In this world, we are always influenced by emotions. When a person's mood is adjusted, he will feel happy, study will progress, work will be happy and life will be smoother.

Emotions are constantly changing, and negative emotions can also be transformed into positive emotions after proper conditioning. In this way, the "discomfort" of a certain link in life will be transformed into a kind of "enjoyment".

In ancient China, people's emotions were divided into seven states: joy, anger, worry, thinking, sadness, fear and shock. Recently, experts have divided people's emotions into three States according to their intensity and duration: mood, passion and pressure.

What does mentality mean?

Emotion is a weak and persistent emotional state. A healthy attitude can obviously promote work, study, life and physical health. This will cheer people up and make their work more effective. On the other hand, if a person is in a bad mood, it will not only damage his physical and mental health, but also affect his work, study and life and reduce the efficiency of various activities.

What is passion?

Passion is an emotional state, which erupts strongly and lasts for a short time. When the passion rises, you may laugh and curse, you may blush and have a thick neck, and you may even strike the table and stare. Facts have proved that positive passion will become the driving force to stimulate people's actions and promote their career success; Negative passion will inhibit people's activity ability, or produce some unrealistic impulses, or take some inappropriate actions, leading to the failure of things.

What is stress?

Stress refers to an unexpected emotional state. Pressure requires people to make quick judgments and choices about people, things and things. Moderate stress response is conducive to strengthening the physiological and biochemical processes of internal organs, muscles and skeletal systems and promoting the effective release of human energy. However, if people are under too much pressure, they will consume too much energy, which will lead to illness and even death.

Is there any regular change in emotional state? Yes

The average person's emotional cycle is 28 days. During these 28 days, emotions run in a sinusoidal way. Among them, when the mood is low, that is, the critical point of positive and negative emotions, some kind of emotional disorder may appear. At this time, a person will have symptoms such as slow thinking, slow response, poor memory and inattention.

So how should bad emotions be adjusted?

If a person's mood is negative, it will produce bad psychological phenomena. If the negative emotions in his heart are not vented, it may cause psychological imbalance. In this way, you will not eat well, sleep well, and your memory will obviously decline.

Emotion is closely related to disease. Everyone knows that illness comes from the mouth, but it comes from the heart, but it has always been ignored.

Psychosocial factors can affect the function of internal organs of the body, which is generally believed to be achieved through emotional activities. Positive emotions often play a good role in promoting people's activities, improving the efficiency of physical and mental work and keeping people healthy. Anger, resentment, anxiety, depression, fear, pain and other negative emotions. If the intensity is too large or the duration is too long, it may lead to neurological dysfunction. Because the change of mood will cause the changes of chemical substances in the body-sympathetic nerve and brain function, which will cause some changes in the physiological function and pathological morphology of internal organs.

Some people have studied the relationship between the function of organs controlled by autonomic nerve and bad emotions, and think that autonomic nerve is one of the organs that can express emotions best. When you are in a bad mood, it will cause digestive dysfunction, and the strong contraction of stomach muscles will cause stomach pain and peptic ulcer.

Emotion is closely related to cardiovascular, muscular, respiratory, urinary, metabolic and endocrine functions. When emotional excitement reaches its climax, it is anger. At this time, the sympathetic nerve in the autonomic nervous system is extremely excited, and a large amount of adrenaline is released, resulting in a sudden acceleration of the heartbeat and a rapid increase in blood pressure. If you have high blood pressure, it is easy to cause cerebral vascular rupture and cerebral hemorrhage. If you have coronary heart disease, because of the strong contraction of coronary artery, it will cause myocardial infarction and endanger people's lives.

Emotional instability can cause urticaria. Long-term emotional instability interferes with the brain's regulation function on the skin, causing paroxysmal skin convulsions, moss-like changes in skin hypertrophy, and neurodermatitis.

Psychological factors play an important role in the occurrence, development and transformation of diseases. Psychological disorders can cause physical disorders, psychological and physical disorders, also known as psychosomatic diseases. Psychosomatic medicine has changed the traditional biomedical model and put forward a brand-new biological, psychological and social medical model. Although the development history of psychosomatic medicine is not long, it can be predicted that psychosomatic medicine will become an important subject due to the continuous research and increasing attention of all countries in the world.

Everyone should learn to release bad emotions.

The theme of health in the new century is mental health, that is, to achieve the purpose of prolonging life through the adjustment of mental state. In recent years, in developed countries, "psychotherapy" has been widely used in clinic and achieved good results, which has become another medical revolution after surgery and the discovery of antibiotics.

