? The self-introduction of the senior surprised me. My "eight hours away" is to sleep, go shopping and complain about being tired from work. I also want to do something meaningful through sports and reading, but I am always tempted by the sweet temptation of sleeping and shopping and surrender again and again.
Take the initiative to ask the senior sister for the secret of self-discipline, and the senior sister directly prescribed a prescription-"the road that few people take", saying that all the treasures about self-discipline are in it.
? The Road Few People Walk is the painstaking work of American psychologist M. scott parker for many years, and critic Phyllis called this book written by "the hand of God". Everyone will encounter all kinds of conflicts and problems in life, even suffering. The author thinks that the attitude and practice towards problems are the watershed of our success and failure. Many people choose to escape, such as me, seemingly relaxed and happy, but in fact they are going downhill in life. Only brave people, such as senior sisters, will choose the road that few people take. It seems that they are moving forward in a difficult and painful way, but in fact they are walking uphill in life. The more you go, the more mature you are, and the more successful you will be.
Life is a difficult journey, and the journey of mental maturity is quite long. In The Road Few People Walk, M scott parker gave us four tips: self-discipline, love, growth and faith, and grace. By making good use of these tips, we can explore the nature of love, learn to love, learn to be independent, and make us better ourselves and become more competent and considerate parents.
? The author says that mental maturity cannot be achieved overnight, and it is a difficult journey. Then we also follow the principle of gradual progress, starting with deliberate self-discipline.
? Once, I arranged in detail for 24 hours like a class schedule, and then, like a student who carried out the school's orders, I was busy with the next class after one class. I think this is the so-called self-discipline.
The author said: the so-called self-discipline is to take the initiative to ask yourself to bear the pain and solve the problem with a positive attitude. Keywords: initiative, suffering, problem solving. I have endured the pain in class, but I am not a student who actively answers questions. I am here, my heart is in Korea, and nothing has been solved. I just do my daily work and go through the process.
? True self-discipline, like seniors, should awaken the soul with dreams and goals, and promote actions with passion and self-demand. My "self-discipline" stems from my comparison with others, and my actions are only to cover up my anxiety.
The Road Few People Walk summarizes four principles of self-discipline: delaying satisfaction, taking responsibility, being loyal to facts and keeping balance. It is not difficult to be a self-disciplined person, and children aged 10 can master these principles.
(a) Delayed settlement
? Delaying satisfaction means not coveting temporary comfort, suffering first and then sweet, and resetting the order of happiness and pain in life. If we eat birthday cake, we can enjoy a sweeter taste after eating cake and cream. When we come home from school, we finish our homework first and then watch TV, so that we won't be scolded by our parents.
(2) take responsibility.
Frankl, the author of Living the Meaning of Life, said: Responsibility is the essence of human existence.
We must face up to our own problems, which is the basic premise to solve them. It is of course useless to avoid them and think that "this is not my problem". It is also unwise to expect others to solve their own problems. If I complain that I am tired from work, I always think that this is the problem of the company's task overload, and I have not reflected on my working ability and working methods.
(3) Be loyal to the facts
? The author made a vivid metaphor: our concept of reality is like a map. With it, we can understand the topography, landforms and gullies of life and guide our own way.
? We take this map with us on the road, just like we use G .PS navigation when driving. The clearer the satellite is to the ground, the better the navigation performance. Similarly, the clearer we know the facts. The more accurate the life map is.
What effect does being loyal to the facts have on our self-discipline? As mentioned above, true self-discipline awakens the soul with dreams and goals. Only by being loyal to the facts can we find a goal that suits us and make the "dream" not a "dream".
(4) keep balance.
? Maintaining balance means establishing a flexible restraint mechanism. Take anger as an example. If you just control yourself blindly and be a good person who never gets angry, you will eventually be bullied, suppressed or even destroyed. If we fly into a rage when something happens, we will become an "explosive bag" and let others stay away. We should be good at expressing angry emotions in different ways, establish a flexible emotional system and improve emotional intelligence.
? The first step is to objectively analyze yourself and determine your navigation goals.
? This goal must be determined somewhere, such as losing 20 Jin, being admitted to Tsinghua Peking University, and earning an annual salary of1000000. The clearer the goal, the more you will know how far you are from it and how big the obstacles are, and then you will think about what action to take to solve it.
? The second step is to break the whole into parts and work out the action plan for each stage.
? For example, the senior, her ultimate goal is to build a personal brand. Then in the first stage, she will read two thousand words every day, keep running every day, and link others with words and running. In the second stage, she contributed articles on various platforms to improve her writing ability and expand her influence. Running made some like-minded friends, and they began to form running groups to further expand their influence. In the third stage, publish your own books, borrow the power of the Youth League, and establish a personal brand.
? The third step is to carry out the action with passion, and don't forget to reward yourself every time you complete a small goal.
? Postponement of satisfaction allows us to learn to be bitter before sweet, and to maintain a balance, so that we can't just restrain ourselves. For example, our parents, because of poverty, scrimped and saved, but did not enjoy life. Therefore, we should know how to balance happiness and sadness, and appropriate relaxation is to save strength for the next action.
The fourth step, keep in mind the responsibility, actively respond to challenges, be a person with growth thinking, and let self-discipline begin our journey of mental maturity.
? We are bound to encounter all kinds of difficulties and challenges on the road of self-discipline. We are completely free to choose to give up halfway or face difficulties. People with a sense of responsibility and growth thinking will say, "I will be responsible for my dream to the end." This stumbling block is so funny. I learned a lot from it. " Even brave and confident people will cheer: let the storm come more violently.
Harvey Ike said, "If you only want to do the easy things, life will be full of difficulties, but if you are willing to do the difficult things, life will become easy." When we face "two roads in the yellow forest", like the poet Robert? Frost is the same-"I chose the less traveled one, so I walked out of this different journey." The road to success is not crowded, and success only belongs to mature people. Scott parker's wisdom is "weak water is 3,000", but I just scooped a spoonful. Let's grasp these four skills and continue to grow!
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