First, the sea of suffering is boundless, and turning back is the shore.

Why not be confident? Why does Xiuchi feel heavy?

Why do you dare not seize the opportunity when you can do it?

Why are you so passive in interpersonal communication?

Why do you panic so easily?

Where do these psychological factors that affect success and wealth come from?

In fact, most of them are from childhood!

So self-growth is the foundation of success. There are internal changes first, and then external development.

Self-growth reading club is to help you fully understand and resolve the shadow of childhood, straighten out the relationship with your parents (no longer morbid), let yourself grow up, stand up and do everything well!

Second, the reasons for building a group

Why set up a book club with the theme of self-growth?

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Because after psychological counseling, I found that although the problems of many help seekers are different, they are basically the same, that is, the self-subjective consciousness is too weak or unstable.

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People who are too weak dare not make their own voices and do what they want to do.

People who are emotionally unstable will become afraid and hesitant at the slightest sign.

Sadly, some people have been living in a false self. There are still many people who have become hollow people and paper people ... who should have lived a colorful life and become very poor and sad.

So I hope that through this reading club, with the help of these classic books, we can better understand ourselves and make our self-awareness stronger.

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I will let everyone know that your fragile self basically comes from childhood.

I will make you fully aware of how many "weaknesses" of your "self" are formed, make you realize the absurdity, and correct some of your "weaknesses" just like correcting an outdated map.

I will make you aware of some shortcomings of your parents and get rid of their cold state. Jay will let go of himself and understand that it is not because you are not good that his parents treat you like that. I will also realize that the thoughts and words and deeds of those abandoned miu are not worth inheriting and should not be passed on to my children.

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I will make you realize how wonderful it is to live a self-responsible life and get out of the plot!

Third, the evaluation of the first group of friends.

Let me review the first issue of Self-growth Reader. The first phase is now in progress and the effect is very good. You can see the feedback from the following four group friends:

Chen Zhifei

Cost engineer

In the reading group, Mr. Zhang breaks down my own problems of different latitudes into problems of various books.

Based on my reading experience, I found the answers to these questions raised by my teacher.

Then the reading teacher shared his own experience on this issue, realized the differences between us and found out the reasons for the differences.

Finally, the most important thing is the teacher's comments on my answers. In the teacher's comments, the teacher integrated my previous answers, summed up and integrated my questions to form an organic whole, and then commented on my latest questions.

In my previous reading experience, I kept discovering my own problems and constantly improving myself. I believe that after reading all the books, I will become a brand-new self!

Because the inner trauma is serious and deep,

I found the voice of self-demand in "Solution from Self-demand", but I can't solve it myself.

I found my own imperfection in accepting my imperfect self, but I can't accept my own imperfection either.

I didn't begin to accept myself until I found my childhood trauma in Never Get Injured in Childhood.

Helen

housewife

The most correct decision I made this year was to join the teacher's reading club. Although I have read some of these twenty-four books before, I found that there is still a big gap between reading a book with a teacher and reading a book by myself.

Reading with the teacher's questions, then actively thinking about my answers, sorting out the answers and writing them on paper, is a great progress for me, so that I can think more clearly when reading, instead of just reading casually, and then express my approval in some places where I feel the same way.

Before each sharing, the teacher will give his thoughts on the problem first, and I can learn a lot every time. I found that my point of view is still very single, and the teacher's breakthrough point is also very fresh to me every time, and then I can benefit a lot from watching the teacher seriously comment on each student. Therefore, every sharing can make you think a lot and gain a lot.

Lanrence

Child psychologist

Before joining Zhang's self-growth reading club, I registered in Weibo for 8 years, posted 12 Weibo, and experienced a long period of self-isolation.

I had been paying attention to Mr. Zhang for a long time before I joined the group. Once, everyone asked about the price and prepared to do email consultation. As a result, halfway through the email, I found that my troubles were gone. This gave me a deep impression that words can heal themselves. I used to like writing, so I joined this group.

Since joining the group, I have sent 14 long articles, not counting short articles, with an average of more than 3000 words each, that is, the total number of words is more than 40000. I haven't written for a long time because I haven't written for a long time. I think there are three reasons!

