Many times, we think we are in a bad mood, so we look depressed, unable to speak, and pull our heads when we walk-that is, our psychology affects our health. However, I believe some friends also know that the reverse is also true, that is, the body affects the mind. When we show happy, confident and energetic expressions and actions, our mood will also change. Practice of body law:

1 smile. Smiling is a good medicine for physical and mental health. Open your mouth and start smiling at life. You may feel a little unaccustomed at first, so just smile more. Sometimes I suddenly laugh, and my friends ask me what I am laughing at. I didn't say anything. In fact, I find no reason to smile and be happy. When I began to laugh, I began to be happy; When I start to be happy, I can find happy things. Happiness is a habit, not a result. We don't have to wait for happiness. We can create happiness by ourselves. The method is simple. Open your mouth, pull back and smile. That's right. When do you want to be happy? Tomorrow? Next year? Ten years later? Or today? Now? If it is now, now is the opportunity. Start practicing smiling. Nothing is simpler than this.

Raise your head and take a deep breath. If you bow your head and sigh, it is to announce to the world that I am a failure; Most importantly, your behavior is telling yourself that I have failed. However, from now on, hold your head high, hold your head high and keep your eyes firm. You are declaring my success with your actions. And your simple action is also changing your mood quickly and making you more confident. All right, let's get started. Smile, look up and take a deep breath. Simple, isn't it?

③ Work 20% faster. You have lightning action. Lightning? It was lightning. Speed up your pace, and any negative emotions will abdicate to make way for you. One of people's sorrows is that they have too much time to think about whether they are happy or not. But that's not you. Now, let's go Hurry up. The function of thunder and lightning brings strength and confidence like the sun. You are the best.

④ Speak loudly by 20%. You have the right to speak. Your voice is unique. Now, let the world find your voice. Take a deep breath and start talking to yourself: I like myself. After more than 10 thousand statistics, American statistical psychologists found that among all the self-motivated languages they can think of, one sentence has magical power, which can quickly improve people's confidence and strength. Is: I like myself. Yes! Simple and powerful. Tell yourself now: I like myself! I like myself! I like myself! ! ! Communicate with such confident people and raise your voice. Yes, it is.

⑤ Look into each other's eyes and speak succinctly and forcefully. Some people look around when they speak. What is that? That means: you are not interested in the person in front of you; You lack confidence in front of him. Look him in the eye and say what you mean simply and forcefully. You may not be satisfied with the first time. Come more often. You will feel more confident.

Okay, want to be in a better mood? Want to boost your confidence? You can start your practice now.

It's too simple. Will this work? Some people may say that the human brain just likes complexity and challenges. Because only when dealing with difficult problems can the mind prove its value. Don't let this naughty guy fool you, it's as simple as that. You don't need to take a course costing tens of thousands of dollars or become a billionaire to be happy. Your body is the best tool to create happiness. Thank it, use it, and be with it. Then happiness is with you. No matter what happens, it won't leave you.

▲ director method

Our experiences are kept in memory. When we recall them, some make us happy and some make us unhappy. They are like movies of life, kept in the warehouse of our memory. We can't change the past experience, but we can change our feelings about the past experience, so as to make ourselves happier, calmer and stronger.

NLP (Neurolinguistic Programming) thinks that we have three main channels to save experience. They are vision, hearing and touch (taste and smell are less used). What we experience is transformed into images, sounds and feelings and stored in our brains. We just need to change these images, sounds and feelings. We can change our feelings.

Now, you are the director of your own experience. Let's direct a play about yourself.

1, imagine a person you hate and think of an unpleasant thing when you get along with him recently.

2. Feel your mood. If the worst mood is 10, preferably 1, what is your mood now?

3. Think about it. Then start to speed up the picture. Imagine him talking fast, ten times faster. His mouth is like a duckbill, and it opens quickly. Go, go, go. Make drawing very fast.

4. flatten the picture, imagine it as flat as a toilet, roll around in front of you and talk, and then roll away. Yes, a few times, yes.

Some friends may find it difficult to imagine images. Then listen to his voice in your mind, change its tone, make it faster, turn it into a squeak, turn it into any strange or ridiculous sound, and match it with your favorite music.

6. Ok, now feel your mood. If the worst is 10, the best is 1, what do you think is your mood index? Are you in a better mood?

Similarly, we can deal with different experiences in life in this way. In this way, our mood is firmly in our own hands. A friend once told me that this method is too cartoon, like a child playing. I smiled. As long as it is effective and useful, it will make you more successful and happier. What does comics have to do with it? Why can't it be caricatured? Use them heartily, my friend, you are beginning to understand the meaning of emotional management.

Summary of the steps of directing method: imagination, test, speed change, deformation, voice change and test.

▲ Box changing method

People's minds are very different, but their achievements are very different.

The small difference in mind is: give things a positive definition or a negative definition.

The great difference in achievement lies in: success or failure.

Thought determines attitude, attitude determines behavior, and behavior determines the result.

People are unhappy because they draw a frame for themselves with their own thoughts, lock themselves in, and then play the victim and shout inside: let me out, let me out!

Man+mouth = prison. Therefore, people are imprisoned by their own framework.

So, how do you change your box? I introduce a commonly used NLP frame changing method: meaning frame changing method.

Some friends encounter some things and feel hurt, ignored or angered. So, start saying:

I am unhappy because my boss is too strict.

Because too few people know this product, it is difficult for me to promote it.

Because of the recent economic downturn, my performance is not good.

……

Now, let's put it another way: replace the "fruit" in the sentence with its antonym, and then put the word "because" at the beginning of the sentence. For example, the first sentence will become:

The boss is too strict, so I'm happy because ...

Fill in the following sentences by yourself, such as "Let me be more careful" and "Let me exceed the previous standards" and so on.

▲ Question method

Your question determines your answer. If you ask yourself: Why am I so unlucky today? You will get a lot of good evidence about your bad luck. If you say: How can I better improve my performance today? You will get a lot of answers about improving performance. Good questions can be seen everywhere, and we talk a lot. Here, I share a few simple and practical things that you can ask when you encounter problems or unpleasant things:

1. What kind of results do I expect?

2. What can I do to achieve my results? Can the loss be reduced?

Is there anything interesting, ridiculous or worth learning from this matter?

These three questions can make you focus on solving problems instead of spinning around emotionally. It can be said that they are a good way to keep you awake, calm and efficient when you encounter problems.