People sometimes eat too much and sometimes drink too much. Everything will go too far. This is the result of people being driven by immediate interests, a manifestation of human nature and a social phenomenon. Failure is not good, but it is equally troublesome to overdo it. Too much negative energy will soon affect yourself, and sometimes even the whole society. So it hurts both yourself and others. In order to avoid overcorrection, we must first exercise self-discipline. If we can do this, everything will be fine, but it is not easy, and we need external help. Through language, law, power and sometimes even force. The history of mankind is full of the above-mentioned means, which has repeatedly led to various tragedies. Because of the external restraint, it is often used too much. In this way, there is no other way but self-discipline, which is the truly correct way for mankind. This is the way of kings. Although this road is full of ups and downs, I still hope that everyone can go on unswervingly, so as to make real progress.

Characteristics and requirements of self-discipline

One: understand the order of things.

Understanding the order of things is to make clear the order of happiness and pain in the development of things. When you encounter difficulties in your work, don't be at a loss and lose heart; Don't think that everything is easy when you meet good times. Because everyone's growing environment and history are different, things or things they encounter are different. When some people grow up, because of the family environment, they never delay the satisfaction of their needs. They will feel that everything is so easy and everything is logical. When encountering difficulties, it will be difficult for him to make progress and gain joy through persistence and hard work. At this time, he needs encouragement and help, and needs to know the truth of spare no effort. He also knows that the correct order of things is: face the problem-go deep into the problem-(feel pain) solve the problem-get success (feel happiness).

Second: Take responsibility.

Many of us have not grown up because when we encounter responsibilities and pressures, we choose to complain and escape, rather than face up to and bear. If you don't face the problem directly, you will never solve it. We should not only undertake our past, but also our future. In the past, we may have been influenced by the growth environment and history, and our views, heights and angles on the issue have caused certain limitations and defects. We have to take on this problem. The way to undertake this problem is not to complain, but to face it squarely and make greater efforts to catch up with the congenital deficiency. For the future, we should take the responsibility of developing ourselves, instead of complaining that others have not taken it for you. We are not only responsible for ourselves, but also for the collective, the team and your teammates. People who take the development of themselves as their own responsibility will truly become self-disciplined people.

Three: Respect for reality

On the road of development, we should move forward, make progress, overcome difficulties and face them. This requires us to establish an idea that falsehood can't cover up the facts after all. When we don't face the problem and try to cover up the reality with false appearances and excuses, we will only face the paralysis of self-discipline and the embarrassment of having to tell countless lies to make up for one lie, which is not good for things and will only get worse. Respecting the facts does bring pain, but it is far more important than our hindering development. Knowing this, self-discipline is getting closer and closer.

Four: attention

In our study and work, we often ask for concentration. In fact, everyone has been paying attention to it. The only difference is what the focus is. Focus is to keep your attention and focus on the direction and things that are beneficial to your development. Only by knowing what you want can you understand where your attention should be focused and become more and more self-disciplined and standardized.

Five: Self-discipline

Self-discipline is a special constraint, and it is a kind of control and constraint on one's emotions. A kind of rational thinking that needs to be kept at all times can be done well by many people in public places, but self-discipline is particularly important in a small space or when a person is alone. Otherwise, you will be infected by your emotions, regardless of the consequences. So we should be the masters of our emotions, and don't let them control us. There are many people who talk about emotional intelligence mysteriously, and there are more than a dozen standards. In fact, emotional intelligence is just a word, that is, to restrain one's behavior and control one's feelings.

When it comes to self-discipline, we can't help but mention freedom. What is freedom? Freedom is not ignorance, blind obedience, narrow-mindedness, selfishness or doing whatever you want. Freedom is the right of all people to do everything without harming the rights of others! Is to do what I "should" do, not what I "like" to do. It is the expression of self-control and challenge, and it is the expression of a truly mature personality. Self-discipline is the foundation of freedom, and freedom is the embodiment of self-discipline. Self-discipline is not an action, but an attitude towards life.

Self-discipline at work

Systems and rules are indispensable in our daily work, study and team life. Every move in our work will be subject to certain requirements and constraints, otherwise everything will be out of order. However, if we always work and cooperate in an environment that is required and arranged, it will be difficult for us to make progress, achieve achievements and break through ourselves. So we must learn to restrain ourselves, demand ourselves, and turn passivity into initiative.

