I did meet a man who was good at praising others, but he was very clever. Once, a friend named Wang and I went to an antique shop in the city to meet a friend. When I got there, he introduced me to my friends, because I didn't make any achievements in literature and I didn't have much popularity in the local area. He praised me in front of my friends and asked me to write couplets for my friends on the spot. Because the inscribed couplets were very successful, he praised me for being more energetic. I am full of praise, unnatural. On the way back from saying goodbye to my friends, I said, "Brother, you embarrassed my brother today. I am very embarrassed, don't do this again. "
Who knows, the old friend smiled and said, "You are wrong. I'm not praising you today, I'm raising me. I praise you to heaven, but I command you to listen to me completely. That's not because I'm taller than you. "
I see. This is great. In contrast, some people are wrong. When they meet people, they are always afraid that others are taller than themselves and try their best to show themselves, and the result is to belittle themselves.
Hello, I'm a mind reader and a psychological counselor.
This kind of person who always praises others at random has a different psychological situation. Everyone's personality characteristics and growth environment are different, and personal expressions are also different.
People who are always boasting at random may have several psychological conditions.
First, flatter others. It is what people often say "flattery". Flattering others is to cater to others and praise their advantages and superiority. In life and work, we often meet some people who falsely praise their superiors or friends with interests for their own interests or superficial relationships, so as to make people understand him, which means "I am loyal, I am subordinate" and so on. The essence they represent is to flatter others and cater to others' behavior for their own benefit.
Second, express the meaning of friendship. In our interpersonal communication, some people like to praise others and speak quickly, which has no practical purpose. They only want to get the friendliness of others in their own friendly way, but they express themselves in different ways and like to praise them to shorten the distance. When getting along with others, he shows his praise and respect for others to express his friendly and kind attitude.
Third, truly express your inner worship. Many people praise others from the heart, especially when their social status is very different or their living conditions are very different. It is a heartfelt admiration and admiration, so they show endless and even exaggerated praise.
The above considerations may not be comprehensive, but I hope everyone can study together. For those who praise others, their reputation in society is still good. No matter what their purpose is, they will always praise others and will not be hostile.
I'm glad to answer your question.
The psychology of people who brag at random may have these kinds:
1 is a shallow person with no calculation. He thinks it is always good to praise others, so when he meets people, he praises others without foundation, and may be arrogant. This is a casual compliment, without carefully observing the uniqueness of others, not specific, and not boasting to the point.
2. Casual boasting can also make people feel such disgust:
(1) Flattery, flattery, deliberately pandering, feeling that he has other plans.
(2) It may make people feel that he is laughing at each other, poking fun at each other, and even feel that he is attacking others, as if someone who praises others casually is saying irony. For example, if you are fat, he praises you for being slim; You obviously stutter, and he says you can talk! Your child is naughty and doesn't get good grades, but he praises your child for his cleverness and good grades, and says he envies you.
In short, people who praise others casually either don't take themselves to heart, make up stories casually, and feel heartless; Or with ulterior motives, ridicule and attack each other in a boastful way.
Cheerful personality. Unrealistically praising others is to be nice, but to let others give themselves a little friendship. This kind of person is actually inferior at heart. Lest others look down on themselves.
I think people who always praise others casually are the smartest people.
Think about it: is this person really right or wrong, good or bad?
Don't! The reason why he praises people carelessly (please note that it is "careless" with quotation marks) is because he is familiar with the benefits of "lowering everyone's age and increasing money when encountering goods" and "seeing through"! It is the philosophy of "double insurance"! !
Let's make a comparison: how many people will like those who have straightforward comments on others, one is one, the other is two, Ding is Ding, Mao is Mao, which is objective?
As the saying goes, "the authorities are fascinated, and the onlookers are clear." "Qing" and "Fan" do not quarrel when they meet! Such examples are not uncommon.
So I said, for such a person who always praises others at random, we should not doubt his character or guess what bad psychology he has. Maybe he is better, smarter and more capable than us.
All diseases are the first "God" disease!
The first stage of "God" disease.
Disturbed, uncertain, inattentive,
Sensitive, easily moved by the outside world, tempted, emotional, strong sexual desire, poor self-control,
In daily life, poor sleep, easy to wake up, fear of noise, fear of the dark and fear of ghosts are all weaknesses of God.
God is very sick,
Form and spirit are separated, heart and mouth are different, and exterior and interior conflict.
You're not with yourself anymore. You didn't mean it!
Even the emotions can't be sent out, or too much is sent.
The source of all things—
Is an intangible thought, spirit,
Then energy, then matter.
All diseases, and the beginning of this world, come from this road!
Too much-
For example, many computer games and TV variety shows are "too many" now.
The purpose is to exaggerate and incite emotional outbursts.
Create obsessed fans, generate income,
Confusing people.
Less than-
Depress when you should be happy. If you get used to it, you will really be unhappy.
Too much, not enough, is not normal.
