At the end of each year, people will exclaim that time passes too fast. Why hasn't the goal of the beginning of the year been reached, one third of it has been completed, and one year is over? Why can't we always reach the goal we vowed to set at the beginning of the year? Why are we eager to change the status quo, but there is always no movement? Why can't our goals always lead us where we want to go?
If you are confused about this, if you are eager to make your goals obey your own management, and if you expect to change, then the book Success, Motivation and Goals can help you.
Heidi, author of Success, Motivation and Goals? Grant? Doctor of Social Psychology, Columbia University, Halverson; He is currently the deputy director of the Center for Motivation Science at Columbia University. He has published academic achievements in authoritative academic magazines and heavyweight media such as BBC and Harvard Business Review for many times. Heidi in the book? Grant? Holvo questioned the traditional concept of success, based on rigorous and reliable science, revealed the basic theory of human motivation for readers through a large number of inspiring experiments, and solemnly pointed out that all people can achieve their goals better.
Why are we always giants of thought and dwarfs of action? Why do we feel that change is always difficult? Is it because our self-control is not firm enough? Then why can a successful man with strong self-control like Obama walk all the way to the president but can't quit smoking? What are the factors that affect success?
Heidi? Grant? In his book Success, Motivation and Goals, Halverson pointed out that in order to achieve success and goals, we need to understand the following three aspects: the principle of setting goals, adopting different ways according to different kinds of goals, and how to achieve goals.
First, the principle of setting goals
1, determine the destination.
Many people set various goals for themselves every year. For example, I want to lose weight this year, study hard and make progress every day, and want to get a raise and promotion. But many people's goals only stay at these "I want" levels and have not really decided what to do. Setting goals like this is like a joke you often hear. You ask God to win the lottery every day, but you don't want to start by buying lottery tickets.
Therefore, the first principle of our goal setting is to determine the destination of the goal, and then formulate specific and reasonable goals through the destination. Replace "I want" with a concrete and reasonable plan. For example, if the New Year's resolution is to lose weight successfully, then we must implement the plan to how many kilograms we want to lose and how to achieve it every month and week.
2. Understand your goals and behaviors.
Everyone's behavior and goals can often be understood and summarized from many aspects.
For example, ask you, what is the list?
We can answer "A" to clear our minds and "B" to write something.
And the answer often represents our way of thinking. People who answer A may tend to understand their behavior in an abstract way of thinking and pay attention to thinking about "why" in daily events. People who answer B are concerned with what they are actually doing.
With the thinking mode of abstract thinking "why", we can associate a small matter with a bigger meaning and goal, which will make us think about whether it will be interesting for us to complete the goal. Adopting this mode of thinking will often make us more motivated; Understanding the thinking mode of behavior with specific details "what is it" often helps us face difficult and complicated things and makes us pay more attention to feasibility. We can try to change different ways of thinking when we do something, such as adopting "why" thinking when we are proficient, giving us more motivation and thinking with simple "what" when facing difficulties, thus helping us achieve our goals.
Step 3 think positively
In the process of achieving our goals, we are often frustrated by various problems, and our beliefs often affect our progress. In this case, in the book "Success, Motivation and Goals", the psychological control law is proposed to set goals. The so-called psychological contrast law is to look at the goal with an optimistic attitude and think about what needs to be done in a practical way to achieve the goal.
To sum up, the first step in making a plan is to implement our own goals. Whether you are losing weight, making money or getting promoted, you should make practical steps for yourself. Then in the process of implementation, I think about what I have done from time to time. When encountering obstacles, learn to look at the goal with an optimistic and positive attitude.
Second, different goals take different ways.
When we know how to set goals, the second step is to divide the types of goals, understand the goals and adopt different ways to achieve them.
Performance or
Our beliefs drive us to focus on different goals. In our work and study, some people try to show their intelligence and win praise from others. Psychologists call this "performance" "performance goal". However, when some people do anything in life, they often don't care much about their grades, but about whether they have made progress in the process of learning. This type refers to the willingness to develop or improve a skill as "being good at goals".
The goal of "performance" focuses on performance, which gives us strong motivation and brings achievements; Pursuing growth with "progress" as the goal will usually make us enjoy the process more and not give up easily.
Aggressive or defensive
In the process of achieving our goal, some people look at it from the perspective of "gain", while others look at it from the perspective of "loss". Psychologists divide these two models into "offensive goals" and "defensive goals" according to different angles.
Positive goals are expressed in positive emotions, such as our pursuit of more pleasant goals. For example, we work hard to make money so that we can go out and have fun. Defensive goal is a way of thinking of "preparing for a rainy day". Pursuing the goal is to work hard because of fear of losing, unemployment and not being able to pay the rent.
Aggressive targets prefer risk, paying more attention to speed than accuracy, while defensive targets prefer caution.
No matter what kind of goal, there are advantages and disadvantages, which will accompany us all our lives. Therefore, in the process of implementing the goal, we should learn to think and change different strategies from time to time to help us achieve the goal.
Change your thinking and achieve your goals
When the goal is simple, it is beneficial to adopt expressive performance goals; Adopting a proactive strategy will make people more confident and optimistic (if you want to focus on progress, try to ask yourself what you can get from it and how these benefits are closely related to your expectations, dreams and ambitions)
When there is no progress in the goal, start thinking about "why", look at things from a macro perspective, and remind yourself of the importance of the goal; Or adopt a "defensive" goal and seriously think about the consequences of failure.
When encountering obstacles and the road ahead is bumpy, set a specific and clear goal and put it into action (such as how many pounds to lose weight and how many pages to read); Turn "why" thinking into "what" and focus on specific actions that need to be implemented.
When we strive for a "defensive" goal, pessimism brings us strength; Can resist temptation and interference; Often use the thinking mode of "progress" instead of "performance" to deal with difficulties.
Third, simple methods and effective actions.
The last step is our implementation stage. Plan your target navigation according to the following instructions!
After understanding the principle of setting goals, adopting different ways according to different kinds of goals and how to achieve them, let's refer to Heidi. Grant? Halvorsen put forward the method in Success, Motivation and Goal to become a giant in thought and action.