Zhou Shiyuan, a 25-year-old teacher in Tsinghua University, couldn't sleep after tossing and turning all night. He was exhausted and his head exploded. Because of frustration at work and feelings, he was unhappy and miserable, as if he were on the verge of life. Finally, he made up his mind to commit suicide!
He got out of bed, wrote a short suicide note, found a rope in the dark hall and hung himself on the door frame connecting the hall and the suite. Luckily, the rope broke and he fell. His hand groped in the dark, touched a bottle, unscrewed the lid, looked up and poured the liquid into his mouth. In an instant, his body burned violently and he fainted to the ground. ...
Since then, Zhou Shiyuan has no idea. At dawn, my colleague went to work and opened the laboratory. Too many cooks sent Zhou Shiyuan to the Third Affiliated Hospital of Peking University nearby. When the liquid test results came out, the doctor's heart was in his throat. Zhou Shiyuan drank 98% sulfuric acid!
Zhou Shiyuan's life is on the line, and the rescue is against time. The news that a teacher in Tsinghua University committed suicide by drinking sulfuric acid also spread like wildfire in the hospital. When a girl heard this, her mouth opened wide in surprise and became an O-shape. Her name is Liu Yadong, 2 1 year old, and she is a doctor in a cotton mill near Tsinghua University. Because her brother was hospitalized with rheumatic heart disease, she asked for leave to take care of him. Hearing the news of Zhou Shiyuan, she was very worried. Has the talented young man been saved?
Four days later, Zhou Shiyuan survived. 10 days later, after the critical period, he was pushed into the ward. The doctor said to the patient's family in the ward, "His family is in Shanghai and will come here soon. Please help take care of them these days. "
"I will take care of him." The speaker is a young girl. Zhou Shiyuan slowly turned her head, and the girl was beautiful and quiet, with a pair of curved smiling eyes and sweet. His heart thumped and he took a grateful look. This girl is Liu Yadong. Zhou Shiyuan lives in a ward with her brother.
Liu Yadong asked about Zhou Shiyuan's illness. The doctor told him that his mouth, stomach and esophagus were badly burned. After cleaning, he had esophageal dilatation surgery. Once the esophagus is contracted or scarred, it will lead to bleeding, so it must be observed frequently. The doctor sighed: "ruins, his body is in ruins."
Liu Yadong, who is also a doctor, took the initiative to change the medicine for Zhou Shiyuan, scrubbed his face and hands, and fed him warm water when his lips were dry ... A few days later, Zhou Shiyuan's relatives came from Shanghai and expressed their deep gratitude to Liu Yadong. At this moment, Zhou Shiyuan's face was white. Wow, blood was pouring out. Liu Yadong hurried to call the doctor again.
Zhou Shiyuan's esophageal bleeding was pushed into the operating room, the chest was opened, the trachea was cut, and the blocked residue was taken out ... Everyone felt sorry: even if he survived, he was still a medicine jar, not a disability. When he was rescued again, his patient was far away from him, and only Liu Yadong was still taking care of him. Relatives privately advised her not to do unnecessary charity. Liu Yadong said: "He is high flyers of Tsinghua, and we should help him."
After staying in bed for a month, Zhou Shiyuan went to the fields, but he had difficulty speaking and his voice was hoarse. One night in early autumn, Liu Yadong was on his way home. In the garden corridor of the hospital, he saw Zhou Shiyuan sitting alone, looking up at the starry sky. She quietly approached, sat down beside him and asked him softly, "Why are you so stupid to drink sulfuric acid?" Zhou Shiyuan hoarse voice slowly way-
He is a native of Baoshan District, Shanghai, and has four sisters and two younger brothers. He has been very clever since he was a child. After he entered Tsinghua University, he became the monitor, and the whole family was proud of him. However, after staying in school, he was assigned to the automobile major, where the bull's head did not talk. He was very depressed. Not long ago, he fell in love with a girl and dared to show his love. He was laughed at by his colleagues, ashamed of his family and committed suicide.
A talented person, especially a fragile mind. Liu Yadong knew that his illness was rooted in his heart. Zhou Shiyuan hugged his head helplessly: "Now, I am a loser in everyone's eyes ..." Liu Yadong was very sad and asked: "Do you know flamingos?" Zhou Shiyuan nodded.
"A colorful phoenix, burned by fire and reborn from the ashes, is called a flamingo. Don't you want to be a flamingo? " Before Zhou Shiyuan answered, Liu Yadong got up and walked away.