1, this is a paying group, which inspires me to act, otherwise the money will be wasted. This is the same reason that psychological counseling must be charged. After this group experience, I began to be particularly willing to pay for my study.

2. Teacher Zhang's sharing and comments in the group are a kind of warm companionship. Several times, I just read the messages he left me, and my eyes burst into tears. This companionship has given me the strength to promote my own growth.

Teacher Zhang's knowledge is too deep! Many of his ideas are original, and every article is done in one go. I'm busy at work recently, so I can't guarantee to finish reading it. I used to read every article carefully. His ideas and writing are great! Worth learning!

With Mr. Zhang's ability and popularity, all delegations will raise prices next year, so don't wait any longer! Join early, benefit early and grow early!

Zhang Qianqian

media worker

When I first entered the university, the class teacher told me that there are four levels of college students' learning: knowing that they don't know, knowing that they know, not knowing that they know, and not knowing that they don't know.

Entering the self-growth reading club, the biggest feeling is to find a way out between knowing and not knowing.

Self-growing reading will make me feel that I have met each other for a long time. Through study, I understand the root of my weakness. I didn't dare to face it before, but now I have courage, overcome difficulties and realize the improvement of my mind and cognition.

Learning the teacher's list of books, the sense of inferiority gradually disappears, the sense of superiority is difficult to rise, and the mentality is naturally stable-each of us is the sum of past life experiences. How a person becomes what you see today is traceable. The wicked are pitiful, but great men are not unattainable.

I feel like a yogi, and suddenly I feel that life is like this. There is nothing to be afraid of and nothing to be proud of.

See yourself clearly and understand others. The most important thing is to understand how your mind map is drawn and how to plan your future path, so that you can combine your talents with your dreams and get the greatest gains.

In the process of studying, I feel that life is more relaxed and happy than ever before. I told myself again and again that the future is bright and promising. All this is due to teacher Zhang's carefully designed psychology book list. Every book is like a mirror. Through introspection, we find the crux of many problems in ourselves.

When I first got the list of books, I felt that there were many overlapping contents in these books. A closer look, I realized that I was guessing. The content of each book is very targeted, which unlocks our hearts from different angles in different ways.

If the list of books is compared to pills, the teacher's assistance is like a doctor instructing you how to take medicine to be completely cured.

When I saw the teacher's schedule, I wanted to buy books for myself. I'm glad I wasn't so hasty. I paid for the teacher's guidance and gained a lot!

I believe that after I finish this course, I will have a thoroughly remoulded change. If you know me in the past, you will marvel at me now, a sunny and confident face. At least by studying psychology, I found a strong internal driving force and successfully lost weight. This achievement is enough to make people happy. Self-growth book club course is highly recommended!

Fourth, can slow reading fully absorb the essence?

I have read many articles titled "I have read hundreds of books a year, and I recommend these ten books to you". The most common ones are 100 and 300, and many are 700 or even 1000. God, I don't think it's impossible. I just think that such reading is often a superficial experience. After reading it, it's over, leaving no trace in my heart.

Today, when speed reading is generally advocated, I still insist on being a slow reader. It doesn't matter how many books you read, what matters is how much you absorb. What's changed in your heart? How many books have you read that can be used in reality?

Eat slowly and read slowly. If you don't finish reading it, you will have to collide the contents of the book with your own experience, which will lead to a chemical reaction and become your own experience. Then, you can combine knowledge with practice, test your feelings with real life and form a new understanding. This is the real purpose of reading.

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For example, when I read Feibao Newsletter for the second time, I wrote more than 50,000 words of reading comprehension combined with my own experience, and later rewritten the experience and understanding of160,000 words. When I was reading the first part of The Road Few People Walk, I also wrote more than 100,000 words of reading comprehension, and then applied them in my life. Learn and use. Although I read slowly, I gained a lot.

Fifth, the arrangement of reading groups.

For the above reasons, I ordered 24 books for the first phase of the self-growth reading club.

But in practice, I found that 24 books are still too many. It's just that everyone finds reading and discussing is still not enough. Because a book is very thick, it is not enough to share it about five times. But 24 books a year, two books a month. If you share it many times, everyone will be too busy.

The book I recommended to you is not suitable for speed reading. They should read slowly and remember their childhood, so it's better to write them out.

