There are many ways to lose weight, such as taking medicine, acupuncture and surgery. Of course, the effect is different, and most of them rebound quickly. In fact, losing weight is a big project, which will last for a long time, and it is impossible without perseverance. The method is inappropriate. Although I lost weight, my body also collapsed.
Any way to lose weight is actually to make people eat less and not eat. In order to be healthy, we have to keep our mouths shut, eat less, not eat less, eat selectively and exercise properly. As long as you persist every day, you will gradually lose weight. Of course, it's not just about losing weight. It's more important to keep it Only by persisting and working hard every day can we have a good figure and a healthy body. To sum up, losing weight means "keep your mouth shut and open your legs". In fact, everyone understands this truth, but why can't so many people stick to losing weight?
Can you believe that one of the main reasons for obesity is lack of love? According to the big data research of weight loss psychology, most obese people are due to lack of love, tolerance and acceptance. If you find that you can't help but want to eat, it's not because you are hungry. These foods are not what your stomach needs, but to fill your unmet need for love. Perhaps more important than losing weight is to find your inner gap. Although seemingly careless, deep down, you need love and protection.
The book "Physical pain is mental injury" says that our relationship with food is a metaphor for our relationship with our mother. The baby's first bite of food is breast milk. We were taken care of by our mother at first, and the experience of love began with breastfeeding. Breast milk is not only a kind of nutrition for babies, but also an oral stimulation for children by sucking their mother's nipples.
Psychologically speaking, babies don't play games, and there are no other forms of entertainment. Oral stimulation is the source of baby's pleasure and a way for him to feel safe.
At this stage of breastfeeding, the contact between the mother and the baby is sufficient, that is, the stimulation he gets is sufficient, and the love and security that the mother gives him is also sufficient, so that the child will be psychologically healthier when he grows up.
On the other hand, if the sense of security gained at this stage is not sufficient, he will be inexplicably anxious and will try his best to seek some sense of security during his growth. Some people have anxiety and obsessive-compulsive disorder. When such children encounter some setbacks, they are also easily stimulated to fall.
Aggressive behaviors of adults, such as smoking, drinking and being sarcastic, may all be due to the insufficient oral stimulation during the infant's breastfeeding period.
People with bulimia like to keep eating, especially when they are stressed or depressed, such as lovelorn and unemployed. The lack of adequate stimulation during the appetite period is also one of the reasons. In the process of eating, in fact, the stomach is no longer needed, but will continue to eat. In fact, it is seeking to stimulate the lips rather than emotional comfort. Getting enough nourishment from the mother emotionally is the foundation of the baby's happiness.
Maybe not every woman pursues thinness for beauty. If you love your fatness and enjoy its beauty, you can be a fat beauty with peace of mind. I am a person who is alert when I get fat, and I am even more disgusted with my weight gain. I always think that figure is more important than a woman's clothes. As I get older, I feel more and more bloated, which not only makes me look old, but also brings various hidden dangers to my health.
But I always thought that women didn't pay attention to their image. After getting fat, the lack of love is an ironclad fact, but I never thought that the reason of obesity, from a psychological point of view, turned out to be the lack of love. It turns out that the lack of love is not the result of obesity, but the cause of obesity.
What gave me a new understanding was the author of "I Slowly Lost 50 Jin". At the age of 50, she lived a beautiful life through the intervention of psychotherapy.
At the age of 37, her weight reached 150 kg, but at the age when she knew her fate, she realized the weight management of less than 100 kg through correct psychotherapy. The so-called "no more than 100 good girls" can really be done in life.
The most important thing is that no slimming drugs, slimming drinks and slimming equipment are used slowly, only a healthy diet and reasonable exercise run through this slimming process.
We often say that losing weight means "keep your mouth shut and keep your legs open". If you don't find your own deep-seated problems, weight loss will rebound again and again, and many people will soon be discouraged by this. They think they may have too strong obesity genes and are destined to be slim. At the same time, they will also deny their self-discipline and self-management ability, and may even doubt life.
It seems that this process of repeatedly competing with weight loss is originally a process of constantly consuming one's will. But in fact, the willpower needed to lose weight comes from our psychological energy. Traumatic experiences that are not properly handled will seriously consume our psychological energy. How can we accumulate willpower to overcome obesity?
Slowly, in his own way, he redefined and understood all this.
She convinced me that losing weight is a woman's lifelong career and the best interpretation of loving beauty and herself.
I slowly explained to us with my own experience that the really successful weight loss is not a short-term weight loss at all, but a long-term weight loss, so as to bid farewell to the obese figure.
But if we understand weight loss from another level, weight loss is not only a simple weight loss, but also can promote your reflection, make you see the truth you don't want to see and solve the problems you dare not face. So obesity is really a blessing that God wants to make you grow up by losing weight. Losing weight is not simple, it is not a battle with fat, but a head-on battle with inner fear.
