What should I do if I suspect someone other than my husband?
Because the appearance of doubt usually leads to the final development trend of alienation, when you feel restless, you can choose the method of detecting the traces of cheating after marriage to determine whether the boy betrayed you. At this time, boys mainly have the following performances. He gradually pays attention to his diet or gradually loses weight. He gradually bought new clothes; From combat shorts to crotch guards, even annoying; The material of clothes and trousers has changed from pure cotton to yarn. When the electricity comes, he will be very anxious and try to speak quietly when answering the phone. He often makes excuses to work overtime, especially on Sundays. He gradually found a reason to stay out of it. When he travels abroad, he always asks about the itinerary, plane flight or restaurant materials. If you ask him where to go and when to go home, he will yell at you, and he will say that you can't contact him at all. He will go out alone on weekends, usually for some bad reasons. If you ask him when he will go home or where he will go, he will be very unhappy and angry. He gradually hid bank credit card receipts and phone bills. He kept his trip and the people he heard very secret. If you mainly show some interest in his private affairs, even if it is very daily, he will think it is an invasion of his personal privacy.
What should I do if I find my husband cheating?
First, keep calm and treat it rationally.
You can't guarantee a certain sanity. Because a person who sleeps with himself all day is connected with others. Hidden for so long, the thought of it will make you sick and angry, so it is obviously unrealistic to keep your face hidden. But being irrational doesn't mean you can fly into a rage and then announce his crime to the world. A woman with high emotional intelligence should understand that it is difficult to solve the problem by losing her temper and asking for pity. I can only push him into the gentle village of San Xiao for comfort and intimacy, so he can only go further and further. Therefore, even if you find out that the other party is having an affair, you don't have to become a bitch at once. On the contrary, we should understand the current trend as rationally as possible. How long has the husband been cheating? To what extent? What do both sides want? Only by mastering the situation can we prepare for the next step.
Second, concentrate on analysis.
If you believe that your lover is really cheating, although you are angry, this is not an angry situation. Now you need to calm down and analyze why your husband is like that. In most cases, boys cheat because of marriage and love problems. If you find that this is also your problem, you should correct it immediately, so that he will think that you also have the heart to atone. If this person still loves you, he will stay with you when he sees your compromise and change.
Third, regain territorial sovereignty.
If you casually forgive your husband for cheating, it will inevitably seem too cheap. Don't be dominated by him, you will be very tired. You should make a decision as soon as possible without being modest, otherwise it will only make your situation worse. You need to reduce or even stop investing in him, and you won't obey him any more. Then we can regain our territorial sovereignty.
Fourth, be sure to be sensible.
Because if you cry, you lose the most important person and the most important influence. This man is her husband, and this influence is her boldness and tolerance as a wife. After the incident, the problem has not been dealt with, but it will make things out of control. Whether boys choose to make up or break up peacefully after cheating in marriage, they should consider their own problems from the beginning. What if you don't like your husband? Communication is a bridge between each other, because everyone gradually grasps each other from understanding to familiarity on the basis of communication. Therefore, no matter what you finally choose, you need to seriously think about what you did wrong, and then seriously correct it. It is very likely that this will not happen in the future.