Question 2: How to control your emotions? Impulsive emotions are actually the most powerless emotions and the most destructive emotions. Many people will do things they regret when they are impulsive. Therefore, some positive and effective measures should be taken to control their impulsive emotions. (1) First, mobilize your reason, control your emotions and calm yourself down. When you encounter strong emotions, you should force yourself to calm down, quickly analyze the cause and effect of things, and then take measures to express emotions or eliminate impulses, so as not to fall into an impulsive, reckless and simple passive situation. For example, when you are satirized and laughed at by others, if you are furious and retorted, it is likely to cause disputes between the two sides, and the anger is getting bigger and bigger, which naturally does not help. However, if you can remind yourself to calm down at this time and take rational countermeasures, such as using silence as a weapon to show * * *, or expressing your hurt in a few words and accusing the other party of being bored, the other party will feel embarrassed instead. (2) Use hints to divert attention. Things that make you angry usually touch your dignity or vital interests, so it is difficult to calm down at once. So when you feel that you are very excited and can't control your emotions, you can relax yourself and encourage yourself to restrain your impulses by prompting and diverting your attention. It is suggested that if you are not a victim of impulse, you can deal with it later, it's no big deal, or you can do something simple instead, or go to a quiet and peaceful environment. These are all effective. People's emotions often take only a few seconds or minutes to calm down. But if the bad mood can't be transferred in time, it will be more intense. For example, the more worried people think about their worries, the more they feel that they have many reasons to worry; The more angry people think about angry things, the more they think they should be angry. According to the research of modern physiology, when people encounter dissatisfaction, anger and sadness, they will transmit unpleasant information to the brain, and gradually form a temporary connection of the nervous system, forming a dominant center, which will be consolidated more and more. If you immediately shift, think about happy things, send happy information to your brain, and strive to build a happy excitement center, you will effectively resist and avoid bad emotions. (3) After calming down, think about whether there is a better solution. When encountering conflicts, contradictions, and unsatisfactory things, you can't just escape, but you must also learn how to deal with contradictions. Generally, the following steps are taken: ① What are the main reasons for the conflict? What is the key to the differences between the two sides? ② What are the possible ways to solve the problem? ③ What solutions are unacceptable to one party to the conflict? ④ Which solutions are acceptable to both parties to the conflict? ⑤ Find the best scheme, take action and gradually accumulate experience. For example, Xiao Ming is in a bad mood these days. It turned out that he and his father had a conflict because of playing football: his father asked him to give up his favorite football and concentrate on his studies; Xiaoming himself has a strong interest in football and is unwilling to give up galloping on the court. What are the solutions to the problem after the reasons for the differences are clarified? There are four schemes as follows: ① Give up football training and concentrate on study; (2) Give up football training and not concentrate on study; ③ Insist on football training, which affects learning; (4) Arrange the time reasonably, not only insist on football training, but also give consideration to study. Among them, the second and third schemes are unbearable for my father to witness, while the first and second schemes are unwilling to be accepted by Xiao Ming. Since the fourth scheme is acceptable to both sides, I might as well give it a try. (4) At ordinary times, you can carry out some targeted training to cultivate your patience. You can choose a few things that need meditation, care and patience according to your hobbies, such as practicing calligraphy, drawing and making exquisite handicrafts, which not only cultivates your temperament, but also enriches your spare time.
Question 3: How to restrain your emotions when you are angry? Just look at these when you are angry.
Version 1 (Classic)
Don't be angry.
Life is like a play, and we meet by fate.
It's not easy to feel sorry for each other until you get old. Should we cherish it more?
There's no need to turn back when you lose your temper over trifles.
I am not angry when others are angry, and there is no one to replace me when I am sick.
Don't be angry.
I'm sad. Who will be satisfied? Besides, it's frustrating and laborious.
Don't compare with your neighbors and relatives, let your children and grandchildren do their own housework.
Share joys and sorrows, the gods envy good companions.
Version 2
Life is like a play, and it is only by fate that we get together.
It is not easy to get along with each other, so everyone should cherish it.
There is everything in the world, and nothing can be as I wish.
In retrospect, there is no need to get angry over trifles.
He is popular with me, I am not angry, and there is no one to replace him when he is ill.
Anger can secrete harmful substances and promote people's aging and illness.
Seeing a doctor costs money and suffers, and it is said that qi disease is difficult to cure.
Small people don't make people angry, and they often get angry with themselves.
A gentleman measures the world the same, and all the good things and bad things are wrapped in a bag.
People say I'm deaf, so I pretend to be deaf.