The core content of "psychotherapy" is to advocate the release of "emotional potential energy", that is to say, psychological external stimuli must be stable and tolerant. Obviously, the surge or loss of emotions will make people in a disorderly state and produce "emotional potential energy". When the energy of its potential "emotional potential energy" exceeds a certain limit, it will cause physiological metabolism disorder and reduce immune function, thus causing or aggravating some diseases.

Modern medical psychology research has confirmed that the emotional release of modern people is influenced by psychological factors, social environment, interpersonal relationships, emotional communication, material conditions and many other aspects. Once the sense of loss has the upper hand, it will weaken people's physiological function, lead to various pathogenic factors raging and damage their health. Chinese and foreign medical scientists and psychologists agree that gastropathy and duodenal ulcer, cardiovascular and cerebrovascular diseases, some mental diseases and cancer are mainly induced or aggravated by mental factors, that is, "emotional damage" plays an important role.

Bad emotions do great harm to people's physical and mental health. Chinese medicine believes that anger hurts the lungs and grieves the liver; As the saying goes, "when you are in a hurry, you lose your head." This is the truth. Doctors and psychologists have been warning people that they must pay attention to mental health, be optimistic in any case, balance their mentality, laugh and cry when they are uncomfortable and have too much trauma, release their "emotional potential" and seek spiritual relief.

It is particularly important to be good at adjusting emotions, so as to adjust emotions well and grasp the reality.

Don't cry for yesterday.

Schiller said: "happiness is not having more, but knowing how to enjoy what you already have." Pain is short-lived, and happiness is eternal. "

Don't worry about tomorrow, because there are many uncertainties in the future. You should believe that "when things come to a head, things will cross when you cross the bridge." Worrying too much will only crush you and eventually lead to short life.

Don't cry for the pain and misfortune of the past, don't waste time looking back on the past and feeling sorry for yourself. Grasping and cherishing the present is the key to changing your destiny.

Dorothy Dix, an American, said, "I suffer from extreme poverty and disease. People ask me how to get through those difficulties, and I always answer: I spent yesterday, so I can get through today. I don't allow myself to guess what will happen tomorrow. "

The director of Mueller Company is named Jim Bodsu, and he is known as "the king of worries in Virginia". According to him, his only habit is "worrying".

The nickname came from this: He studied at Blacksburg Military Academy in Virginia, and his troubles were really too much, because he was often ill, and a hospital bed was often reserved for him in the school hospital. As long as the nurse sees him go to the hospital, she will take the initiative to run forward and give him an injection.

He has so many troubles that he is synonymous with everything. Many times, even he doesn't know what is bothering him. He is worried about being expelled from school because of his poor grades, because he failed in physics and other subjects. He thinks the average score must be 75 ~; Between 84, if it doesn't reach this level, he will feel very annoyed. He is also worried about his health because he suffers from acute indigestion, insomnia and other symptoms. He is worried about his financial situation, because he can't often buy gifts for his girlfriend or take her dancing, so he is worried that his girlfriend will marry another military school student. ...

That's how he worries about many problems that he thinks cannot be solved day and night. When he felt desperate, he had to tell Professor Duke Budd about his troubles.

Duke Budd, a professor of business management, has a deep research on psychological problems. He talked with Jim Bodsu 15 minutes.

Professor Budd said, "You should sit down and face the reality. If you spend half your time and energy on solving the problems you face, then I don't think you will have any more troubles. You may have learned to worry before, but you haven't learned anything else. "

Jim Bodsu later said: "This speech has helped my health and happiness more than what I learned during my four years in college."

Professor Budd gave him three methods, namely:

First of all, correctly understand and figure out what is bothering you:

Second, carefully find the cause of the failure;

Third, take immediate action to solve some problems that bother you.

Jim Bodsu followed these three methods.

For example, instead of worrying about failing physics, he asked himself why he failed and why. The result shows that it is not because of his low IQ and stupid talent, because he was already the editor-in-chief of the school magazine. He didn't pass the physics exam because he didn't have enough interest in the subject. The reason why he is not interested is that he thinks this course will not help him much in his future career as an industrial engineer. When he found the reason, he began to change his attitude. He told himself, "If the college requires me to pass the physics exam to get my degree, why should I doubt their wisdom?"

When his attitude changed, he immersed himself in studying physics and stopped wasting time to find out how difficult it was. He passed an exam. He used his spare time to work outside, and the money he earned could completely solve the difficulty of buying juice and small gifts for his girlfriend at the dance. Relatively large expenses, he borrowed money from his father and paid off the loan soon after graduation. As for love, it's nothing. The girl soon became his wife.

