All kinds of childhood injuries add up, and almost 75% people have been injured in childhood.
We have natural adaptability. What can affect us is the original story, which is called flash memory.
Some of them are because the brain has amygdala. When something happens, there will be emotional disorder in surgery. This kind of injury will become a secret and enter the subconscious.
Jung said: When your subconscious doesn't enter your consciousness, it may be your destiny.
Paul suffered from school violence, and everyone isolated her and refused to let her play with him. One day, a classmate transferred from another school played together, and both of them had a good time. Then the next day, the children said I couldn't play with you, and if I played with you again, they would bully me.
Then he was isolated, and psychological abuse may be more serious than physical abuse.
Then one day after school, a classmate hit him in the eye with a stone and lost a lot of blood.
When his mother said that she felt particularly angry and bullied by others, she felt angry. This has never happened before. All he had before was to please grievances.
When this anger comes out, it is the beginning of healing. It will make people have a sense of existence, recognize the reality and the existing situation, and realize their own value.
Start practicing running+jujitsu. When someone is bullying him, he will subdue his companion, but he won't hurt him.
He likes to wear Spider-Man's clothes, three or four at a time, which makes him feel safe.
Exercise effect: moderate pressure is not a bad thing.
Mara has a psychotic mother. When she comes home from school every day, if the house is in a mess, she will know that her mother is ill. My home is clean, so I know my mother is not sick today. Dad is not at home either. Stay at home with a psycho mother all day.
He learned to run away. I just stared at something and kept looking, which means I was completely unconscious. No matter how my mother shouted and shook, she didn't respond. Enter an escape state.
Of course, excessive evasion will bring paranoia.
Competition between brothers. Jessie is always bullied by her sister, but her mother dare not do so. There is no way to help him. He learned to read minds. As soon as his sister comes back from opening the door, he can decide whether to open the door or lock it.
There is an experiment in which children in orphanages and normal children are put together to do puzzles. Children in orphanages do puzzles faster than normal children. Why? Because they are good at reading minds.
Sensitive people can identify other people's anger, danger and sense motive earlier. In the end, Jessie became an excellent business consultant because she has a clear insight into the needs of customers. At the same time, it also left a sequela, that is, squinting all day. I spent my whole life half asleep and half awake.
Elizabeth's brother is ill, and then he often gets sick. His parents never take part in any of his activities, and then they have no time to face his needs because they can't take care of them. Last time my brother didn't get sick at the graduation ceremony, and then my parents and my brother went to his activities together. He played the violin on the stage, when my brother suddenly fell ill, and then the whole school was watching. He felt particularly humiliated and angry. Why can't you find someone to visit him at home for a day? Why did he take his brother? Why can't you care about me?
Mother said a word: "You are luckier than him, you can control yourself."
Studies have shown that one in nine people will face the death of their parents before the age of 20.
Bereavement will make a person precocious, and after the death of parents, it will make a person more self-disciplined and more successful.
According to research, half of those successful people are orphans.
Facing 1000 people, you will naturally put on a mask and integrate into this society. Facing a person, you will fall into a state of nothing to say. Because he doesn't know who he is, what he wants and what he wants.
Michelle was sexually assaulted, and whenever she was in the mood, she would go to the cemetery. This is alienation. This is a way for him to heal.
Some studies show that:
60% of sexual abusers are acquaintances.
35% of sexual abusers come from their own families.
On the surface, he may not have taken away her virginity, but he took away his normal feelings. What is truth and what is feeling?
The best way is to improve the quality of interpersonal relationships.
Spider-Man
Ways to start your life again: change your name, change your surname, change your city, get a degree and so on.
When you change to a new environment, your brain is busy understanding the new environment, so there is no time to think about the old environment.
There is a law graduate from Stanford University who never chats with people. As long as he talks about knowledge, he avoids it. Because he has never been to school since he was a child, he knows nothing about the bottom knowledge. Later, I met a professor and taught him law, so I was admitted to Stanford University.
When it comes to five continents and maps, he is helpless.