Zhou Shiyuan suddenly realized. At the same time, a faint warmth is rippling: since contact, he has fallen in love with this girl deeply, but will she like herself? She was badly hurt. Is it because of her kind help? Uneasy Zhou Shiyuan decided to cheer up first, like a flamingo reborn from the fire. Otherwise, you are not qualified to love her.
A force rose from his heart. The source of strength is Liu Yadong like a fairy. Zhou Shiyuan actively cooperated with the treatment and looked forward to spending more time with Liu Yadong every day. Occasionally, he saw Liu Yadong reading a book called Out of Depression and leafing through it quickly. The book records some of her usual rhetoric and practices. In an instant, his eyes filled with tears: what a good girl, these days with good intentions!
Four months later, Zhou Shiyuan will go back to Shanghai to recuperate. When he left, he said goodbye to Liu Yadong, and with great difficulty, he swallowed his throat and said, "I will go home tomorrow and want to buy you some presents. What do you like? " Liu Yadong couldn't understand Zhou Shiyuan's thoughts, but she was too kind and worried that refusing would hurt him again, which was not good for his recovery. She said gently, "I heard that shoes in Shanghai are very beautiful. Please help me match a pair of shoes." In this way, Zhou Shiyuan got Liu Yadong's home address.
Love for 20 years, another flamingo took you away.
After returning to Shanghai, Zhou Shiyuan missed Liu Yadong more and more. Finally, he couldn't restrain his feelings, got up the courage and poured out his bold and almost reckless extravagant hopes: "You turned on the lamp of my life and left my thoughts to me. I am eager to put this idea together. If you agree, please send me a photo of you. " When the letter was sent out, Zhou Shiyuan was uneasy and looked forward to the postman's bike stopping at his door every day.
Finally, the postman stopped at his door and handed him a letter from Beijing. Zhou Shiyuan eagerly opened the envelope. When he saw it, it was like Jin Fan's middle elevator-a four-inch photo of her was in the letter! He is very excited with a photo in his hand.
/kloc-in the summer of 0/972, Zhou Shiyuan basically recovered and prepared to report back to school, taking the opportunity to see Liu Yadong. He bought a pair of Shanghai size 37 women's shoes, some burnt salted raisins and other gifts. He knocked on the door of the Liu family with excitement and anxiety. The whole family is here. Liu Yadong's brother has also recovered. After chatting for a while, he got up the courage to confess to Liu Yadong.
The laughter came to an abrupt end. "Chou, we should help you in the hospital. If Liu Yadong misunderstood you, we apologize ... "
Liu family, scholarly family, very strict family education. After Zhou Shiyuan left, the whole family asked Liu Yadong to break up with him. The reason is simple: Zhou Shiyuan has been hit hard by this and may relapse at some point. Moreover, Liu is Hui and Zhou Shiyuan is Han. Different living habits will bring a lot of trouble ... Liu Yadong listened quietly, did not dare to refute, but shed tears for you.
That night, her mind was full of scenes with Zhou Shiyuan-she appreciated Zhou Shiyuan's talent and knew his dependence on herself. If we just don't want to hurt him, it's really exciting to leave him an address and send photos. But what the family said is also reasonable. How does she choose? The next day, she wrote to tell Zhou Shiyuan of her hesitation, and by the way, she also tested him: You won't be rejected again this time, will you? Zhou Shiyuan wrote back: A little disappointed, but the last incident won't happen. Then don't worry, he asked carefully. In fact, living habits are not a problem. If you recover in a few years, can you win the consent of your family?
Soon, he received a letter from Liu Yadong: the family promised to give it five years. After five years, he didn't get sick and agreed to our association. In Zhou Shiyuan's bitterness, he felt a little sweet. He didn't know that Liu Yadong was very happy to read his letter. I am glad that he is mature, and I am glad that his love is firm. Liu Yadong has an idea. Accompany him for life!
Her family can't play hardball with her, they know her mind. They scraped her little nose, and used a drag-and-drop tactic: It's been five years, and I'm not worried that Liu Yadong can't find a suitable family to get married. But they didn't expect that Liu Yadong didn't like any of them. Once, a friend introduced her to an office clerk. The young man is handsome and eloquent. But Liu Yadong said, "I already have someone in my heart." The other party left awkwardly.