If I am wrong, I really should scold and sincerely correct my education.
If it doesn't happen at all, it's time for him to scold himself.
Neighborhood unity is good, family harmony and happiness.
Husband and wife help each other, love each other and smile day and night.
Honest, caring, and happy as honey in his later years.
Don't compare with your neighbors and relatives. Let your children and grandchildren lock things up.
Indifference to fame and fortune promotes health, and civilized behavior strives for the first place.
In the Three Kingdoms, there was a Zhou Gongjin who was trapped by anger.
There was a Yan Jingming in the Qing Dynasty who was not angry when he realized the harm.
Maitreya is a cloth-bag monk, who can swallow his pride with his bare chest and big belly.
Laugh often without worry, and all diseases will be cured.
Don't be angry, don't be angry, don't be angry.
As long as you can do it, it's not surprising to live to a hundred years old.
Version 3
Overhead, down-to-earth, life is all in one breath;
Remember that there are three things in anger: anger and anger;
You can only be angry with yourself, and anger is more opposed to each other;
Strike the table and hit the stool to lose your temper, which is reasonable and unreasonable;
Life is not easy, what a pity for bring disgrace to oneself;
Anger lasts for one minute, but sixty seconds is not blessed;
Angry for an hour, stupid for 60 minutes;
Anger for a week hurts the liver and spleen;
If you want to be less angry in life, there are several things that must be kept in mind:
Don't care about small things, open your eyes and close your eyes;
Some people say hurtful things, not all of them are malicious;
Some people do things to my liking, and it must be difficult to sing;
Some people bully others, and if they do more injustice, they will hang themselves;
Someone misunderstood my grievance, a fog cage has four seasons;
Some people betrayed me and left me alone.
Someone has an advantage over me. How can ten fingers be an even number?
The ruler is short, the inch is long, and everything is not compared;
You can't have time to be carefree without seeing all the beautiful scenery on the earth;
Steady mind, good health, and saving money for travel.
Question 4: How to restrain your homesickness? Where are you? What are you doing? Make it clear, maybe I can help you.
Question 5: How to restrain your impatience with others? Check first, do you have the following characteristics:
(1) When you get angry, you curse, smash things and even hit people.
(2) The emotional response is simple, lacking a sense of humor, not joking, keeping silent about the things that are satisfactory, and the things that are dissatisfied are often solved by quarreling and losing their temper.
(3) In the face of setbacks in life, there is only one way of psychological defense, and that is to vent.
I can't stand it at all.
He is quick-tempered and can do anything. He couldn't control himself at that time, and he especially regretted it afterwards.
(6) I can't listen to anyone's persuasion, especially when I am emotional.
These are typical characteristics of irritable people.
Anger can be controlled and temper can be changed. The key is to master the method.
(1) Situation transfer method: When anger suddenly comes out, people have five ways to deal with it. One is to suppress anger into your heart and sulk; The second is to lose your temper and punish yourself; The third is unconscious revenge and venting; The fourth is to lose your temper and vent your anger in a very strong form; The fifth is to divert attention to offset anger. Among them, transfer is the most active treatment. When you are angry, you will get more and more angry with people and things you don't like. At this time, you might as well use a "36-step plan" to quickly leave the situation that makes you angry. It's best to listen to music and take a walk with friends you can talk to, and then you will calm down slowly.
(2) Rational control method: When you are angry, you'd better let your own rationality take the lead. You can hint to yourself and silently say "Don't be angry, it's not worth being angry" and "Being angry is stupid and won't solve any problems." You can also give yourself an order when you are about to get angry: don't get angry! Hold on for a minute! Hold on for a minute! Good job! Hold on for another three minutes! Hold on for two minutes. I started to control myself. I might as well hold on for another minute. Three minutes have passed, why not insist? So, use reason to overcome emotions.
(3) Evaluation postponement method: Anger comes from the evaluation of "* * *", which may be a look of others, a sarcasm or even a misunderstanding of others. You were "furious" at that time, but if you comment after an hour, a week or even a month, you may think it's "not worth it".
(4) Sublimation of goals: Anger is a powerful psychological energy. If used improperly, it will hurt others, sublimate them and become a powerful driving force for success. It is necessary to cultivate a lofty goal in life, change the habit of calculating gains and losses with immediate trivial matters, and consider everything from the overall situation and the long term. Only by establishing a lofty ideal in life can a person tolerate others and have a greater sense of proportion. He will not tolerate his energy being entangled in trivial matters and hinder the pursuit of his ideal career.
