A man can have no charm, no money, and he is not afraid to work hard and suffer together. What he is afraid of is that the person he marries is unreasonable and will not get the care he wants after marriage. Instead, I was treated as a nanny and never liked it.
Marriage is like a gamble, and most of the people injured in this gamble are women. I often see some examples of women being treated badly in marriage. Marrying the wrong person is torture.
As long as men can know how to love and care for her, then women will put down all concerns and rush to marriage regardless.
It's just that we all have to see clearly that "being nice to you" is the bottom line of a relationship, not the advantage of a man, not to mention the basis for you to choose a person.
After all, when two people are together, they really don't live together. Doesn't mean that as long as they are nice to you, it's enough. What is important is the communication above the soul and the integration of heart and heart.
No matter who you marry, you will be bored for a long time. The difference is that being with some people will aggravate the boredom of marriage. Some people, even if the passion dissipates, there will always be light arrival.
After several times of love, you will find that being with different people is really different. The phrase "it's the same to marry anyone" is just a comfort to some people who are unhappy in marriage. Don't let such remarks affect your persistence in marriage and your judgment on love.
Some people say that "I will always be good to you" is just empty talk and has never been implemented. Some people say it will be good for you, only in love. When they get married and feel that they have it, this sentence will be forgotten. "Being nice to you" is often just a blank check, or it may just be the usual trick of some people. It only needs to hit the fire at a certain moment, and when the fire burns, it will be forgotten.
Being nice to you is actually just a low-cost payment, and the key to maintaining marriage lies in the harmony of mind and the word "understanding".
What a woman really needs in love is not to be kind to her, but to understand.
A marriage without "understanding" is useless to her.
The love between Zhou Rong and Feng Huacheng in The World on Earth is the lack of a tacit understanding. At first, it was because worship came together. Later, when worship dissipated, love died.
One is pedantic and the other is lofty. The only feature is that both of them are selfish, only thinking about their own persistence, and never willing to put down some of themselves to try to understand each other.
Feng Huacheng is very kind to Zhou Rong. He does all the work at home, and Zhou Rong never touches the spring. But in the end, the hearts of two people opened, and no amount of superficial efforts could heal them.
In Madame Bovary, Bovary is an honest man. He fell in love with his wife Emma at first sight, and regarded marrying her as the glory of his life, and his heart was complacent. After I got married, I tried my best to spoil and love her. Her family moved to another place because she was not feeling well. Because she wanted to ride a horse, she tried to buy a horse. She wants to play the piano, and even if the family is not well off, she tries her best to satisfy it. He tried his best to accommodate her and give her the greatest trust, but she took advantage of his kindness and betrayed him twice.
Bovary is very kind to Emma, but he doesn't understand her at all, her romance and her yearning for aristocratic life. He is mediocre and has no manners, and his behavior is as flat as a sidewalk. He can neither swim nor play with swords and guns. He has nothing to do with Emma's knight. He has long been completely separated from him in Emma's heart.
No matter how good the marriage is, it is useless to her. You can satisfy her life, but you can't satisfy her inner needs. Such love is doomed to wither.
Only knowing is the blessing of love.
Love is the key. Marriage without love can only be a mirage, and it will collapse sooner or later, but it is also important to know. In the name of love, supplemented by the blessing of literacy, marriage will last.
Cai really loves Zhou Rong in Human Life. He likes her from middle school, and has been with Zhou Rong for many years, silently caring for and loving her.
He is also the person who knows Zhou Rong best in the world. He knows her lofty and persistent, and is willing to protect her innocence. As long as she looks at it and does it, she will know exactly what she is thinking.
With such a person, two people have a lot less unwarranted suspicion, so they don't have to doubt each other or blame each other. That one knows how to make each other closer and appreciate each other more.
After all, the word love is too illusory. How much love has finally become a joke, and how many vows are just a wisp of smoke, drifting with the wind.
But that understanding is hard-won. Finding someone who understands each other is the greatest blessing in the world, and we will not throw it away easily.
Love, knowing how to depend on each other, can make love last forever.
Finding someone who understands you is a hundred times more important than being nice to you.
Being nice to you is actually the lowest cost thing in love, and anyone can do it if they want.
Taking you to work, buying you breakfast and cooking for you, shouldn't these be the standards of love?
Who stipulates that only women can cook at home? What's the use of a person if he doesn't even do such simple things as sending you to work and buying you breakfast?
A person who treats you with snacks can be nice to you, but that's not enough to justify your marrying him.
Women need to understand and know each other. Understanding in love is more important than love. Love will dissipate, but that understanding will bring two people closer together.
When two people are together, they need to twist into a rope to fight against life. If the hearts can't communicate and get together, then even if two people live under the same roof every day, they are just speechless face to face, which is embarrassing.
Find someone who knows you. Being good to you is just the foundation. Don't be completely bound by it.