So learn your lesson. In the second period, only one book and one movie are exchanged every month, so that everyone has enough time to read and enough energy to absorb the essence of the book.

When we learn to fully absorb the essence of a book and repeat 12 times, we will learn to skillfully absorb the essence of other books. That is, everyone can start.

In the second issue, each book will be shared eight times, each time sharing a different theme. For each topic, I will list a few thinking questions in advance for everyone to think about. You can write the answer.

After each topic sharing, I will choose ten representative answers from everyone's answers and make comments (if I want my answers to be commented every time, I need to pay an extra thousand yuan).

In addition, the last thing I share with each book is that everyone should write a book review according to their own life experiences and feelings. I will try my best to put forward detailed opinions on this review.

Sixth, the topic I shared in the first issue is:

Some virtues that you have always been proud of may be a lock that binds you.

What are the critical voices in your heart?

Do you crave recognition?

Will you refuse others?

What are you most afraid of? Why are you afraid of it?

What are your thoughts that bind others?

What qualities are you most afraid of being discovered by others?

When a person and his parents can't communicate or have a bad relationship, who do you think is responsible?

Have you ever felt guilty? Did you make others feel guilty?

Do you live for yourself?

Are you a person who is good at moral help? Or is it often praised by parents' morality?

What do you really want in your heart? What did you do for what you wanted?

Who has hurt you the most in my life?

How to treat the five stages after setbacks?

Are you popular?

How to understand the sentence that life is endless?

How to treat delayed gratification and procrastination?

Are you a person who can take responsibility for yourself?

what is love ? Do you love yourself?

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7. Similarities and differences between self-growth reading club and writing autobiography class.

Similarly, both of them need to recall and write about their childhood experiences.

There are two different places:

1, the self-growth reading club focuses on childhood (the harm caused by parents or teachers), not on self-growth. So everything is from our own point of view.

Autobiography writing classes also include prebiography (family history, that is, grandparents, uncles, aunts, uncles, cousins), biography (all aspects of one's growth history, including childhood), and postbiography (all aspects of one's situation ten years later).

That is, autobiography is more systematic and comprehensive.

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2. Self-growing reading groups, everyone's feelings and answers after reading, and my comments are all carried out in groups. Although outsiders can't see them, group friends can see them. That is, you can see the feelings of others, even the history of blood and tears. Others can also see your feelings after reading and your history of blood and tears.

Autobiography writing class is one-on-one email communication. You can read autobiographies written by others besides me. Others can't see your autobiography.

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Both have their own advantages. If you are not so popular and are not afraid of exposure, you can gain some strength from the group friends by attending the book club and see that they are also struggling out of suffering. Brothers and sisters in the same boat can hold a group to keep warm.

If you are popular, you can sign up for an autobiography writing class, just the two of us for one-on-one communication.

If there is enough time, it is also good to report together. In the first issue, many group friends were also group friends in the autobiography writing class.

In this way, some insights from the reading club can also be written as autobiographies, which will enrich the contents of autobiographies. The two are not contradictory, but complementary.

Eight. Price:

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Let's look at other people's book club prices:

Another example is this:

There is also a book club, two or three thousand a month. In contrast, the price of our group is still very affordable and close to the people.

Autobiography writing class is half a year, 3500 yuan.

Self-growth reading club is an annual issue, 3000 yuan.

Why is my group a year, not a month?

Because I don't think Rome was built in a day, nor was it formed in a day, and naturally it can't be changed in a few days. It must be soaked repeatedly for a certain period of time to melt the hard shell covering the heart and face the inner pain directly, so as to gradually heal.

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Crash method is not suitable for self-growth!

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Pay before may 3 1 and get a 10% discount. The top ten applicants also gave my project discussion group a one-year deadline.

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Time: June 10.

One more thing, you can rest assured that you can get a full refund if you don't think it's worth it within three weeks of joining the self-growth reading club.

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So if there is demand, you are welcome to register actively!

About the author:

Zhang, psychological counselor/family education tutor/first recommended author of psychological topic/founder of autobiography writing class (member of Henan Writers Association).

Committed to family education, help introspective parents realize that children can thrive in a relaxed and happy environment full of love and freedom!

Committed to helping people improve their mental maturity and gain peace of mind; Improve the happiness index in marriage and work.