The following are two materials found on the Internet, which I hope will be helpful to everyone, hehe ~
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In real life, some people get angry easily. People around you only know that this person has a big temper, but rarely think that this person is probably suffering from a disease. In traditional Chinese medicine, anger is called "good anger", which refers to the symptoms of impatience, easy to get angry for no reason and uncontrollable. It is also called "anger" and "irritability" and should belong to the category of diseases.
According to the theory of traditional Chinese medicine, "the liver is just dirty, happiness is depressed, and ambition is angry." This means that the liver belongs to a strong and irritable organ, and prefers comfortable and soft emotions to depressed emotions, and its emotional performance is mainly anger. Therefore, anger is mainly related to the liver, which is mainly composed of three syndromes: liver depression and qi stagnation, hyperactivity of liver fire and spleen deficiency and hyperactivity of liver.
Anger caused by stagnation of liver qi also manifests as frequent sighing, chest pain or string pain. Most of the causes of liver depression and qi stagnation syndrome are depression, mental pain or a history of mental injury. The good anger caused by stagnation of liver-qi should first be treated by psychological health preservation and treated by dredging according to the cause. You can eat more foods with the function of soothing the liver and regulating qi, such as celery, chrysanthemum, tomato, radish, orange, grapefruit, citrus, citron, bergamot and so on.
The good anger caused by hyperactivity of liver-fire syndrome is also manifested as dreaminess, red eyes, swelling and pain, bitter mouth and thirst. The causes of liver-fire syndrome are mostly stagnation of liver-qi, or excessive smoking and drinking, or overeating sweet, fat and spicy things. In addition to quitting smoking and limiting alcohol, we should not eat sweet, fat and spicy food, but also eat more foods that clear away liver and heat, such as bitter taste ... >>
Question 6: How can we control our emotions? How to control your emotions?
People can't always be in a good mood. Since there are setbacks and troubles in life, there will be negative emotions. Psychologically mature people are not people without negative emotions, but people who are good at regulating their emotions. In the process of growing up, teenagers should also learn to adjust and control their emotions slowly. This is not to say that we should suppress our negative emotions. Psychological research shows that depression does not change negative emotions, but allows negative emotions to be deposited in the deep heart. When they accumulate to a certain extent, they often break out in a destructive way, causing harm to themselves and others. For example, we often see some people with good temper, and sometimes they suddenly get angry and do something surprising or regrettable, which is often the result of repression at ordinary times. At the same time, depression can also cause deeper inner conflicts and lead to mental illness. We can divide bad emotions into acute and chronic. It can be said that it is an acute bad mood to get angry impulsively and make all kinds of irrational behaviors because of being * * * by the outside world. The common way to deal with this kind of bad mood is to give yourself hints and warnings in time. For example, when you feel anger is rising, say to yourself: restrain, then restrain! Or silently count from one to ten, it often takes only a few seconds, dozens of seconds, and your mind can calm down. Then, if you deal with the problem, you won't do anything you regret. Chronic bad mood is often caused by many unpleasant things in life. The reasons for being in a bad mood may not be eliminated at once, but being trapped in a bad mood for a long time can't change the status quo, and it often makes the situation worse. If we can adjust ourselves and get rid of the control of negative emotions, we will have the strength to face the unsatisfactory reality. When you feel depressed or depressed, you can change it by distracting yourself, such as going out for a walk, listening to music, playing ball games, or shopping; You can also cry to your bosom friends. Psychological research shows that crying has therapeutic effect. People usually feel much better after a good cry, so you don't have to be shy about crying. You can also keep a diary or call a psychological counseling hotline to let your bad emotions vent. In addition to venting, if you can do something to change your situation, or work hard with adversity as the driving force of life, it will better help you get rid of negative emotions, because on the one hand, the process of doing things needs to be focused, so that you have no time to feel sorry for yourself; On the other hand, in the process of improving your situation, your horizons will become broader, which may give you a new view of life.
Question 7: How to better control your emotions and temper? Control yourself and do something seriously. It is impossible to be in a good mood forever. Since there are setbacks and troubles in life, there will be negative emotions. Psychologically mature people are not people without negative emotions, but people who are good at regulating their emotions. In the process of growing up, teenagers should also learn to adjust and control their emotions slowly. This is not to say that we should suppress our negative emotions. Psychological research shows that "depression" can't change negative emotions, but makes them deposit in the deep heart. When they accumulate to a certain extent, they often break out in a destructive way, causing harm to themselves and others. For example, we often see people who are "good-natured", and sometimes they suddenly get angry and do things that surprise or make them regret, which is often the result of repression at ordinary times. At the same time, depression can also cause deeper inner conflicts and lead to mental illness.