When you understand the matter of losing weight in this way, you will find that once you succeed, you will not only overcome the fat you are reluctant to leave, but most importantly, in the process, you will overcome your heart and become a person who shines through the wound, and life will become complete from now on. Behind your confident smile, it's not just your slim figure.
In life, we get used to it too quickly. We are always in a hurry to lose weight quickly and satisfy our ideas with various gimmicks. But we were really wrong. The mistake is that we regard "a lifetime" as a "moment".
Losing weight, running a marriage, reading and studying, many things in life are like this.
Slowly use your own experience to prove to us that it is a temptation and a trap to lose weight quickly in the short term.
Dieting often goes wrong, not in the wrong direction, but too fast. Many women with weight problems have a psychological factor that leads to weight gain-they can't tell their own responsibilities from those of others.
For weight loss, the real success is to relax after self-acceptance.
This is a therapeutic effect on the body and mind. It makes us full of self-confidence, and also lets us know the boundaries of our abilities, not demanding others or ourselves. For any goal, including the goal of losing weight, you can show both firm confidence and no rush to achieve, and all achievements will naturally come.
Slowly, it is a person with a story. I didn't expect "Born into a Family" to leave such a deep impression on her. And some of the pain, it is really continued from generation to generation, slowly suffered internal injuries, but also directed at the mother's injury.
If 50 years old is the watershed between the first half and the second half, then the first half is mostly tears and courage, Qi Fei! As the mother of a medical staff, she was deeply influenced by the idea of son preference, and adopted a son to go home when she and her sister were quite old, which undoubtedly made her feel insecure about her two daughters.
I worked hard at that time, hoping to win my mother's attention. But in these years of fighting, I just want to have a good meal to comfort myself besides crying. This girl, who is often too tired to speak, slowly takes all kinds of food as her own healing agent.
Results He was in his thirties and weighed 150 kg. Fortunately, there is a husband who loves her very much. Regardless of her appearance, her husband loves her as always.
Later, by studying psychology, she slowly began to face the problems that had been hidden in her heart and began to solve her inner confusion. She found that the truth that caused her to lose control of her appetite was actually a compensation for her inner dissatisfaction.
Everyone will slowly ask a question, does the husband love himself more after losing weight? The slow expression reveals wisdom and confidence from the inside out: "I feel that I love myself more than my husband."
How do you lose weight without rebounding? I combed it, mainly in the following aspects:
1. Learn to betray. For example, for many years, in order to get my mother's approval, I tried to be consistent with my mother in figure and seek a heartfelt approval, so obesity became an inertia. Now, she realizes that being so fat is not good for her health, and at the same time, she has found the deep reason that keeps her heart suffering. She began to learn to betray, betray her inner inertia voice, and no longer seek to be similar to her mother by being obese.
2. Take 10,000 steps every day. It takes at least 90 minutes a day. But this process is also a process of in-depth communication between her and her husband. Every day, two people walk together and chat. This time of walking became the most intimate time for two people to get along. Walking together for health, this way, is worthy of every couple who are willing to love each other to get along well, learn and learn from.
3. Thanksgiving Diary. If you think carefully about happiness in life, it will be easier to forgive others' mistakes. Slowly in the gratitude diary, I recorded that I was weak and sick since I was a child, and my mother took care of me day and night. Once I needed a blood transfusion, my mother insisted on giving her a blood transfusion slowly. Looking back now, it may be because my sister and I are not in good health, and my mother decided to adopt a brother. Maybe she is really worried that her daughter can't take care of herself in the future. When she slowly wrote down her gratitude to her mother, she found herself really relieved.
4. Have a good sleep. After trying to let go of the burden in my heart, I know that my relationship with my mother has been tense for many years. Maybe it's just that my mother doesn't know how to love herself After all, my mother is also a first-time mother, and she was injured when she was a child. I can't continue this vicious circle. I think a lot, sleep better and better, and my body and mind are getting healthier.
5. Eat lightly. This is actually the most important thing. It is best to advance dinner to 5 pm every night, which actually means that there will be more than 12 hours of fasting from 5 pm to the next day. Please remember to refuse midnight snack. This is very effective for burning fat. If you have one day a week as a light food, the effect is excellent.
You know, if you don't control losing weight from the source of diet, it will basically end in failure.
In addition to controlling meat, eating reasonably, preparing light food as soon as possible, concentrating on eating and experiencing delicious food while eating. The most important thing is to keep yourself busy and try not to stop craving for food. Slowly, it was through fasting that I really lost my body fat.
Not only that, I found that I gradually copied my successful experience to others, and achieved remarkable results in weight control and psychological healing.
This is really good news for people who lose weight repeatedly but get fatter. I sincerely hope that everyone who read this article can slowly collect the book "I lost 50 Jin", and I believe it must be the best self-help guide for natural weight loss and psychological healing you have ever encountered.