I don't know why she is crying. I don't know if it's because she lost her job at the age of 28 or because she just broke up recently.
I really want to comfort her, but I don't know what to say. But I want to tell her: whatever it is, believe me, everything will be fine.
Actually, crying doesn't change anything, but I think crying is good.
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I always thought that "crying" was synonymous with the weak. Later, I discovered that people who dare not cry are weak.
After all, adults' incompetence is not crying, but embarrassing themselves!
I told myself from an early age that I couldn't cry, so I hardly cried. Don't cry when criticized by the teacher, and don't cry when you fall and get hurt. After watching the touching movie, all the girls cried, but I still didn't cry.
Sometimes I wonder if my consciousness has imprisoned me into a cold-blooded person.
However, it is also possible that I have not experienced any heavy wind and rain, and later I became more and more fragile. I cried many times when I thought of three years after graduation.
What impressed me deeply was the time when I just graduated from work, because I cried at work.
I am super stupid, careless and sloppy. When I first graduated, I worked as a sales coordinator in a five-star hotel. You need to send an email to report all kinds of hotel conditions before work every day. However, the first time I sent an email, I forgot to bring the attachment. ...
You know, the people who received the email were the top management of the hotel and the general manager of the hotel.
Well, this stupid thing is not only a shame for ourselves, but also a shame for our manager.
Our manager said that I wanted to recruit girls at that time because they were more careful. I didn't expect that I was more careless than boys.
Moreover, it takes two or three times for such a thing to last a long time. I was not careful. The hotel was busy. I think my brain capacity is very small. Either forget this or forget that, and nothing can be done well.
So once I really couldn't hold back. On the way to work with Anna, we spit as we walked.
At that time, I remember crying in the street, saying that I wanted to cry if I was unhappy, regardless of who I loved.
As Yi Shu said in Absolute Dream, it is good to cry, and crying is a symbol of healing.
Don't say, it was really cool after crying, and my mood relaxed at once.
In fact, most people in this society are actually duplicitous. They do things against their will just because they are afraid of being laughed at by the world.
Me too, I didn't cry because I was afraid of being laughed at, but when I let go, I found that I was not afraid of anything.
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The impression of crying for the second time was after coming to Beijing. During that time, I cried every day, and my pillow was wet every day, which almost made me depressed.
When I first came to Beijing alone, someone told me: Wow, you are so brave. I admire you. A girl is wandering in Beijing alone.
I ...
Actually, it's not that I'm brave, but I'm fearless, and I just don't know how tired and dangerous the outside world is, so I came here without pressure.
what can I say? I came to Beijing to pursue my so-called dream. But I was deeply hit, and all the jobs I wanted to go to were rejected because of my low education and lack of experience. I was thinking, how ideal? This is a lie.
Some people say that when you open the door of mourning, others will send you a window of mourning. At that time, the world didn't like me, and there were many reversals. In a word, the world I see is terrible, and the world I write down from my hands is also terrible. I don't believe in society and the world.
So, I have been denying myself. I can't. I can't.
So, I cry every day, every day. I called Huang Er and cried. I cried at home alone. Sometimes I cry loudly, but I don't care if others will hear me.
Actually, I think it's good. Tears are good. Crying is very useful. When I cry, I look like a farmer who has experienced drought and finally waited for a rainstorm.
A study by the University of South Florida in the United States found that crying can obviously improve the mood of nearly 90% of those who cry, and crying can better comfort themselves and improve their mood than antidepressants.
So, if you want to cry, don't hold back crying.
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It's okay, just cry, no matter what will pass.
Listen, I'm fine now.
Actually, I want to say that crying is really not shameful. It is a shame that we dare not face up to our vulnerability. As long as we stand up after crying, it doesn't prevent us from continuing to fight monsters.
The process of crying is the process from weak to strong. Because you don't know how strong you are until you crush yourself and stick it together.
Tears are good things. They can wash away sadness and sadness and are worth cherishing, because one day, you really can't cry anyway.
Don't be afraid, crying should not be the exclusive reputation of children, nor should it be the exclusive noun of the weak. It should be a noun to vent emotions.
I remember there is a saying in "Meeting Unknown Oneself":
Negative emotions are like darkness that cannot be banished. The only thing you can do is to bring light.
If you are sad, even if you don't cry, you should try to drive away the darkness and fill your heart with sunshine.
Maybe there are some ways to help you vent your emotions.
Try to take a deep breath and go out for a walk when you are angry; When you are sad, go to karaoke and play games to vent; Run and travel when you are sad; When you are desperate, have a big meal and encourage yourself. You have to believe that there is no hurdle.
No matter what you do, as long as you don't break the law, let your emotions shift and make yourself happy, then congratulations.
Some people say that life is just a game that makes you happy. Finally, you can't say who envies who.
Anyway, just make yourself really happy!