During the Spring and Autumn Period, a famous wise man passed by a paddy field. He saw a farmer laboriously pulling two cows to plow the field, so he casually asked, which cow of yours works better? The old farmer didn't answer. When he came to the field, he tied up two cows and fed them. Then he came to the wise man, turned his back on the cow and whispered to the wise man, that guy wagging his tail works very hard. The wise man is puzzled: I just asked you, why didn't you say something? Why are you whispering to me now? Are you afraid that someone will hear you? The old farmer said with a straight face, yes, I'm afraid that the cow next to me will hear me praise others and give it a cold shoulder. It can be detected in your eyes, and then this guy will be in a bad mood and work badly. In fact, animals, like people, are willing to be praised by others and by everyone.
When we are teachers and parents, can we also consider the feelings of our children like old farmers? Imagine a sentence: "Students, Li Moumou, the worst in our class, scored more than 70 points in this exam. It seems that our class has really improved. " Can it really inspire them? "The speaker has no intention, but the listener has a heart". Who the hell is hurt now? May we sincerely appreciate and inspire more children's confidence and courage instead of inadvertently creating an unnecessary pain and suffering.
The second educational story: Education begins with respect.
A woman who came back from Germany told a personal experience, which is quite enlightening for us to educate our children. One Sunday, she took her five-year-old son to the park to play. The son surprised his mother by trading a "paper plane" for an electric "car" of a German child. Because that paper plane is only worth 5 cents at best, and this car is worth at least 20 yuan. At first, she thought her son was lying. When she found the owner and the mother of a German child, the German mother said, "The car belongs to the child and it is up to the child." She also said, "If your son likes it, he can have this car. In the future, I will take my child to a toy store and let him know how much this car is worth and how many paper planes he can buy, so that he won't do such stupid things again. "
Respect children's choices, don't interfere, don't stop, and don't simply criticize children's practices, but take effective measures to educate children in time. This respect for children is lacking in our education. Respecting children's right to choose does not guarantee that every choice of children is correct, but they are still young! In this process, the child will certainly fall down several times and take detours, but the child's choice ability is improved through repeated attempts. Let's be less blind and rude in education, more rational and scientific, and make love more profound and artistic.
The third story of education: let education have more choices and wisdom
When dealing with four "scamps" who like to catch shrimp after school, the famous special-grade teacher used the following methods: Teacher Yuan knew in advance where they caught shrimp and found that "shallow stream" was not dangerous. So when the four "scamps" stood in the office with their heads down waiting to be criticized, Mr. Yuan just smiled and said to them, "You like shrimp, that's good! Aren't the great scientists Darwin and Fabres fans of insects since childhood? Can any of you tell me where shrimp likes to rest? How did you get it? What is the best way to catch shrimp? What is the shrimp like? What color is it? What's on its head? How many feet are there? Tail ... "The rogues are blindsided and just hold on tight. Who will pay attention to what it looks like? Seeing that the children were all blindsided, Mr. Yuan patted them on the shoulder and said, "I wanted you to introduce them to the whole class tomorrow, but you ... well, when you catch them again, look carefully and think about it, and then come back and tell me, okay?" The children looked at each other and ran away.
The children are busy catching shrimp when they come home from school. If it falls into our hands, it may infect their parents! On the left, "undisciplined" and on the right, "not paying attention to safety" generally make children cry! Because all we care about and think about is the nature of "not going home to catch shrimp after school", as for the danger of children catching shrimp, we seldom care about whether bad things can become good things. At this point, Mr. Yuan got his wish. He guided children to observe, think and explore through their special "complex" with prawns, and taught them how to play more meaningfully. Education is like this. Sometimes, as long as we know more and think more, we may have more choices and wisdom.
The fourth educational story: the collision of two kinds of thinking
One day, a rich father took his son on a trip from the city to the countryside to show him how the poor live. They spent a day and a night in the poorest family on the farm. After the trip, the father asked his son, "How was the trip?" "Great!" "You should know what the poor are like this time?" The son replied, "Yes, I know". "Can you describe the difference between the rich and the poor?" The son thought for a moment and said, "There is only one dog in our family, and there are four dogs in their family;" Our family only has a pool leading to the center of the flower bed, but they have an endless river; At night, we can only see a few lights in our garden, but there are thousands of stars in their garden. Moreover, our yard can only park a few cars, but their yard can raise hundreds of cows. " When the son finished speaking, the father was speechless. Then the son said, "when I grow up, I want to live as rich as them." "The wealth in children's hearts is different from that in adults' hearts, just as the happiness in children's hearts is different from that in adults' hearts.