The doctor suggested that the school approved Zhou Shiyuan to take another four-year long vacation. He wrote to Liu Yadong while reading a book about health. Sometimes letters are sent, and there is no reply for months or even half a year. He comforted himself that maybe this letter was detained by her family. He didn't guess wrong, that's the truth. In the third year of recuperation, Zhou Shiyuan went to Beijing and found Liu Yadong. After a long separation, the two agreed to wait for more than one year, and the five-year contract is coming, and they will definitely win the consent of their families. But they were wrong. 1976, Zhou Shiyuan was turned away from the Liu family. At this time, Zhou Shiyuan was 30 years old and Liu Yadong was 26 years old. When they are old enough to talk about marriage, love can't be saved.
In the same year, Zhou Shiyuan was sent to Sanmenxia Hydropower Station by Tsinghua University. Another separation, another emotional suffering. Zhou Shiyuan's family is very anxious, and his sister is running around, but Zhou Shiyuan is absent-minded. Mother and sister cried and advised him not to hang himself from a tree, but Zhou Shiyuan said that there was no room for a second person in his heart. If he can stay with Liu Yadong, he will wait for several years.
It never rains but it pours. 1979 He was unwell again, unable to eat, with a stomachache and a cold sweat. He lives in Peking University Third Hospital. After examination, his gastric mucosa was burnt into charcoal powder in many places, and he must be operated immediately. Liu Yadong rushed to the hospital after hearing the news and asked about his illness. The doctor told me that the burned part had been removed, but the concentration of sulfuric acid was too high, and his body was like a ruin. A few years later, some good parts were corroded into charcoal powder ... After two operations, his stomach was removed by 70%. In those days, Liu Ya East Railway Station was in front of Zhou Shiyuan's bed, and it was very distressing.
A few days later, Zhou Shiyuan's warmth turned into a complete apology. He took Liu Yadong's hand and said, "We are destined friends. I have kept you for so many years. You should find someone to start a family again. " Liu Ya Dongda cried for a while and said, "Remember the flamingo?" Zhou Shiyuan nodded.
"Flamingos have another feature," Liu Yadong said. "They only have one partner in their life and never give up. If one wing is broken, the other will stand alone until death do us part. " That tone, gentle and firm.
The more Liu Yadong is like this, the more Zhou Shiyuan doesn't want to delay her. He decided to let go for love. During his recuperation in Shanghai, he no longer wrote to Liu Yadong or answered Liu Yadong's letter. A year later, when Zhou Shiyuan returned to Tsinghua University, he also buried his thoughts deeply in his heart. Although he will touch Liu Yadong's photos again and again, he can't control his steps again and again. When he walks to the door of her unit, he resolutely turns back.
Maybe she is married, Zhou Shiyuan thinks so. In order to dilute his thoughts, he arranged his time very full, preparing lessons during the day, reading books at night and spending weekends in the library. During the winter and summer vacations, he was famous all over the world, even like a student, he went to Peking University, the National People's Congress, and did audits everywhere ... Life was miserable, and Zhou Shiyuan became an out-of-touch scholar.
1On August 5th, 989, Zhou Shiyuan met with Dr. Qi in the Third Hospital of Peking University. When chatting, Dr. Qi asked, "When will you and Xiao Liu get married?" I've been waiting for you 10 for years. "Zhou Shiyuan wry smile, said long time no contact. Dr. Qi was stupefied and said, "Little Liu Qu Hospital yesterday. I asked her if she was married, but she saidno. Pretend you don't want to talk. I thought you had a fight. "
Zhou Shiyuan's heart was shaking and tears welled up in his eyes. Yesterday, August 4th, was the day when I committed suicide. He soon got the inside story. Dr. Qi told him that he was transferred to China University of Political Science and Law as a school doctor three years ago ... Zhou Shiyuan arrived there by bus and found Liu Yadong sweating profusely. After more than ten years of wind and frost, both of them have entered middle age. In a restaurant, Zhou Shiyuan asked, "Aren't you married?" Liu Yadong asked, "Are you married?"
"No way." Say that finish, Zhou Shiyuan could hardly control his emotions and poured out his thoughts hidden in his heart for many years. Liu Yadong, who was never quiet, couldn't control his tears. He punched Zhou Shiyuan two or three times and said indignantly, "Do you think it's easy for me to wait for you for so many years? You hide, I thought you would really hide in my old age and come to me again. " Liu Yadong's tears wet Zhou Shiyuan's heart. He held her hand tightly and said firmly, "We will never be apart again, and no one can separate us."
I lost my voice and burst into the strongest voice: "Life can be so beautiful."
From acquaintance, to love, to reunion today, 18 years have passed. From youth to middle age, a pair of lovers finally came together. When Zhou Shiyuan proposed, Liu Yadong was very happy, but she calmed down. She said that in recent years, the family did not understand and did not support it. Now that her mother is old and her brother has a serious heart disease, the form is not important. It's good to be together.
