He said, "You should try your best to get the best result. Every one is unlikely, and gritting your teeth will become very possible. " Change is difficult, but only difficult. The reward of change can help you find the true value of life and return to your true self. If you want to live a wanton life, you must learn to be restrained, learn to be self-disciplined, and learn to be restrained. Only in this way can you have the opportunity to embrace the natural space and reconstruct your living habits, and you will have a greater chance to realize your dreams, go further and fly higher.
1. Don't let the overall goal limit your unfathomable nature, so more and more people choose to give up the pursuit of "giving up" and say "satisfaction" to themselves in order to "have fun". They stick to the rules in their daily lives and are content with the status quo. What behaviors have you done in your life to limit yourself and frustrate yourself? Take out a pen and paper and write down what you have done to limit your self-ability. Then, think carefully about how you weaken yourself.
It's never too late to start. You don't have to attribute your present situation to the natural environment, bad luck or anything else. It is difficult to see your mistakes and face them bravely, but it is not impossible to change the status quo. Psychiatrist Milton Erickson said: "People come to psychotherapy because they want to change, but they just want to change in their own way, and it is their own form that prevents them from changing." Therefore, if you want to change, you must put it into action, open your heart and accept new things.
I look forward to change, because I am not satisfied with my present situation. Self-limiting people have a neglected dream in their hearts, which may be looking forward to a lifestyle, a professional skill they want to master or a trip or adventure they want. Take that action, analyze and evaluate yourself objectively and calmly, and find your dreams. After all, this is the initial motivation to change the status quo. Although dreams can be various, they must be very reliable, definite and concrete. How can we turn them into big goals, small overall goals, and then achieve them step by step.
Dreams can come true because concrete actions are needed. After the overall planning of the dream is completed, all that remains is to establish essential commands to link this new behavior with specific triggering events. So what is a specific trigger event? As long as there is a queue in daily life, it is the fuse of "impatience". Before that, you may suddenly get angry and then choose to leave. Now, with the specific trigger event of long queue, you can cause a new action, such as memorizing words or reading your favorite novel collection. If you insist on doing that exercise, you can gradually cultivate a new habit. Although it is a small step, it has really changed. This is also a development, which is very worthy of recognition and celebration. Congratulations on your step into a better life.