One of the important reasons why some people have been very upset is that they are worried about the past. When things are done, I always feel that I should do better and I am always afraid of problems; If you don't do it well, you will be more worried, for fear of "knocking at the door in the middle of the night." Yesterday has passed, what do you have to worry about? What should happen will happen. Your task is to face it calmly and worry that it won't solve any problems! In fact, it is very likely that nothing will happen, so why torture yourself!

Make effective use of today

Horace, an ancient Roman poet, once wrote such a poem:

This man is happy, and only he can be happy. I think he can call today "his own day". Today, he can feel safe. He can say, "No matter how bad tomorrow will be, I have passed today."

These words were written 39 years before the birth of Jesus. The most pitiful thing for a person is to "drag yourself away from finding a positive life".

Peace and happiness are what we long for. Please remember: "Only with happy thoughts and actions can you feel happy."

Mrs. J. Jed of the United States lives at 8 15 Court Street, Chicago, Michigan. Before she didn't understand "just live to sleep", she felt extremely depressed and almost wanted to commit suicide. She described her experience like this:

That year, my husband died. At that time, I was penniless, so I was very upset and decadent. I make a living by selling world encyclopedias to schools.

I sold my car when my husband was ill two years ago. In order to go back to work, I scraped together enough money to buy an old car by installment and started selling books.

I thought that as long as I worked again, I might get rid of depression. However, I can't stand driving and eating alone. In addition, some places can't sell books at all, so even if the amount of money for buying a car by stages is not large, it is difficult to pay on time.

The following spring, I sold books in Visalli, Missouri. The schools there are poor and the roads are not easy to walk. I am lonely and depressed, so I want to commit suicide. I feel hopeless and have no fun. Every morning, I am afraid to face life. I'm afraid of everything: I'm afraid I can't pay the installment, I'm afraid I can't pay the rent, I'm afraid I don't have enough to eat, I'm afraid I'm broke, and I'm afraid I look down on the doctor. ...

The only reason I didn't commit suicide was that I was worried that my sister would be sad, and she didn't have any extra money to pay for my funeral. Later, I read an article with such an exciting sentence: "For the wise, every day is a new life."

I typed this sentence down and stuck it on the windshield of the car so that I could see it all the time while driving. I soon found that it is not difficult to live for a day. I slowly learned to forget the past and not think about the future. Every morning I say to myself, "Today is a new life."

I have successfully overcome my fear of loneliness and need. I am very happy, my career is still successful, and I am full of enthusiasm and love for life. I didn't really know until now that in life, no matter what difficulties you encounter, don't be afraid: don't be afraid of the past and don't be afraid of the future. As long as I live one day, I will enjoy one day, because "every day is a new life for the wise".

Living only for today's happiness is the best way to have today. Let's strive for our happiness with a constructive plan that can produce happiness every day!

Here is a plan called "just for today". If we can do this, we can eliminate most of our worries and increase happiness in life. The following points are 10 to ensure a happy life:

Desire happiness

Want to be happy from the heart: If Lincoln said that "most people can be happy as long as they make up their minds" is correct, then happiness comes from the heart, not from the outside world.

conform

Try to adapt to the surrounding environment, rather than hope that the environment will adapt to you. Accept your family, your career and your luck with this attitude.

3. cherish your body

Exercise more, pay attention to diet regulation, and don't intentionally hurt your body. You know, your body is the foundation of success.

4. Don't give up studying every day

Learn more useful things and don't let your knowledge fall behind. Spend some time thinking every day and concentrate on reading a meaningful book.

5. Do three good things every day.

Do three things every day to purify your soul. Do a good deed, but don't let others know; Do two things you don't want to do, just to exercise.

6. Be a likable person

Dress appropriately, look quiet, speak quietly, behave gracefully, and don't get angry because of others' slander. Don't find fault with others, don't interfere or teach others.

7. Pay attention to how you spent today.

Just think about how to spend today, don't think about yesterday's troubles and don't worry about what will happen tomorrow.

8. Make a plan to do things every hour.

Make a plan and write down what you should do every hour. Maybe you won't do it completely, but at least you can avoid two shortcomings-being too hasty and hesitant.

9. Be quiet for half an hour

Leave yourself a quiet half hour and relax completely. In this half hour, think of something that makes your life full of hope.

10. There is no fear in my heart.

Appreciate everything, brave enough to love, and trust the people you love and those who love you.

Everyone will encounter some unpleasant things in work or life, so they are depressed and always want to vent. Proper venting is good for your physical and mental health.

Yesterday has passed, and tomorrow has not come yet. No matter what happens, it can only be today-now. Therefore, as long as you grasp the present, everything is a cinch. Success or failure, happiness or pain, all come true at this moment today. As long as you grasp this moment, everything will be easy.

