Many people blame this problem on weak perseverance, but how many things in this world really need to be achieved by strong perseverance? The vast majority of things that are obviously beneficial to us are actually very simple and can be done without strong perseverance. Take the simplest thing, go to bed early. Is it really that difficult? Many things that are beneficial to us are actually not difficult at all, such as brushing your teeth immediately after meals, putting things back after use, and so on. Why not?
First, whether we really want to do this, that is, how much we attach importance to this matter. The decision to sleep or play, and the choice of reading, playing, running or lying in bed every day, all come from our sincerity to do it. For many people, it is necessary to take the postgraduate entrance examination, lose weight and quit smoking. In fact, that is to say, it is not really taken as a serious or important thing to do! Those who really intend to go to bed early and get up early should naturally put down what they are doing and go to bed when it is time to go to bed. It's that simple. People who really want to exercise to lose weight can always find time and suitable exercise methods every day, so they will not always postpone their plans on the pretext of being busy. Because people who have been exercising for many years are not all idle people, maybe they have more important responsibilities. People like Putin and Obama have time to exercise, so as most ordinary people, they are certainly not as busy as they are.
Second, when we face the choice, whether we obey the feeling of the moment or the call of reason, that is, whether we can be self-disciplined. Whether you really want to do something can only be tested when you are faced with a choice. In life, we are always faced with choices. Get up and run or stay lying down? Do you go out with makeup or go to work without makeup? Do you cook breakfast at home or at a street stall? Review the written manuscript again or hand it in at will? Do you study or play mahjong in your spare time? Do housework or stay in bed? Eating with friends or playing ball? Learn English with mobile APP or brush your circle of friends with Ge You? We need to make choices all the time. There is a chicken soup that we often hear, "Live in the moment". This sentence is to ask people to pay more attention to the feelings of the present, enjoy the life in front of them in time, and not worry too much about the future. This has become an excuse for many people to choose temporary comfort. If you want to lose weight, you should refrain from being tempted by delicious food. If you just stay for a while and eat first, then you can't lose weight and you can't achieve the goal of losing weight. During my college years, when I should have studied hard, how can I graduate from school if I just enjoy the present and immerse myself in games, entertainment or various external temptations? How can I have an ideal job waiting for you? One should not only care about the immediate comfort, but also live in a suitable future, grow and progress, and meet a better self in the near future.
Third, because most of these things are very important and not urgent, even if they are not done once or twice, they will not affect major events, so I always want to do them later. Most things that are beneficial to us are not so urgent when making specific choices. For example, get up early and go to bed early, run and keep fit, review the lessons of the day every night and so on. Every specific thing seems so trivial, so insignificant, it is simply insignificant. But it is these trivial choices that determine the direction of every day or even every moment, even the smallest step. This requires us to restrain our greed at all times, give consideration to our goals and dreams in every choice, and let ourselves live according to our expectations.
Fourth, many things that we know are good for us are not immediate, that is, these good things can't be reflected at once, and what we do can't be positively motivated in time, which makes people give up easily. For example, people who lose weight can't lose a few pounds of meat immediately after three days of continuous exercise; On the contrary, eating a big meal will not immediately gain 3 pounds; Even for students facing the college entrance examination, watching a movie once in a while to relax their brains will not affect too many achievements. People who insist on running also need to adjust their rest and so on. It doesn't matter if you deviate from the direction occasionally, as long as you keep the correct direction as a whole. But always failing to see timely positive feedback will often become the reason why many people can't continue to do what they should do, that is, they can't manage themselves well.
Having said so many reasons, in the final analysis, it is still a question of how to control yourself. How can we learn to control ourselves step by step and continue to do things that are beneficial to us?
First, be honest with yourself and make sure you really want to do it.
Seriously think about your sincerity in doing something. For example, do we really have to do the so-called big thing of losing weight in the postgraduate entrance examination or the so-called small thing of going to bed early and getting up early every day to brush our teeth? In the final analysis, it is a question of whether a person wants something from himself in a certain aspect, which is the basis for determining whether he can be self-disciplined. Before all actions begin, we need to be clear about why we are doing this. It is also necessary to find out your current situation, determine your goals according to your own reality, and how long it will take to achieve the expected results or develop good habits. Only by clarifying these problems, will we not be eager for success and will we not be anticlimactic. This requires careful thinking and understanding of ourselves, which helps us to have a clearer goal every time we make a behavior choice.
Second, we must clarify specific tasks and continue to act.
After the goal is clear, the second step is to split the goal into specific tasks, and then it is time to act. Although this step does not need too much explanation, it is often the most difficult step in real life, because most people will give up at this stage. At the beginning, we may need to tell ourselves the benefits of doing so and discipline ourselves every time we make a choice of specific actions. If self-discipline is not enough, it is suggested to join a related circle to realize mutual supervision and reminder. I go to yoga classes every day, often because I have girlfriends together, so I can urge each other and form a good atmosphere. There are many activity groups on the mobile phone now, so you can choose relevant circles to join. Seeing that there are many people with the same hobbies doing meaningful things together in the group, you will have more motivation involuntarily.
Third, we should determine the appropriate goals according to our own situation.
Because there are too many things that are good for us in this world, we can't do all of them. As long as the most important thing can be done well, it is good. Greed is bad. We can't overestimate our abilities.
Fourth, we should exercise our self-discipline from easy things.
Of course, the most important thing should be done at once. If you don't have good self-discipline, you can exercise yourself from simple and obvious things. From my personal feeling, if you want to exercise your self-discipline, you can start with what is easy to see and see. I suggest starting with fitness. Because fitness is relatively easy to see your progress, it is easier to find a circle. Continue to do one thing that is good for you, gradually develop the ability of self-discipline, and then do other things will feel less difficult.