Zhou Shiyuan agreed, and the two lived together.
However, happiness has just begun, and fate has played a big joke on them-they are in a good mood. Zhou Shiyuan worked harder. /kloc-in the summer of 0/990, the heavy editing work and often thirsty teaching task of Journal of Tsinghua University suddenly made him lose his voice!
Re-hospitalization, surgery, get through the trachea. Half a month after the operation, his voice was still unable to speak. Liu Yadong, a former doctor, was in a hurry. After taking care of him, he has been plunged into the library, and then took back a pile of medical materials and sorted them out one by one. Then, he began to guide Zhou Shiyuan to restore his language ability. The root of Zhou Shiyuan's aphasia is tracheal surgery, and insufficient airflow hinders pronunciation. On the other hand, his sudden attack on the heart caused several organs to fail to cooperate normally ... Liu Yadong first asked Zhou Shiyuan to practice his abdominal muscles and increase his air flow. At the same time, practice qigong with him every morning to promote smooth airflow. A week later, while practicing Qigong, Zhou Shiyuan suddenly stepped on a stone and almost fell down. Suddenly, there was an "ah" in his throat. Liu Yadong was surprised and happy: "Please say it again." Zhou Shiyuan did it, and sure enough, he was able to speak again! Besides, his voice is much louder than before. "My voice has recovered." When tears filled his eyes, this was the first sentence Zhou Shiyuan said.
After two months of training. On this day, Liu Yadong opened the door and listened to his chanting: "From today on, I have a sunny heart/this is the touchstone of my life/this is the magician of my life/this is the Big Dipper of my life/this is the Noah's Ark of my life/this is a wonderful lamp in my life ..." Liu Yadong smiled silently. It's not easy, this man, both physically and mentally, has stood up from the ruins!
That night, two people whispering. Liu Yadong lamented his difficulties. He smiled: "Didn't you always tell me about flamingos?" Liu Yadong unknown his intentions, nodded. "I'll tell one, too." Zhou Shiyuan said: "There was a strange bird in the ancient country of Loulan, which flew south until skyfire lit its feathers and brought it back to the ancient country of Loulan. Loulan people are called flamingos. When Prince Loulan was trapped, flamingos burst into flames, showing extraordinary strength. The whole body was covered with dazzling flames, and the sharp beak became the sharpest blade to protect the prince. " After that, Zhou Shiyuan stared at his lover deeply and added, "You are the flamingo who guards me."
199 1 In early winter, Liu Yadong received a phone call from her mother: "It's time for you to have a home after all these years. You are so loving and have gone through the formalities. " The old man's words made Liu Yadong burst into tears. Zhou Shiyuan hugged her tightly and said, "We will get the certificate tomorrow." A pair of lovers who have been waiting for more than 20 years have finally been recognized by their families.
In 2000, Zhou Shiyuan came across a sentence: "Our behavior is influenced by taste, emotion, prejudice, desire, love, fear, environment and habits, among which habits are the most powerful." He suddenly realized that that's when he began to learn "Habitology". After years of painstaking research, the habituation advocated by him has aroused strong concern. In recent years, many educational experts have set off an upsurge of habit cultivation in China. Ringo, who "studies with his feet", and Sun Yunxiao, who has published many influential educational views, all respect him as "the first person with study habits in China"-his research results will promote the leap of education quality in China.
Over the years, as an educator, speaker and psychologist, he has stood on the platform of Tsinghua, Peking University, many central organs and BOCOG for countless times, and won applause from countless audiences and students with humorous language and sincere words.
Zhou Shiyuan's fame is growing and his career is brilliant. Like a flamingo, he started from the ruins of broken body and mind, kept running and finally took off. From beginning to end, he was accompanied by his lover, another flamingo, Liu Yadong.
I thank my wife for waiting like a flamingo to commemorate my rebirth. 20/kloc-in June of 0/3, Zhou Shiyuan wrote a new book "Life can be so unexpectedly beautiful" (Tsinghua University Publishing House). In the preface, he ridiculed himself as "the person who suffered the worst failure on campus in Tsinghua". Fortunately, "I am full of confidence because I lost to the end, a precious love in the world."
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Professor Tsinghua University is an expert on the habits of public speakers.
Zhou Shiyuan, an orator from Tsinghua campus, is an expert in habit research.