Don't worry about tomorrow.

Don't worry about tomorrow, tomorrow will have its own worries, and worrying about you for one day today is enough.

A long time ago, a philosopher was penniless and had to wander to a remote and barren village. People there lead a very hard life, but they still keep on living.

One day, many of them gathered at the top of the mountain to listen to the philosopher's speech.

The philosopher said, "Don't worry about tomorrow, because tomorrow has its own worries, and today's worries are enough for one day."

This man is Jesus. This passage is probably the most quoted famous saying in history. Only more than 30 words, but after a hundred years, passed down from generation to generation.

Christians basically believe that Jesus said "don't worry about tomorrow", but many non-Christians don't believe this sentence, and regard "don't worry about tomorrow" as an unnecessary advice and an unreasonable thing. They never believe it. For example, China people say that "he who has no long-term worries will have near worries", while many westerners and orientals think: "I must think about tomorrow, I must buy insurance for my family, I must save money for my old age, and I must plan and prepare for the future ..."

Yes, these things should be done and must be done, but what can be done cannot be ignored. Let's call it a day. This famous saying was translated 400 years ago as "Don't worry about tomorrow". At that time, "worry" usually meant anxiety, but today, the meaning of "worry" has changed. Therefore, the newly translated Bible translates this sentence of Jesus into "Don't worry about tomorrow", which is more accurate.

Don't think about the future today, such as "God, the wheat field is very dry recently, it may be dry, and you can't eat bread in autumn!" " "Don't think," If I lose my job, how can I get bread? "

William osler is a medical student in Monterey General Hospital. He is often in trouble. Why?

Because he often thinks: Did I pass the final exam yesterday? Where will you work? How to get a job in the future? How to make a living in the future?

Later, he saw a sentence in a book that had a great influence on his future. This sentence is: the most important thing is not to look at the blur in the distance, but to be clear in front of you.

It is this sentence that made this young medicine become the most famous medical scientist in the future. It was this student who founded the world-famous Johns Hopkins Medical College. That is, this student became a professor appointed by the King of England at the Medical College of Oxford University-the highest honor in this country's medical field. He was knighted by the King of England, that is, Sir William osler. After the death of Sir William osler, there was a book about his life experience, which was two volumes thick and had *** 1466 pages.

William osler has his own unique understanding of this sentence. This unique understanding was summed up in his speech at Yale University that he must live in "a completely independent today".

Now, let's review his famous speech.

..... People like me have worked as professors in four famous universities, written very popular books, have a "special mind" and have a particularly high IQ? No, many of my friends once said to me, "Your mind is actually very ordinary."

..... So, what made me successful today? In fact, it is very simple, because I live in "a completely independent today".

What does "a completely independent today" mean?

A few months before I came to your school to give a speech, I crossed the Atlantic Ocean on a very large seagoing ship. On the ship, I saw the captain standing in the cockpit and pressing a button. When the machine made noise, the ship was immediately isolated-divided into several waterproof compartments. ...

Each of you is much more beautiful than that ocean liner, and you have a longer voyage to go. Therefore, I advise you: you should learn to control everything like a ship. Only by living in "completely independent today" can we ensure the safety of navigation.

In the cockpit, you will find that those big compartments have their own uses. Press a button, carefully observe all aspects of life, and block the past with iron gates-block those yesterday that have passed away; Press another button and cut off the future with the iron gate-cut off those tomorrows that have not yet arrived.

In this way, you can have a complete today.

..... China has a song "Tomorrow Song" that says, "Tomorrow is tomorrow. How many tomorrows are there?" The waste of energy and mental pain often follow a person who is worried about the future, putting off everything that should be done today until tomorrow. There is no hope and no future.

In this case, let's divide the cabins in front of and behind the ship. From now on, form good habits and live in a completely independent today.

Having said that, I am by no means advocating that you don't have to work hard to prepare for tomorrow, absolutely not. I mean, concentrating all your wisdom, generate, all your enthusiasm, and doing today's things perfectly is the best way for you to meet tomorrow. ...

Students, whenever you stride into a new day facing the morning sun, you chant loudly, "We will get today's bread."

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"There will be bread and milk." Let time solve tomorrow's problems. What we want is a happy today. Cutting off and burying the past that has disappeared will lead people to the dead yesterday, because the burden of tomorrow plus the burden of yesterday will definitely hinder the enjoyment of today's happiness. At the same time, we should tightly close the door to the future. A person's future lies in today, and tomorrow is never realistic. Today is the day when mankind is saved, and today is the day when you succeed.

