This book is the first novel of Tara Westerfer, a doctor from Cambridge. It reached the best seller list in The New York Times in the first week. It's been 80 weeks, and it's still at the top of Top 1, and the sales volume in the United States has exceeded one million copies. Therefore, the author was named "Person of the Year" by Time magazine.
What is the magic of this book? I still can't help but open it curiously.
After a week, I finally finished reading this book that swept the major networks. As a book sweeping the whole network, it is worth reading.
0 1 book introduction
Flying to your mountain like a bird is an autobiography. This book tells the story of a girl named Tara and her family. I prefer to emphasize the word "from a family", which means that your childhood was tied to your parents, your brothers and sisters, and it became "flesh and blood" in your memory and even in your mind.
Tara didn't go to school before 16 years old, but received family education. My father is an arrogant and irritable worker. He always thought that the government would kill them and the Millennium world would be destroyed, so he took his seven children to work nonstop and store food. Tara's mother was a midwife before the accident. The car accident prevented her from continuing this work, and her mother began to extract essential oil, claiming that it could be treated by tapping.
I admire the author's ability to heal the wounds caused by his family after several years and have the courage to write these words with calm brushstrokes. Judging from what I have read, if I grow up in such an environment, I will definitely become an ordinary rural woman as cowardly and ignorant as Audrey.
The father insisted on hurting his children again and again. His son Luke was injured in the fire, Sean fell from a height and hurt his head, and Tara almost died. Driving without rest in the middle of the night caused a car accident and hurt my family; The same lesson will happen again. No matter how big the injury is, I will never go to the hospital, but send it home for my mother to treat. Because my father hates the government system and thinks that God can cure them.
Brother Sean is a profiteer, abusing his sister and his girlfriend with words like "prostitute". When Tara clashed with him and made him unhappy, he put Tara's head in the toilet, beat her in the street and humiliated her. Finally, he even threatened his sister with a blade. I can't imagine that this is something that brothers and sisters can do.
Mother was the only one who didn't hurt Tara physically. She will only echo her father and cover up her brother with words and actions. Seeing that her daughter was bullied like this, and even watching that the whole family might be in danger because of her father's decision, everything she did was obedience.
Fortunately, in such a family environment, Tara finally "flew" out of this mountain through education and opened a completely different life path.
"No matter who you become, no matter what you turn yourself into, that's you. It's always in your heart. Not in Cambridge, on your own. You are gold. Going back to Brigham Young University or even to the mountain in your hometown will not change who you are. That may change other people's view of you, and even change your view of yourself-even gold will look dull in some light, but it is only an illusion. Gold has always been gold. "
02? How to face the pain of being born in a family
Not every home is a warm harbor. Not all mistakes can be forgiven.
"Over the years, my father and I have been in constant conflict and have an endless battle of wills. I thought I had accepted all this and our relationship. But at that moment, I realized how much I expected to end the conflict between us and how firmly I believed that we would become father and daughter living in peace in the future. "
Family attacks and injuries are never caused by family members, so you can step back, compromise and give in. Each of us is eager to have a happy family and love our parents. But you can't decide your parents and family.
Angel, an actress, talked about her family and thought of her mother, who left her in high heels at night. The breakdown of her parents' marriage also made it difficult for her to have the courage to start an intimate relationship.
Most children's problems may come from families. Fortunately, with growth, mature thinking, internal cultivation, external environment luck, and family background, the influence ratio can be reduced. If you can clearly see how you are carved in Native House, you can better get out of the shadow of Native House and create the future you want.
About education
The English name of this book is Educated, which is in line with the theme of this book. The other brothers, Taylor and Tara, got a better life through education and reading.
I especially like the description of Taylor: "Taylor stepped into a void." I don't know why he did it, and neither does he. He can't explain where this belief comes from, nor how it emits bright light to penetrate the uncertainty of darkness. But I always guess that music comes from his mind, from hopeful tunes that the rest of us can't hear, and from the secret melody that he kept humming when he bought trigonometry books and collected pencil scraps. "
When Tara first entered the university, she didn't know Holocaust English, and she didn't know who the teacher and other students knew by default in class. But with her study and research day and night, she can have an equal dialogue with thinkers and scholars he never knew.
"I don't know what caused this change, and why suddenly I can communicate with the great thinkers of the past, instead of simply being in awe of them." This is the power of education and learning.
It is this power that leads Tara to get farther and farther away from home step by step, and has the courage to confront her father instead of giving in as she did when she was a child. Reading is the most important and even the only way for too many poor students to change their fate.
The past is a ghost, illusory and emotionless. Only the future has weight.
The past is a ghost, illusory and has no influence. Only the future has weight.