It is also very important to be a self-disciplined person in the workplace, which may be one of the conditions for everyone to continue to succeed, because we rarely see a person who is lazy, has no concept of time, does not abide by company regulations and does not care about corporate culture can develop well in a company. Although the company is not a military or a government agency, some internet companies or start-ups will create a relatively relaxed working atmosphere, such as not strict commuting hours, not having to sit still at work, and some can bring pets to work. But that doesn't mean you can indulge yourself in such an environment and become undisciplined.

So what self-discipline habits in the workplace can benefit you for life?

Secondly, we should have a good working attitude. To put it simply, you must look like you are going to work, otherwise you will leave a sloppy impression. Many companies are really trying to create a relaxed working atmosphere for their employees. The purpose of this is to reduce the extra pressure brought by the working environment. In essence, they still want employees to participate more in the work, rather than let employees enjoy it. People who are not self-disciplined are likely to use a relaxed working atmosphere as an excuse for being lazy and not obeying work discipline. Make sure you are really working, not only responsible for your work, but also for yourself, because it is definitely more efficient to concentrate on your work. However, some people are always easily disturbed by various private affairs, or deliberately deal with private affairs during work hours, such as playing mobile phones, playing games and even sleeping when they should be at work. It is understandable to have a proper rest after a period of concentrated work, especially for mental workers. However, if you haven't finished your own work and there are deliverables waiting for you downstream, you will be constantly attracted by other things and can't concentrate on your work. This is a very self-disciplined work attitude.

If you can be punctual, work hard and ensure high-quality work output, you can already be a very self-disciplined person at work. When you can leave this impression of self-discipline on colleagues, bosses, customers and peers around you, people will first think that you are professional and will regard you as a trustworthy object. With this kind of trust, as long as you are in the right environment, you will get more opportunities and grow faster than others. On the other hand, if you can't exercise self-discipline in these jobs, you will not only lose the chance of promotion, but also be in a state of blaming the team or the environment. But people who are not self-disciplined are the same everywhere.

How to achieve self-discipline

Nowadays, many people turn pale when they talk about self-discipline, thinking that "self-discipline belongs to others, but I can't control myself". They are often troubled by procrastination and anxiety, and only envy others. In fact, self-discipline is more like a habit, which requires psychological and physical adaptation. The reason why self-disciplined people do something is not so difficult is largely because they are used to it and will not resist it psychologically. So, how can we achieve real self-discipline?

First of all, it is human nature to break the inherent thinking and be content with the status quo. Even people who like challenges and excitement have their own comfort zone. Everyone has a certain knowledge of what he often does and can do, and also knows what he can't do or doesn't want to do. People who are often lazy in bed think they can't get up early, overweight people think they can't lose weight, and people with poor grades think they can't do well in the exam no matter how hard they try. We often give ourselves many restrictions before we act, thinking that we will not succeed and will not change, so we will not act. Therefore, it is very important to break the limitations of thinking, and inherent thinking is often an obstacle to limiting action. Secondly, make appropriate goals and plans. Take slimming as an example. Simply losing weight will definitely be boring. Many people fail to lose weight because they can't follow strict dietary requirements and exercise plans. Setting a goal that you really want to achieve can change this phenomenon to some extent. For example, if you want to run a marathon, you can lose weight while practicing running; Look at a dress and make a slimming plan for a beautiful dress. A friend successfully lost 30 pounds in three months for the person he likes, and the whole person looks different. Because of the goal, the action is more motivated.

Matching the goal is a detailed plan. According to the plan, step by step, little by little, can have better results. Finally, think less and act more. Self-discipline sometimes pays attention to "simplicity and rudeness", and the most taboo is to think too much. "No pains, no gains", no matter what, can only be realized by action, but without action, even if there is an opportunity, it will slip away. Many people are always uneasy about the rush of time. They lament that they are old in their early twenties and are afraid of change after 30. Life is an unrepeatable journey. No matter how much we regret and regret, the past has passed, and we can only grasp the future. As long as life goes on, it is never too late to change.

Some people say that a self-disciplined person is the freest because he can get what he wants. Self-disciplined people can take responsibility and enjoy success; Be brave in change and be able to think critically; Can control time and money, but also enjoy it. The philosopher Kant said: the so-called freedom is not arbitrary, but self-dominated. Self-disciplined people can control their own lives.