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Many people say that women are realistic and want a bride price and a house when they get married, so men are unrealistic? How many men have different criteria for choosing a lover and being married?
It is true that many boys tend to prefer high value when they are in love, but when they get married, they hope that the other party can keep the house and have a good family at most.
However, girls nowadays are neither stupid nor sweet. The point is, when you are in love, you think the girl you choose is the best or the most suitable for you, but it is not necessarily when you get married!
I don't know if you have ever encountered such a situation. When I was young, I always thought that all my choices were right and others were wrong.
But when people reach middle age, they suddenly look back and find that the stupidest person is themselves.
Perhaps this is the so-called growth, life is like this, especially love.
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Classmate Hu is 32 years old and still single. Not long ago, she was forced to lose her job again and is still looking for a job. Ah Fu will regret his love choice as long as he meets his classmates for dinner, but what's the use of regret?
After graduating from college and working in the company for a period of time, Ah Hu found it difficult to seek a higher position because of his lack of professional ability, so he resolutely resigned to go to graduate school.
Fortunately, Alfred was admitted to graduate school in one fell swoop, which made him feel that he would have a very bright future in the future. He was full of confidence.
During graduate school, two girls expressed their affection for Ah Fu.
Although the girl was born in the countryside in February, she has a high face value and a gentle personality. Another girl, A Xing, has a good family condition. She is the only child in the city, but she is a little arrogant and has a little temper.
Although a friend suggested that Ah Fu choose A Xing at that time, first of all, although Yue Yue has a high face value and a gentle personality, he lacks an independent mind, which always makes people feel unpredictable. On the other hand, A Xing is a little short-tempered, but relatively easy to get along with, with a simple personality and good family conditions.
A Xing's looks are not as good as Yue Yue's, but they are not much different. However, Ah Fu doesn't like A Xing very much. He prefers the month and the month.
Perhaps for boys, Yan value is the first choice.
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Ah Fu soon established a relationship with Yue Yue. In this relationship, Yue Yue performed well in all aspects, and was also very good to Alfred's friends. After graduation, I am going to talk about marriage, which is the beginning of all kinds of moths.
First, Yue Yue's parents offered a bride price.
My parents said, "It is really difficult for our rural families to train a graduate student, let alone a girl. Our family spent all their money and energy on Yue Yue, so Yue Yue's brother and sister didn't go to college. A girl who didn't go to college in our countryside received a bride price of 200 thousand. Our family goes to a graduate school every month, and we don't want bride price money. Let's buy a house for Yue Yue's brother in the county. "
Secondly, the monthly physical examination shows that it is a carrier of hepatitis B virus.
Ah Fu can't accept this. Yue Yue said she didn't know at first, but once she let it slip. It turns out that Yue Yue knew it as early as in college.
Ah Fu feels cheated. If two people can be honest with each other at first, maybe Ah Fu will accept it because he likes Yue Yue, but deliberately hide it, which makes Ah Fu feel very uncomfortable. Moreover, when Afu's parents learned about this incident, they resolutely disagreed and thought that it would have an impact on future generations.
Finally, Yue Yue's personality is not very good.
Many times Yue Yue is good at camouflage and knows how to please others and Ah Fu. But when there are substantive problems, Yue Yue's true colors are exposed, such as forcing Ah Fu to buy a house for his younger brother in the county seat and forcing Ah Fu to ask his parents for money.
Afu disagreed, and said that he would tell everyone and Afu's mentor to expose Afu's initial confusion and abandonment.
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Although they haven't broken up for the time being, they also have a great bad feeling with each other. One feels cheated and really doesn't want to continue this relationship. The other party thinks that the other party is not kind and gives up.
Alfred asked his friend who opposed it and why he opposed his love with Yue Yue.
The friend said meaningfully, "A person is always perfect in front of others. Nine times out of ten, this man is not a good man. Yue Yue is too flattering to others, and it makes people feel unpredictable to conceal his true character and real purpose on weekdays, so nine times out of ten people are calculating. On the contrary, a girl like A Xing, with a simple family and a simple personality, seems to have a temper, but she is actually the best to get along with. "
Ah Fu regretted it, but he couldn't go back.
At the beginning, Ah Fu chose Yue Yue because her face value and height were better, and another reason was that Yue Yue voluntarily confessed, but A Xing didn't say anything.
A Xing doesn't seem to be too sad, but keeps on studying. He has nothing to do with selfies and travel, and his life is wonderful.
Ah Hu continued to look for a job after graduation and worked in a foreign company. They have been together for months and months, so they drag on. But after a long time, the two were tired, and after several years of entanglement, they broke up.
When we broke up, we were very unhappy and exhausted all the good feelings.
Afu's career has been greatly affected by emotional problems. While other students are working hard for their careers, Ah Fu is busy solving emotional disputes.
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A few years passed quickly, and Ah Fu showed cowardice at the class reunion. On the other hand, A Xing became more and more energetic, got the top 500 OFFER, got married and had children, and gave birth to two babies. At every party, her face is filled with a happy smile. Both parents love and support the young couple and help with the children.
Ah Fu finally feels that he chose the wrong person in those years, and sometimes he feels vaguely that if he chose A Xing in those years, would he have a good life?
However, there is no regret medicine in the world, and Ah Fu can never go back to the past and choose again.
Many times, people always think that their choices are right and others are idiots, but they don't know until middle age that they are all wrong.
The relationship between Ah Fu and Yue Yue is really regrettable. Ah Fu was initially attracted by Yue Yue's clever personality and high value. But it never occurred to me that personality may be disguised.
A Xing, who had no choice at first, developed well a few years later, and his career and family were doing well.
A Xing's starting point is higher than Yue's, so A Xing won't hide his true character for the purpose of Yue Yue. Although I didn't attract Ah Fu at first, it doesn't mean that other boys won't appreciate girls like A Xing. So A Xing will meet the right person and run the family well.
Ah Fu finally feels that he didn't choose that one at the beginning, and now he regrets it. There is regret because there is no choice. But Alfred forgot that he was still young, and everything could be found from the beginning.
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Everyone may have been in love twice or more when they were young. It is not easy to expect a relationship to enter marriage.
Some people, if they miss it, they miss it. Although they regret it, they can't complain. After all, this is your first choice. The best attitude towards yourself is to let go of the past, start over, try to make yourself better and meet people who are more suitable for you. What I fear most is that I can't get out after a failed relationship.
Moreover, instead of thinking too realistically about what kind of object is suitable for falling in love and what kind of object is suitable for getting married, it is better to look at your own conditions first, and then follow your heart to see if the other person is really suitable for you and really likes the person in front of you.
If when you are in love, you only pay attention to each other's tenderness and face value, regardless of others, then don't regret it later.
You know, everyone has to take risks and consequences for their own choices.