not, it is your personal relationship, and this relationship goes beyond work and should not have any influence on your work. The formation and maintenance of good friends require conditions. To be more specific, it is very important to be good friends, but there is another point, that is, there can be no obvious conflict of interest between two people. It is difficult for two people with obvious conflict of interests and obvious or hidden competition of interests to become good friends. Even two people who have become good friends, in the face of obvious conflicts of interest and competition, often make their feelings deadlocked. Because human nature is selfish, no one can escape. Second, learn to respect. In interpersonal communication, your attitude towards others often determines the attitude of others towards yourself. Therefore, if you want to gain the goodwill and respect of others, you must first respect others. Research shows that everyone has a strong desire for friendship and respect. Therefore, saving face is really a big * * * of people. If you are not careful, you will probably say something embarrassing inadvertently. On the surface, he may just feel guilty on the surface, but his heart may have been seriously bruised. In the future, the other person may refuse to associate with you because he feels that his self-esteem has been hurt. A philosopher once asked the question: Who is putting on airs, the general or the gatekeeper? The answer is the doorman. Because the general has abundant capital, he doesn't need shelf support. The same is true in real life. People with advantages are often generous, with enough self-esteem and face, and there is no need for others to add them. If others tell us themselves, we can really "commit suicide". People trust us so much, how can they spread other people's privacy casually? Thirdly, we should try to avoid conflicts. There are contradictions that are not terrible. As long as we can face the reality and actively take measures to resolve contradictions, we will still be reconciled, even better than before. To solve the contradiction, you should take the initiative. You might as well try to put aside past prejudices and treat these people more positively, at least like others. At first, they will be wary and will think that this is a trap and ignore it. Be patient, no problem. It's really a waste of time to settle past grievances. You should persist in being kind to them and improve little by little. After a while, as soon as the water in the sun evaporates, the problems between you will disappear.