We can divide bad emotions into acute and chronic. It can be said that it is an acute bad mood to get angry impulsively and make all kinds of irrational behaviors because of being * * * by the outside world. The common way to deal with this kind of bad mood is to give yourself hints and warnings in time. For example, when you feel anger is rising, say to yourself: restrain, then restrain! Or silently count from one to ten. It often takes only a few seconds or dozens of seconds to calm down your mind, and then you won't do anything you regret when you deal with the problem.
Chronic bad mood is often caused by many unpleasant things in life. The reasons for being in a bad mood may not be eliminated at once, but being trapped in a bad mood for a long time can't change the status quo, and it often makes the situation worse. If we can adjust ourselves and get rid of the control of negative emotions, we will have the strength to face the unsatisfactory reality. When you feel depressed or depressed, you can change it by distracting yourself, such as going out for a walk, listening to music, playing ball games, or shopping; You can also cry to your bosom friends. Psychological research shows that crying has a "therapeutic" function. People usually feel much better after a good cry, so you don't have to be shy about crying. You can also keep a diary or call a psychological counseling hotline to let your bad emotions vent. In addition to venting, if you can do something to change your situation, or work hard with adversity as the driving force of life, it will better help you get rid of negative emotions, because on the one hand, the process of doing things needs to be focused, so that you have no time to feel sorry for yourself; On the other hand, in the process of improving your situation, your horizons will become broader, which may give you a new view of life.
Question 8: When a person is angry, how can he control his emotions? In life, you must be open-minded, because open-minded yourself will not walk into a dead end, but also be optimistic and enterprising. Be cheerful, because a cheerful self is likely to bring happiness to others and make the atmosphere of life more pleasant. If you want to be happy all the time, you must not treat trivial matters between people as right and wrong; Some people often get into trouble, just for an unintentional sentence from others, but he deliberately accepts it and accumulates it in his heart. A person's happiness is not because he has more, but because he cares less. It is more of a burden and another kind of loss; Less is not enough, it is another kind of surplus; Giving up is not necessarily a loss, but a wider possession. A good life should always have a relaxed heart. No matter how the outside world changes, you can have a peaceful world. Quiet is not in the noise, nor in a demanding heart. Let go of obstacles and broaden your mind, and your heart will naturally be quiet and carefree. Happiness can keep the mind bright and keep some eternal peace. Our mind and artistic conception, if we can keep clear and cheerful all the time, will be displayed in the surrounding environment, which is beautiful and beautiful. Make yourself happy-1. List the things you are grateful for, be kind to others, don't hold a grudge, embrace life with childlike innocence, understand life with maturity, know how to be grateful, and be kind to those who have been kind to you. 2. Develop your hobbies, maintain a strong curiosity and thirst for knowledge, and maintain a healthy body and mind. 3. Establish contact with others and talk with friends and relatives more, because people have limited energy and want to. Reduce unnecessary interpersonal constraints. 4. Take care of yourself. Don't deliberately change yourself by trying to impress others, deliberately plant flowers, but not willows. 5. Competition with excellence rather than others, progress is the greatest victory; Competing with yourself instead of others, defeating yourself is the biggest winner. 6. Accept the fact that your ability is limited, choose what you really want to do in this life, and who you really want to love. 7. Eliminate hostility and aggression, try to cooperate with others instead of competing alone, make decisions on problems and improvise. 8. Learn to chat and care about others, and don't take yourself too seriously. Try not to give others the feeling of selfishness. 9. Don't complain about unimportant things, don't always take things seriously, don't blame yourself for all your faults, keep looking for new hobbies, and care about recent current events and new things around you. Make more friends, be proactive, communicate more with activists, and try to avoid contact with negative people. Unless you can change him, you will be changed by him. Different choices make different lives 1 1. Love life rather than return, full of freshness to life. Know that the sun is new every day 12. If your own financial ability allows, you might as well find a time to play, such as traveling during the holidays and hiking in a place you have been longing for for for a long time. You are doing very well. Celebrate yourself, even if you are the only one at the party. Helping others to do something will make you happy, especially when others are in trouble. You will get far more than your contribution. Don't distort other people's criticism, but know how rare it is to hear others' positive and objective comments on yourself, and be calm. 16. Take part in moderate exercise for a certain period of time, get up ten minutes early, and be sure to sit and have breakfast 17. Try to keep yourself busy and eliminate nervousness and fear 18. Know what you can and should do, don't be afraid to face your limited ability, give yourself an objective evaluation and know yourself. Get rid of the mentality of being too high and too low. 19. Learn to calm yourself, keep a normal heart, and don't care too much about small things. It's hard to be confused. 20. Act with your own opinions and principles, and don't take the likes and dislikes of others as the standard of your actions. 2 1. Get rid of things that are a burden to you and stop doing things that make you feel bored. 22. See the bright side of things. Don't go to extremes and eat too much. 23. Try to do something new to enrich your life and give up unimportant things. Listening to music, reading books and newspapers are the best ways to improve your interest. 24. Understand that good motives may not bring good results, but you can't ... >>
Question 9: How to control your emotions, read more books and increase your connotation. Don't try to change, just be yourself.
