To tell you the truth, I feel a little guilty about asking such a question. Although my daughter is very close to us, I know in my heart that we are still far from the standard of qualified parents, not to mention that we have made many mistakes in the education of our children. When we face our children face to face every day, there are also many shortcomings in the way we communicate with her. However, a guilty conscience is a guilty conscience, but I really want to know what the child thinks and how to answer it. I asked carefully. Sure enough, my daughter's answer embarrassed me: "Let me think, I can't say it well." Probably afraid that I would be sad, she gave me a look and said, "Or-just be your daughter." Then I glanced at it again, as if asking if I was satisfied with her answer, and then I bowed my head and did her thing. Although I am psychologically prepared, I still feel a quiver when I hear my daughter say it herself-if there is an afterlife, my daughter will not choose us as her parents again! Surrounded by a strong sense of loss and disappointment, I was sad for a while and began to reflect on my own shortcomings. With the help of my daughter, I listed the following points on the paper: 1. Don't always compare other children with me, and don't always tell them those excellent cases publicized in reality or online newspapers. Instead, they say to their children, "You should learn more from others …" "How can they do everything, and how are their parents educated …" and so on. This statement hurts our own children invisibly. She thinks she is always inferior to others. She thinks she is "bad" in the eyes of her parents. She felt that no matter how hard she tried, she still couldn't meet her parents' "requirements". She often feels sad about it ... it's terrible. If this continues, the child's self-confidence will be lost! What if one day she gives up on herself? I am most worthy of reflection on this, mom. My daughter gave me a string of nicknames in one breath-I often use them as a "model" for my children. The father of the child does better than me in this respect, and learn from him. Don't compare with others, let the child compare herself, compare last week with this week, and compare her today with yesterday ... 2. Don't want to call her "study" just because she is "uncomfortable" when she is idle. Give children a space to relax, not to mention that sometimes playing is also a kind of learning. Aren't the clothes made by those children for dolls very creative? 3. Participate in children's dramas. I am better than my husband in this respect, but I only want to read extracurricular books with my children. Real games, few people accompany you after school. Last week, we played "clap your hands" with the children. We laughed happily, as if we were children again. Moreover, I found that this game requires high coordination of human brain, and it is not easy to play well. Children like to play with their mothers, and mothers should always keep a childlike innocence. Only by maintaining childlike innocence can we sing with our children and go deep into her heart. Dad, you should cheer up. Don't always dominate TV and newspapers. Children have opinions. What clothes to wear every day is up to the children to choose. Don't ask her according to our opinion. The child has put on a short skirt, but you want her to take off her long skirt. The child doesn't feel cold, but you must let her put on another coat ... Never mind, the child has her own aesthetics, and she knows how hot and cold it is. Even if it is a lesson, she will remember to wear more or less next time, and it is wise to let her take responsibility for her choice. Moreover, children have reached the age of loving beauty. Don't look at her angry, just say she is bragging. It is normal for girls to "boast". Of course, don't overdo it. 5. Don't interrupt the child. This is for my father. You should listen to her patiently before you express your opinion. Sometimes children really make more sense than us. You should treat her like an adult. On some "big things", such as buying a house and furniture, you can also ask her for advice. Don't say to her, "You don't understand, this is an adult's business." This is your spoken language, and it is natural for children to be dissatisfied with you. 6. Don't "pretend to be modest" and "distort" your children in front of others. It's a common mistake mom makes, baby. Well said. When others praise their children, don't say, "You are far behind others, you don't know how to work hard, and you are playful." Wait a minute. Children have protested against me before, but I can't change it. I remember next time I would say, "Well, not bad, not bad, better than before." Then pat the child and say, "Keep working hard and watch your aunt praise you." Is this a better answer? 7, mom and dad occasionally quarrel, don't take it out on the children, this is also the fault of the mother, the mother is not happy, seeing the children is not pleasing to the eye, venting emotions to children who have no resistance, how can you bear it! Such a mother, there is no next life we will not choose her! I change, I have to change! 8. Holiday plans should be made with children, not based on our wishes. Only the rules made by the children themselves can implement the supervision right and be convincing, right? I believe that children will be more conscious. ..... Ah, you see, how many places we need to improve! I think when the child defected to us, she had no regrets, but we let her down too much. That's a real pity. Fortunately, the child is only 10 years old, and we can still make up for it. Let's hurry! In this way, under the child's reminder, I wrote and talked to the child like this. The child felt that his mother was sincere in changing, and she said to give us a chance. She whispered to me again: I still want you to be my mother in the afterlife. For more exciting articles, welcome to visit the original magazine of Sina Parent-child Center. Declare that the copyright of this article belongs to Sina.com and the author. Without permission, copying is strictly prohibited.