But books are eternal. Read good books a thousand times, but don't read bad books once.
For books, it is impossible to arrange them by year. Recommend ten books that have benefited me a lot.
1, the moon and sixpence
When I am making a choice, I know what I need to give up at this stage.
The Moon and Sixpence, this book is easy to go to extremes. People you like are treasured and don't want outsiders to know. It seems that only they can understand the man's refusal, and such thoughts are not allowed to be defiled, just as their spiritual world cannot tolerate any derailment and stain. People who don't like it scoff and think that self-esteem and choice are not worth mentioning. Losing sixpence gives up not only their responsibilities to their families, but also their own demands on themselves.
What we like and don't like is as subtle as whether we can have the moon and sixpence at the same time, and this subtlety just supports our daily life and most of our choices, so that we won't succumb to our ideals because of being too materialistic, and we won't make ourselves and the people around us feel uncomfortable because of pursuing perfection too much.
The greatest significance of this book for me is to keep a balance between the material world and the spiritual world in this orderly but boring world and deep but flat time and space.
2. Influence
In this world, either you influence others or others influence you, so you should know how to influence each other.
Influence, like the art of love, is a book, which makes people feel and interesting after reading it.
What's the fun? That is, you realize that you may have been "cheated" by others before and "routine" by others. At that time, you may not understand the truth, but you just unconsciously felt that you were on the boat. Later, you were angry when you learned the result, but there was nothing you could do.
After reading this book, your mouth will become warped. That's it. You will combine your experience of being cheated, improve your routine, be eager to try, and find someone to try. Of course, this may be used by bad people to commit crimes, so it is very important to master these "influential" factors. After understanding, isn't it just a few brain teasers?
The best way to break the fear is to face it directly, and the best way to solve the problem is to go deep into the problem. As long as you understand and know clearly, you won't deviate from your goal.
3. Poor dad and rich dad
This book dispels all the misunderstandings I suffered when I watched the currency war. I know that wealth comes from life.
Although Rich Dad and Poor Dad was written more than 20 years ago, and the specific national conditions are not in line with ours, as a financial and business enlightenment book, its enlightenment is lasting and universal.
I call this kind of book consciousness awakening, which means that you have this kind of consciousness before, but it is not systematic and shaped. After reading the relevant books, I will form my own system through my own thinking and awaken my existing related consciousness. The so-called enlightenment.
I haven't seen the dog Qian Qian, because I think it is enough to practice the advice in the book after seeing my rich father and poor father. The content of rich dad and poor dad reassured me. I may be lucky enough to get rich overnight, but I won't beat my chest because I didn't win the lottery. I may not be able to achieve financial freedom for a long time, nor can I be anxious and upset about improving the living standard of my family and the education level of my children, but I will not give up my confidence in finally changing my financial situation.
People's life is to realize freedom, material and financial freedom, ideological freedom, spiritual freedom, family freedom and finally death freedom.
4. Don't forget why you started just because you walked too far.
Chen Meng said: The meaning of a work is first and foremost the ideological nature of the work. What is thoughtless is timely reporting, not works. The reason why a work becomes a work is because it has subjective thoughts and feelings of the creator, and it can be called a work. So you must look for themes with social content and ideological content. Second, it is not necessarily exclusive. As long as you can express your thoughts, you are exclusive. Third, the works must have ratings and choose conflicting themes. Fourth, the form of the work, I prefer to make it a documentary image, and the image record is more valuable than the text narrative.
The above passage tells everything that a work can bear and express, at least I think so. Works, of course, include not only TV documentaries, but also movies, articles, paintings, expressions, calligraphy, animation, music and performances. Only works with the author's thoughts are real works, and works are subjective. In the end, all problems will rise to the category of philosophy. Philosophy is an eternal subject, and philosophy is the source of world progress.
5. Net: Autobiography of Agassi
After countless times of practice, when you are afraid to hate something, you succeed.
Before reading Agassi's autobiography, I always thought Franklin's autobiography was the best autobiography. After reading Agassi's autobiography again, my mind was shaken. I know it is irreplaceable, but I always feel I have to make a choice. Because you have become yourself, you have always had your own world outlook and methodology. Through unremitting persistence and extraordinary efforts, you have the opportunity to write an autobiography, and you have the confidence to influence the confidence of others.
The characteristics of the two protagonists are completely opposite. Franklin emphasized restraint and self-discipline, paying attention to the external environment, while Agassi emphasized listening to and releasing himself and paying attention to internal growth. The former enjoys the process of growth, while the latter is tired of himself and his career. In the end, they achieved success in the secular sense. This is the richness and liveliness of life.
Just like the last book, give up yourself and go back to work.
Step 6 lead a quiet life
Pursuing peace of life may not be a thing at this stage, but it can bring you goals and motivation in the next stage.
I have written a book review of "The Peace of Life" before. Let's recall stouch's skill of pursuing peace of life.