Sometimes it is not normal to be out of breath.
I suddenly cried when I was supposed to be happy.
I was sad at first, but I forced myself to be strong.
There are many such situations in real life, which is not normal!
When your mind turns, your spirit will turn and the direction of the train of life will turn.
When a person's body is seriously ill, it has already been the wrong direction of the life train! ! ! ! !
But one thing must be remembered,
Faith can be reversed at any time,
When faith changes, the air can be corrected at any time.
Many people know nothing about their life, inner state and physical and mental feelings.
However, I expect that medical western medicine and what nutrients I eat can change my physique!
But our body and mind are a combination of spirit and matter, and we must rely on them to change, no!
What is the quiet state of meditation?
It is the "unity of form and spirit" or "unity of form and spirit" in Huangdi Neijing.
Many diseases now stem from the lack of "remission".
Such as neurasthenia, anxiety and bipolar disorder. , are common in this era.
The social rhythm is too fast,
Everyone unconsciously falls into a state of rapid and anxious mental and psychological life.
If you are too anxious, God will float outside, qi will fluctuate, you will be nervous and confused, and your physiological function will be abnormal.
We ask for one thing, one person or one thing,
There are always many ambitious development plans.
Always thinking, thinking far away.
Or pay attention to a person or a thing, never forget,
The delusion of desire keeps thinking about this and that, or other people's stories.
This is that foreign things are real,
Now I lose my feelings for myself.
This state is called "separation of form and spirit" in Chinese medicine.
Real health care is to feel for yourself!
Why are there more and more diseases and more difficult to treat? We can find the reason here.
There is a dialogue in Huangdi Neijing:
"The emperor said," why haven't you achieved anything when you are bleeding? "
The yellow emperor asked zeebe way:
When a person's body is broken and qi and blood are exhausted, it is difficult to get effective treatment. Why?
"Zipo said: God will not make it."
The patient's air did not play its due role, and the doctor could not mobilize it.
The Yellow Emperor then asked: What is God's failure?
Qi Bo replied, "Needle stone, Tao Ye.
If the spirit does not advance, the will can't be cured, so the disease can't be cured.
When the soul leaves, Wei Rong can't take it back.
who is it?
Endless lust, endless troubles,
The essence is bad, and the glory and tears are removed, so God is gone and can't recover. "
Chinese medicine believes that all diseases are God's diseases,
Then gas diseases, then blood diseases,
What finally came? Morphological diseases.
Every emotional flow,
The body will leave traces.
We have the ability to heal ourselves.
Don't do to others what you don't want!
Doubt comes from my own thinking.
No matter what kind of injury you have suffered,
There is only one purpose, that is, one day no longer suffer any harm!
Unhappy message, tell you:
Need to learn happy topics.
Anger is to cover up deeper pain.
What we can't learn is,
Will always be left to us to complete.
Pain is not real, all pain comes from persistence.
Willing to face the pain and choose to forgive.
Instead of getting back at those people you think have caused you pain.
Face the fear,
What we dare to face will eventually melt into the light of joy.
Emotion comes from mind, and mind creates reality.
Others just triggered my pain, and the pain is actually in my heart.
Perception withers the false impermanence,
Truth will grow.
Compassion is the ability to put yourself in others' shoes.
Depressed emotions, seemingly calm,
However, the energy of that emotion has not been guided, and it is still rolling inside.
The essence of emotion is the energy in the body.
When we are angry, wronged or sad.
Energy is trapped in the body,
It is bound to produce uncomfortable feelings.
Instead of bypassing the mind, it is better to start directly from the body.
Feel that kind of energy crowding,
Don't judge, stay awake, give it some time and wait for it to flow away.
When energy flows smoothly again, negative emotions will naturally disappear.
As practitioners learn more and more about the truth of life,
His concern for personal happiness, reputation and ease will be less and less.
Understanding impermanence can cultivate our sense of hardship in practice.
None of us has much time,
Today may be the last day of your life,
Tonight's dinner may be your last meal. There is absolutely no guarantee that everyone will live to tomorrow, let alone "forever".
In this dangerous and unhealthy world,
Now, people who are fifty can live to be eighty.
This should be regarded as a rather remarkable achievement.
People in their fifties have lived for most of their lives.
amitabha
Carelessness and humor
Still don't care about other people's feelings.
Or I don't want to cause trouble, and I think boasting at least won't cause trouble!
Or brainwashed by others, thinking that praising others is a good social behavior, so as to praise others casually without knowing what others think.
A person who is convenient for others and himself. Two kinds of people get more smiling faces. Three kinds of people unite with all those who can unite.
This is a pleasing personality trait. He actually knows that he is insincere, but he just can't help it. There is no need to be serious in this case. After listening to his words, we will overcome it. Often such people are timid, and sometimes they are too cautious and treat them better.
I want to attract attention. This is the kind of good man. I can't offend people, I don't care, I don't deserve to make friends.