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I seldom persuade people to divorce, because the old saying goes, "It is better to tear down ten temples than ruin a marriage."

But after listening to a reader's story, I hope she has the ability to choose divorce and is not afraid of divorce.

Let's ask this reader to smile.

Xiaoxiao gave birth to a daughter, who was just born and slept most of the time.

In the fourth month after delivery, the unit asked her to go back to work.

As a last resort, there has been no aftercare smile and I can only go to work.

At that time, children couldn't sleep well at night, and they had to get up almost every 1 hour to feed. Besides, she has to get up at least ten times every night, change the baby's diapers and scrub her body.

Due to lack of rest, between work and taking care of the children, I was as busy as a bee and laughed myself out.

I can't cope with it, so I have to resign, she thought, and I can finally take care of my children with peace of mind.

When the child is 9 months old, his sleep habits are slightly stable. He only needs to wake up three or four or five times a night, so he can sleep for two more hours. He feels very happy when he smiles.

In order to reduce the pressure of mortgage repayment, when the child reaches 1 year old and can basically sleep until dawn, she chooses to come back and re-enter the workplace.

However, taking care of children has become an insoluble problem, and both of them need to work.

As a last resort, her husband called his mother to help it.

But there will still be barriers between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law

At that time, due to Xiaoxiao's low salary during the probation period, Xiaoxiao went home to do some private work to increase his income.

During the day, my mother-in-law helps to look after the children, and at night she smiles and goes home. She was so tired that she fell asleep as soon as she closed her eyes and couldn't take care of the children.

Smile is not a steel robot, she can't be in a state of blood all the time, and sometimes she is tired.

Just because this incident triggered conflicts between husband and wife and family disputes, Xiaoxiao also shook his confidence in this marriage.

Her husband is distressed by his mother's age, still helping to take care of the children, and is distressed by his mother's health.

He accused Xiaoxiao of leaving all the tasks of taking care of children to his mother, saying Xiaoxiao was not a qualified mother.

Emotionally, the more you talk, the more excited you get. You have to make a pretentious joke and call it not mom. ...

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This completely angered the smile. Why is she so hard on herself if it is not to relieve the pressure of mortgage?

This so-called husband has never paid anything for his family except going to work. He only talks.

Seeing the child crying and hungry will only make him smile and nurse the child quickly. When he sees that the child needs a bath, he will only let his mother bathe the child. ...

He has never done anything for children, but he is an expert at accusing others of doing badly.

However, is this kind of person a "bad marriage judge"?

Say with me with a smile:

"It's already so difficult to get married and have children. Do you still need to make this man unhappy?

Just because I want to earn more money for my family and help ease the pressure of mortgage, just because he thinks I don't take care of my children, he has wiped out all my efforts ... No one has ever asked me if I am tired ... "

Talking about the details of this marriage with a smile, I burst into tears.

Others can't understand how bitter her heart should be. Perhaps, it is too disappointing to save enough.

The months after giving birth to a child are the most difficult stage for every novice mother.

My husband sleeps like a pig every night. He doesn't know how many times the child will wake up at night, and he doesn't know how much milk powder to give him.

When the child needs to scrub his body, the husband doesn't know how much the temperature of the water should be adjusted.

When Xiaoxiao chose to re-enter the workplace, the husband failed to actively assume family responsibilities. But criticized Xiaoxiao for not doing the role of "mother".

However, he seems to forget that the child is not laughing alone, and the child is also his. He did not play the role that a "father" should have.

When the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law were in conflict, he didn't play the role of lubricating oil and didn't adjust the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Instead, he just accused his mother of smiling and making her tired.

However, he may forget that his child's mother is also very tired and needs a rest.

Such a man has no infidelity, no domestic violence, and what hurts women most is inaction.

You know, a marriage always needs two people to pay for each other and understand each other in order to be together for a long time.

Smiling, she felt distressed that her husband was supporting his family alone and the pressure of paying off the mortgage was great, so she chose to find a job as soon as possible and was eager to come back.

It's a pity that I am sincere, but I haven't been cherished by my husband.

She loves her husband so much that he not only can't give her sincere feedback, but also gives her the heaviest blow-scolding her for not being a mother.

For such a deep-rooted marriage, I only give Xiaoxiao one suggestion-to cultivate a strong heart and have the confidence not to be afraid of divorce.

When you are strong, you can do it: no longer regard others as a lifeline, and no longer feel sad because of other people's gossip.

As a mother, when children are young, they need to make a lot of efforts. While loving children, please love yourself.

After all, you are also the child of your parents, and they can't see you so sad.

As parents, we always grow up by groping, we will feel sad and moved, and more importantly, we will gain happiness in raising children.

We came to this world not only to see the sun, but also to see the smiling faces of children, which is the purest scenery in the world.

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