Zhou Tuyuan 1946 was born in Baoshan, Shanghai, and 1970 graduated from Tsinghua University, where he stayed as a teacher. 1983- 1988 auditioned in Peking University and took various humanities courses. 1990 joined the business community in Tsinghua campus, and resigned after 1997. At present, he is a contracted lecturer in courses such as Excellent Life Self-management, Sunshine Mentality and the Art of Leaders' Speech of Tsinghua University Institute of Continuing Education, director of the expert committee of the Scientific Health Care Research Society of China Gerontology Society, and honorary president of Beijing Carnegie School.
Zhou Shiyuan has rich experience and rough experiences. When he was young, he was in a desperate situation and his body and mind almost collapsed. Fortunately, under the care of countless good people, he came back from the dead and got a second life. After that, inspired by Tsinghua University's motto of self-improvement, he worked hard and explored hard. On the basis of summarizing various successful ideas at home and abroad, he finally found a way to make people break through, surpass and turn defeat into victory. With this road to success, he not only rose from the ruins of life, but also created one miracle after another. Because of this, his speeches in Tsinghua University, Peking University, directly under the authority Affairs Bureau of the General Office of the Central Committee, directly under the authority Affairs Bureau of the State Council, 2008 Olympic Organizing Committee, Shanghai TV's Oriental Forum and other places were truly touching, tear-jerking, exciting and inspiring, which almost shocked the hearts of every audience and said that "listening to your words is better than reading for ten years." The feeling. Zhou Shiyuan's book "The Wealth of Life" won the "Eighth National Excellent Youth Reading Award". I know, but I have to! This book, widely praised, "know, do more!" The important concept of "University of Science and Technology" evolved into a current political examination question in the 2008 national entrance examination for graduate students in politics and metallurgy.
Zhou Shiyuan's life mission is to inspire the lives of thousands of people in Qian Qian with several books and countless speeches, just like Carnegie in the United States.
Source: CNTV
More than a thousand citizens listened to Professor Tsinghua University's lecture on "habit"
Yesterday morning, the Red Star Grand Theatre was packed, and the first lecture in 2008 was held at the Longcheng Forum and Citizen Class. More than a thousand citizens braved the heavy snow to listen to Professor Zhou Shiyuan's Habits in Tsinghua University, and shared his experience in habit research.
The power of "custom culture"
In his speech entitled "The Road to Success-Habit Makes the Future", Zhou Shiyuan first described the process of becoming attached to "Habitology" with his unique life experience. He pointed out that habits don't just refer to "small habits" such as brushing your teeth and washing your face. A good method, concept, way of thinking and mental state should all become habits. We often narrow our habits, in fact, all aspects related to quality should become habits. More importantly, many questions should not only be known, but also be done. This requires us to constantly develop good habits and overcome bad habits.
In order to prove to the audience that a good habit can often make many impossible things possible, Zhou Shiyuan also performed a difficult bending and splitting action on the spot, which won applause from the audience present.
The "Five Rules of Behavior" of Habit
Zhou Shiyuan pointed out that habit is the key link, and the key link is the public. Habit is closely related to action. He summed up the "five movements" rule of habit: first, start, that is, put an idea into action immediately. The second is constant exercise, that is, constant exercise, from quantitative change to qualitative change.
The third is automation, which is to make habits become natural. The fourth is perpetual motion machine, which means that tenacity and perseverance come from habit in essence. The fifth is happiness, that is, you are happy with what you are used to. We should constantly break through and surpass ourselves and let life enter a virtuous circle.
When talking about how to use the "habit formula" to solve the memory problem, Zhou Shiyuan performed live again. He pulled out five pieces of paper with 300 telephone numbers, mobile phone numbers, etc. Distribute them to five listeners. Then he asked them to read a person's name at random to test whether he could recite the number accurately. As a result, Zhou Shiyuan, who was over sixty, really recited five figures word for word.
"Four-step Magic" to Cultivate Habits
How to form a habit? Zhou Shiyuan introduced the four-step magic of cultivating habits. The first step is necessity. When you want to form a habit, consider whether it is necessary to strengthen the strong motivation to cultivate the habit. The second step is feasibility. To form a habit, we should consider whether it is feasible and cultivate it rationally and scientifically. The third step is strategy. In the initial stage of cultivating habits, we should pay attention to "easy", "little" and "small" and gradually develop habits. The fourth step is operability. Record, remind and check your habit-forming process with the "one-minute self-cultivation log", so as to achieve "simple things to do, simple things to repeat, repeated things to do seriously, and serious things to do creatively."
Zhou Shiyuan also pointed out that it takes an average of 2 1 day to form a habit. The first three days are the hardest, you need to stick to it. After three months of consolidation, habits can basically be formed.
Source: Changzhou Daily
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