We all know that there are three kinds of yearning circles: bd, D thinking and yearning. Today, I'm going to talk about my personal understanding of DS, just personally ~ I don't want to do macro theory ~

Thinking is the master; Submu I think that ions, domination and obedience. Broadly speaking, we usually understand it as a psychological game, which is different from desire. So what is an intellectual game? D What's the difference between wanting and longing? That's what I want to say today.

If we want to discuss the difference between the two, we have to talk about how to distinguish the sources of pleasure. The pleasure of longing comes from physical abuse, pain within a safe range, XR and so on.

What about D-Si?

If we can narrowly understand the pleasure of longing as whipping, then the pleasure of D thinking can be said to be the whipping person, or even a deeper level, that is, the person who does not need whipping.

I don't agree that appearance is necessary for any attribute. Appearance as a plus item is inevitable, but not necessary. A good doctor is a doctor without a scalpel and a doctor with a kitchen knife. A good dom is dom without whip and suit, dom is DOM wearing a hurdle vest and big shorts and holding a cattail fan in his hand.

So, how to tell who is a good dom from the hurdling vests and shorts of the uncles in Hutongkou? Personally, I don't want to draw generals from short people, and a good internet doesn't need to go to the alley to see what's going on.

As for how to tell whether a dom is good or bad, we will see you next time and return to this center: what is D thinking and what is dom.

As we all know, D thinking is a mental game, so how is it reflected when it is implemented? In fact, I still can't escape the word game, conditioning, discipline and guidance, which can all be synonymous with D thinking. It can be the control of making rules or the guidance and instruction in life.

I want to say something when I see someone here, but you still haven't made it clear. According to you, our company also has it.

Indeed, D thinking and desire are more often combined, so is there a purely spiritual D thinking?

Yes

I have a friend, let's just call him Z. Z and her son Zhu are purely spiritual servants. Z is not even dom in the eyes of ordinary people, and even his own sub is not called his own master.

So why can we be sure that they are D-thinking?

Z's control and teaching of her sub does not exist in physical and behavioral aspects. For example, Z will not ask her sub to abstain from sex or kneel down, and her sub is basically not interested in thinking about P, k9 and other projects. This is a kind of fit, and their mutual needs are suitable.

Secondly, the Excellence of both sides, especially the Excellence of Z, has the ability and responsibility that dom should have. She doesn't sexually assault, gentle guidance and strict teaching work together. Z pays attention to cultivating sub into excellent people, and her sense of responsibility makes every sub who has followed her finish her work well.

There is a sentence in Z that impressed me: D is impressed-thinking is the joy of life, but the joy of D thinking is not life. I trained sub to be an excellent person, and she can live well without me in the future, that is, meeting each other late. If she gets hurt because of me, because I didn't do well, it's my fault.

So, isn't there a pure spirit of D thinking? Of course there is.

I also have a friend who can be called Y. We have the same idea and different expressions. Y is a typical slave owner whose love circle and yearning circle are separated, but she is also a good dom.

Y family's mode of getting along is more relaxed and ordinary, and D's relationship with longing is more ordinary. Y is more outstanding than any of us, whether dom or ado.

As for why she is dom instead of ado, the difference is that she is not a person who only enjoys the happiness brought by domination. On the contrary, she paid much more for each submarine than she could get in return. Y is not only a master but also a teacher.

So, what is dom? The answer is obvious.

However, in any case, you must be a good person before you can do dom well. Dom has the responsibility to equal the power delivered by sub. Ability first, action second.

For D thinking, each family has its own experience, there is no standard template, and no one is the best dom/sub. Suitability is the most important thing

Mermaids and mermaids are mixed up on the internet, so keep your eyes open. If you meet the wrong person, the consequences can be big or small. Before you meet a responsible dom, you should be responsible for yourself first.