Enjoy the happiness of reality

There is a western proverb: "You can eat jam tomorrow, you can eat jam yesterday, but you are not allowed to eat jam today."

The same is true for most people: they are worried about tomorrow's jam or yesterday's jam, but they don't want to spread today's jam on the bread they eat now.

This kind of mistake is easy to be made not only by ordinary people, but also by great men: Montaigne, a great French thinker, also made the same mistake: "My life is full of terrible misfortunes, but most of those so-called misfortunes have not happened."

This often happens in my life, yours or his life, or "people worry too much"?

People in Qi were sent to die, forgetting to eat and sleep. People who are worried about each other, because they know it, say, "God, I got gas in my ears and forgot it when I died. If you bend over and stretch and stay in the sky all day, why worry about falling? "

The man said, "The sky is full of gas, so the sun, the moon and the stars should not set?"

The knower said, "The sun, the moon and the stars are also full of glory, so they can only fall, not slander."

The man said, "What happened to Naidi?"

At dawn, he said, "A spike in the ground will make up for the four deficiencies, and if it dies, it will die. If you hesitate to do this and stop on the ground all day, why worry? "

Happy are those who give up, and happy are those who know.

The meaning of this passage is: individuals in Qi are worried that the sky will fall, there is nowhere to hide, they can't sleep well, and they can't eat. Someone enlightened him and said, "the sky is just accumulated gas, and there is air everywhere." Every move, every breath, is moving in the sky. Why worry about the sky falling? "

The man said, "If the sky is really gas, why didn't the sun, moon and stars fall?"

The person who enlightened him said, "The sun, the moon and the stars are just things that glow in the air. Even if it falls, it won't hurt anything! "

The man added, "What if the ground sinks?

The person who enlightened him said, "The earth is just a pile of clods. It's everywhere. There is no place without clods. People walk on it every day. How can the earth sink? "

After some explanation, the talents of Qi were relieved.

Ancient science was underdeveloped, and it is not worth making a fuss that an alarmist has such worries. However, if this situation still happens to modern people, it is not normal.

The great poet Dante said, "Think about it, this day will never come again." Yes, people's life is passing by at an incredible speed, as the ancients in China said: "Life is like a blink of an eye, and it is fleeting." Therefore, only today is the only time worth cherishing!

Yes, one should think about tomorrow, carefully plan one's future, make one's own plans and be prepared for all this, but you can't worry, don't worry, don't worry …

For example, during the war, military leaders must plan for tomorrow, but they must be fearless and calm in the face of danger, and have the heroic spirit of coping with Mount Tai without bending over. They must never panic or have the slightest anxiety or trouble.

Admiral ernest king once said:

I provide the best equipment to the best people, and then give them some seemingly excellent and arduous tasks. That's all I can do.

For example, if a ship sinks, I can't get it out. If the ship is sinking, I can't stop it. I spend all my time solving today's problems, which is much better than regretting yesterday's problems. Besides, if I keep worrying about these things, I won't last long.

At any time, the difference between a brilliant idea and a bad idea is that a brilliant idea can consider the cause and effect, thus producing a logical and constructive plan; And bad ideas will lead to greater losses.

Although we can't change what has happened, we can change ourselves.

The novelist Homer Chloe said, "Don't cry over spilled milk. Otherwise, it is not milk, but you have worked hard ... "

Why did he say that? You will understand after reading his story.

That day, I thought "the most tragic moment of my life" came: the sheriff came to my house and I had to sneak out the back door. After that, I lost my home in Long Island Flower Shop. That place left a deep impression on me: all my children were born there, and I lived there 18 years.

I never thought such a thing would happen to me. 12 years ago, I always thought I was on top of the world. The copyright of my film Water Tower Face was sold to a film company at the highest price in Hollywood, so my family and I lived abroad for two years, cooling off in Switzerland in summer and sheltering from the cold in southern France in winter: we lived a millionaire life.

I lived in Paris for six months and published a novel called "They Must Meet Paris". The novel was adapted into a film, starring Will Logis. Many people wanted me to stay in Hollywood and write some plays for Logis, but I returned to new york.

Faced with great success, I feel that I still have untapped potential: I feel that I have the ability to become a shrewd businessman.

I was told that John Jacobs invested in buying vacant lots in new york and soon became a millionaire. Who is Jacob? Just a peddler who immigrated to America! If he can succeed, can't I? So I decided to do real estate business. So I started my dream of getting rich!

In fact, I know nothing about real estate, but I have the courage. How to carry out this undertaking? It's simple. Mortgage the house and buy the best building land in the flower shop mountain area. My abacus is perfect: I will keep this land until the land price rises to a high level.