I once happened to think of a friend born after 1990. I haven't contacted him for a long time. I want to see what he is doing. So I opened his circle of friends and found that his latest circle of friends still stayed in the Spring Festival the year before last.

He didn't set "three days visible", that is, his circle of friends was white and there was nothing.

In the past, he and I, as well as another friend of the same age, often liked to get together and chat and share each other's attitudes and views on some things.

When I opened another friend's circle of friends, he was even more simply, without state, and wrote directly: I didn't block you, but I didn't send it.

I sent a message to ask them why they didn't send a circle of friends.

They quickly replied that there was no reason, but they didn't want to send it and didn't want to send a circle of friends at all.

This is an era of gradual silence after 90. I remember last year, a group of post-90 s articles were screened in the circle of friends.

The first batch of post-90s have become monks!

The first batch of 90-year-olds are bald!

The first batch of post-90s stomachs have collapsed!

After the first batch of 90 s, I have already started fitness!

Zhang Xiaolong said that 100 million people were set to be visible for three days, and now the first batch of post-90s friends are too lazy to send them.

Why not send a circle of friends?

Too much scruples.

Send photos of the tour?

People will think that you have to show off in your circle of friends when you go out to play. Who hasn't played yet? What are you pretending?

Send a picture of the baby?

You think your children are cute, but others don't. "Is it not a child? What's good to send? " "Who wants to watch your child shit and fart to sleep every day? Can you stop sending it? "

Send a selfie?

A face rubbed by life on the ground is full of dark circles and exhausted. After the P-picture beauty is sent out, it will be denied by others. Your face is too fat, your legs are too thick and the filter is too open.

Emotional?

Forget it, who dares to send friends now? You should know that your circle of friends has leaders, colleagues and relatives. Inadvertently, it will cause misunderstanding, and your parents are also in the circle of friends. How can you make them afraid?

Things that are too negative energy can't be sent, things that are too self-centered can't be sent, things that can't be sun-dried, can't be forwarded indiscriminately, can't be too melodramatic, can't …

So, after thinking about it, I have lost the mood of wanting to make friends.

Some people say we can watch it in groups.

Forget it, grouping is also very troublesome, just don't send it.

I wrote and deleted, so I was worried. Finally, I remembered what I wanted to say in the input method, but I couldn't send it to my circle of friends. What is the need for such a circle of friends?

The circle of friends is the last window for emotional catharsis. Once closed, many things can only sink into the bottom of my heart silently.

There is a sentence in "Good Sir": "Do you know what is the biggest difference between adults and children? That is, adults need to clean up their own mess. "

When we are young, we can cry willfully and vent our emotions heartily.

But adults can't. They can only heal themselves simply and rudely at night, and then pretend that nothing happened the next day.

As the saying goes: "The reason why there is night in the world is to leave it to those adults who have wounds and give them a piece of black that can lick the wounds alone, which is not easy to be found."

I wrote an article about not staying up late before my watch. Many readers commented that they would never stay up late again, but they started to stay up late again in a few days.

Why can't we stop staying up late?

The most fundamental reason is that the night time belongs to you, and that gap can be your true self and reveal your true emotions.

Who dares during the day?

The world of adults has long blocked the way to express emotions and show wounds.

If they are allowed to express their emotions, they need to pay attention to the time, place and platform, be cautious, determine a safe space, and then return to normal in the shortest time.

Like this young man, he is under too much pressure. He was afraid to cry at home that day. He drank some wine, held the railing and began to cry.

Just like this girl, pretending nothing happened in front of her family, but she was depressed for too long. When she came out for supper at night, her mood collapsed completely in an instant.

Just like this takeaway brother, the customer returns the order and the loss must be borne by himself. He sat on the ground and cried.

His child has leukemia, and he desperately delivers takeout to earn medical expenses for the child. After crying, he should quickly restore calm and then call the child.

Life is really hard, it's all in places you can't see.

I remember once, just after working in the company, a girl born after 90 was crying in the corner of the corridor. I vaguely saw her back and knew it was her.

Her boyfriend broke up with her, and her father in her hometown was ill, but there was nothing she could do. She was afraid to ask for leave and didn't have much money to send home. During the day, she had to suppress her emotions and pretend as if nothing had happened She could only go to a corner where no one was working and cry bitterly.

I didn't bother her, let alone mention it to her. I knew she needed a window, a window to pour out her feelings freely and recklessly, a window that belonged only to her.

Later, I opened the girl's circle of friends Even though her life is so hard, there is nothing left in her circle of friends.

Someone once told Biao that people are animals that seek advantages and avoid disadvantages. Everyone wants to be close to people with positive energy and stay away from people with negative energy.

Yes, everyone likes positive energy. How can I spread my negative energy to others?

Nine times out of ten, life is unsatisfactory, but it can be said that it is no different from people.

Mr. Lu Xun once said that people's joys and sorrows are not connected, and this truth has long been understood in the post-90 s world. All the joys and sorrows are contained in my heart, and the surface wind is light and the clouds are light, but in fact my heart has already been turned upside down.

"When we were young, we always wanted to change the whole world. When I grow up, I find that I can't change the world and I have to compromise with myself. "

And this process of compromise is often the most helpless and cruel.

What kind of era is the post-90s generation in?

The post-80s have a successful career and a happy family. Most of them are still studying in the ivory tower after 00, and only after 90 are in an awkward situation.

Looking around, some colleagues have already earned 100,000 yuan a month, but they have nothing. In retrospect, their parents were old and sick, but they were unable to give them a good life.

I don't know when it started. After 90, I gradually became an adult and gradually reached the age of 30.

In the eyes of parents, some subtle things will start to be discussed with us. To outsiders, we have become the main support of society.

Finally, we finally became a quiet adult, hiding a lot of things in our hearts.

This is an era of gradual silence after 90.

I dare not say anything to my parents for fear that they will worry about their own affairs.

I dare not tell my partner that after years of trivial disputes, I am too lazy to quarrel now, let alone tell them.

Friends around me are gradually alienated from their families because of their careers, so they seldom get along and get together.

We watch others active in the circle of friends, and watch others quiet in the circle of friends. It seems that the excitement belongs to them and has nothing to do with ourselves. We can only silently click a praise and then quit the circle of friends.

Haruki Murakami said:

"The so-called life is nothing more than a process of constant loss. Very precious things will fall from your hands one after another, just like a comb without teeth. "

I think, losing self and emotions should also be a necessary process in life.

When this generation of 90 no longer updates its status in the circle of friends and no longer tells others how it feels, it means that it has chosen to bear everything silently.

There was a tsunami in our hearts at that moment, but you quietly didn't let anyone know.

What circle of friends will be sent after 90?

Forget it, you don't need a circle of friends after 90.