The 35-year-old Xia Xia gave birth to a girl with her second child. For her, this is quite gratifying. I feel very happy at the thought of dressing up the two sisters beautifully in the future.

But the husband and mother-in-law at home are unhappy. The husband is the only child in the family, and the mother-in-law has always wanted a grandson.

When Xia Xia was pregnant, her mother-in-law kept urging her to check her sex. She angrily refused, telling them that both men and women would choose to have children, and there was no need to check.

In fact, she had hoped to have a boy in her belly, so that the family could stop and the boys would be more favored. However, reality is reality after all, and the cold eyes of her mother-in-law and husband make her feel cold.

After 7 days of escort leave, my husband went back to work in other places.

My mother-in-law doesn't care much about her children either. She will always be a daughter-in-law who has no grandchildren and is in debt to her family. Nothing at ordinary times just sigh, innuendo makes Xia Xia extremely uncomfortable. Later, she asked her husband to tell her mother-in-law to leave, and she took the baby clean.

Every day Dabao goes to kindergarten at a naughty age, and she is also adapting to the role of her sister.

When Bao Xiao sleeps, Dabao always makes trouble secretly. Once, Xia Xia found that her sister pressed a pillow on her face, and the little guy was crying all the time.

She couldn't help it and gave Dabao a good beating. Dabao was crying, and Bao Xiao was frightened by her sister's crying and began to cry.

Xia Xia's mood collapsed in an instant, and tears could not stop flowing. Looking around, there is no one around, only her and two children.

She doesn't understand how life has become like this.

At the beginning, I was also the second child I wanted. I swore to myself that I couldn't ignore Dabao just because I had Bauer.

The truth is that every day is basically given a small time. Dabao grew up instantly. She can play with dolls for two hours alone, and seldom get praise and caress from her mother.

Xia Xia apologized to Dabao and asked her why she did it.

Dabao said aggrieved, "Mom, I really don't like my sister. You should hold her every day and never hold me again. " Maybe she hated this sister in her heart and took her mother away.

Xia Xia only thinks about himself all day, and there is nothing else but a chicken feather life and endless fatigue.

She suddenly felt that she was a fertility machine and lost herself. In the final analysis, having children is a woman's own choice.

My husband is still busy at work, and it doesn't matter much to him whether he has children or not. The figure is not out of shape, the career is not interrupted, and interpersonal communication has not changed. The most direct thing for her is to change from a female elite in the workplace to a domestic nanny, and there is no salary accounting.

Beauvoir once wrote in The Second Sex:

This society does not have low requirements for women. Bringing a baby at home has no fixed income every month, which is equivalent to being supported in the eyes of many people. I won't let you become a yellow-faced woman, and I'll invite you to the kitchen.

30-40 years old is the day when most women give birth to children, and it is the most exhausting, nervous and confused stage in life. Maybe if a woman doesn't plan well, life will never turn over.

For men, it is a good time for their career to rise, with high spirits and rich experience, without too many obstacles.

At the age of 40, women are tortured and men are nourished by the mature breath of time.

I met a woman who gave birth to four children in a row, and her mental state was very poor, while her husband looked quite young standing by.

Women lose themselves, and in the end, men will lose you.

Men's dislike begins with women's giving up!

Xia Xia said, "I have studied for so many years, and I am still a graduate student. In the end, I lived this life. What's the point of reading? " Did I fail knowledge, or did knowledge fail me? "

My friend pointed out with a burst of blood:

Later, with the help of friends, Xia Xia began to adjust his mentality. She knew the status quo could not be changed, so she began to change herself. Even if you are a full-time mother, you should be an excellent full-time mother.

She made herself an amateur study plan. Xia Xia originally studied design and was able to do some private work. Parent-child learning plan and feeding growth plan were made for Dabao and Bao Xiao respectively.

Control your life in your own hands and try to make it move forward according to your own ideas. Xia Xia said that this is a slow and gradual road, and it is also a road to self-discovery.

Just like there is a famous saying on the Internet, "No matter what your life trajectory and status are, as long as you feel that you are living for yourself for a moment, that is enough."

It's not terrible to lose yourself, but it's terrible to never get it back.