The first technique is negative imagination. When things develop according to normal logic, what is the worst result we can expect, and how do we accept and treat it, so as to ensure that things are completed according to the established plan. Negative imagination is not pessimism. Pessimism sees more misery and pain in the world. Pessimism often makes people unhappy, depressed and have no confidence in everything. Negative imagination will not only make people unhappy, but also play a role of reverse motivation, thus improving our willpower and endurance in the face of suffering, improving the degree and depth of our enjoyment of life, and making us not take the world for granted.
The second technique is internalizing goals. The goal of internalization is to offset the external goal and internalize the external goal, which makes it easier to achieve the goal. We can internalize the external goals set in advance, so that the goals can be achieved more easily. In daily life, we will set many goals for ourselves at different times and under different circumstances. After making it, we will try our best to complete it. During this period, it is inevitable to encounter various problems. But we need not be discouraged. We should adjust our goals in time and internalize them. Go all out and do your best, so that you won't always worry that you can't complete your original goal, which will affect your mentality and emotions, thus adversely affecting your future work.
The third technique is the control dichotomy. The simple explanation is: don't try to control what you can't control, and be prepared for everything possible. Just as we have to finish important and urgent things first, we should also distinguish things according to completely controllable, completely uncontrollable and partially controllable, so as to improve efficiency, grasp the development trend of things and prepare for various possibilities.
Modern stoics are people who can turn fear into caution, pain into self-confidence, mistakes into consciousness and desires into career.
7. Daming under the microscope
What is the logic of writing an article?
This should be Ma Boyong's latest book with the highest score and the best evaluation. Back to the theme of historical textual research, Ma Wangye is still familiar with it. As an ordinary reader, he also likes this kind of non-hero history books, and his sense of substitution will be stronger. He can not only feel the history of little people thousands of years ago, but also find some interesting flavors from it, which can be both entertaining and learning. Why not?
Therefore, Ma Wangye still writes more history books, the number of novels can be reduced to ensure the quality, and then he can participate in some screenwriters such as Chang 'an Twelve o'clock. I believe that Prince Ma will write better articles on historical research. After all, we are all young. ...
8. treat time as a friend
I know that time cannot be managed. The only thing we can manage is our brains and how we manage our own time.
Before reading this book, I was skeptical about management books, who was on fire in the market at that time. These books are as vicious as success, even worse than chicken soup, because they try to make you control your time. This thing doesn't exist, it's just an instant ruler and measurement given by human beings. Time is also a subjective thing, which can be controlled and managed, but it is also the most difficult to control.
Can you control other people's subjective thoughts? Can you control other people's brains? This seems to be the direction of human efforts-artificial intelligence, but personally, it is not optimistic, but it is a good science fiction movie theme.
When we control what we can control, we will realize the preciousness of time.
9. The Art of Love
Love is not an innate ability, but also needs to be learned and mastered.
Husband and wife are strangers. They have never met for more than 20 years, but suddenly they will become the closest people after marriage. Whether in the legal sense, social relations or economic relations, they are the people with the closest relationship and the most relevant interests.
We didn't learn how to be parents. Before that, we didn't learn how to be husbands and wives. Husband and wife talk more about tolerance, but tolerance is the most difficult to master among all virtues and the most enemies. The best coat of tolerance is love. The so-called love is called love before marriage and affection after marriage. The bridge between them is to learn how to love. Love is both an art and a science, so you can learn. Learning is a science and an art, so we can support it with love.
Perhaps more people don't want to learn about love, but don't know. They don't know how to learn, how to practice after learning, how to consolidate and finally master. This book will tell you how to learn love, how to release love and make your love easy.
10, disintegration summary
I have read this book for almost five years, and I haven't finished it yet, but I know it is great and I will finish it. Because I haven't finished reading it, I will extract a few words from the original text, share them and briefly introduce the book and the author.
1. Idle people understand things better than busy people, and they are profound. Because no worldly affairs will limit their horizons; Born on an eternal Sunday, they will look at themselves. Laziness is a physical doubt and a physical problem.
2. When people can't liberate themselves, they will take pleasure in biting themselves. Melancholy is a dreamy state of selfish psychology; There is no object except self, and there is no reason to love or hate, only to fall repeatedly in vague sadness. Melancholy nourishes everything that corrodes it, and under its beautiful name, it hides the pride and self-pity moans of losers.
At first, we thought we were moving towards the light. Later, when we got tired of walking aimlessly, we let ourselves drift: the earth became more and more unstable and could no longer support us: the earth cracked. No matter how we pursue a sunny destination, darkness will relax in our hearts and bottoms. Not a ray of light can illuminate our landslide: the abyss is calling us, and we are listening attentively, with all the things we once wanted to be, all the things that failed to pull us higher. But those of us who were obsessed with the peak, after being disappointed with the peak, finally fell in love with our own depravity and were eager to complete it.
All evil in the world comes from excessive chaos and vibrant myths maintained by courage and cowardice.