Question 10: How to control your emotions without being impulsive? Impulsive emotions are actually the most powerless emotions and the most destructive emotions. Many people will do things they regret when they are impulsive. Therefore, some positive and effective measures should be taken to control their impulsive emotions. (1) First, mobilize your reason, control your emotions and calm yourself down. When you encounter strong emotions, you should force yourself to calm down, quickly analyze the cause and effect of things, and then take measures to express emotions or eliminate impulses, so as not to fall into an impulsive, reckless and simple passive situation. For example, when you are satirized and laughed at by others, if you are furious and retorted, it is likely to cause disputes between the two sides, and the anger is getting bigger and bigger, which naturally does not help. However, if you can remind yourself to calm down at this time and take rational countermeasures, such as using silence as a weapon to show * * *, or expressing your hurt in a few words and accusing the other party of being bored, the other party will feel embarrassed instead. (2) Use hints to divert attention. Things that make you angry usually touch your dignity or vital interests, so it is difficult to calm down at once. Therefore, when you feel that you are very excited and can't control your emotions, you can relax yourself and encourage yourself to restrain your impulses by means of hints and distractions. It is suggested that if you are not a victim of impulse, you can deal with it later, it's no big deal, or you can do something simple instead, or go to a quiet and peaceful environment. These are all effective. People's emotions often take only a few seconds or minutes to calm down. But if the bad mood can't be transferred in time, it will be more intense. For example, the more worried people think about their worries, the more they feel that they have many reasons to worry; The more angry people think about angry things, the more they think they should be angry. According to the research of modern physiology, when people encounter dissatisfaction, anger and sadness, they will transmit unpleasant information to the brain, and gradually form a temporary connection of the nervous system, forming a dominant center, which will be consolidated more and more. If you immediately shift, think about happy things, send happy information to your brain, and strive to build a happy excitement center, you will effectively resist and avoid bad emotions. (3) After calming down, think about whether there is a better solution. When encountering conflicts, contradictions, and unsatisfactory things, you can't just escape, but you must also learn how to deal with contradictions. Generally, the following steps are taken: ① What are the main reasons for the conflict? What is the key to the differences between the two sides? ② What are the possible ways to solve the problem? ③ What solutions are unacceptable to one party to the conflict? ④ Which solutions are acceptable to both parties to the conflict? ⑤ Find the best scheme, take action and gradually accumulate experience. For example, Xiao Ming is in a bad mood these days. It turned out that he had a conflict with his father because he played football: his father asked him to give up his favorite football and concentrate on his studies; Xiaoming himself has a strong interest in football and is unwilling to give up galloping on the court. What are the solutions to the problem after the reasons for the differences are clarified? There are four schemes as follows: ① Give up football training and concentrate on study; (2) Give up football training and not concentrate on study; ③ Insist on football training, which affects learning; (4) Arrange the time reasonably, not only insist on football training, but also give consideration to study. Among them, the second and third schemes are unbearable for my father to witness, while the first and second schemes are unwilling to be accepted by Xiao Ming. Since the fourth scheme is acceptable to both sides, I might as well give it a try. (4) At ordinary times, you can carry out some targeted training to cultivate your patience. You can choose a few things that need meditation, care and patience according to your hobbies, such as practicing calligraphy, drawing and making exquisite handicrafts, which not only cultivates your temperament, but also enriches your spare time. Middle school students are young, enthusiastic, full of ideals and full of vigor. This is a period from naivety to maturity; This is a period when the inner world is not easily revealed; This is a period of coexistence of independence and dependence; This is also a period of simple thinking, little conservative thinking and enterprising spirit; At the same time, it is also a period of emotional coping style, which is easy to go to extremes and prone to mental illness. Learning to manage and control their emotions is an important foundation for middle school students to mature and succeed in life.
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