As the saying goes, "height is not a gap, and age is not a problem." How old is the difference between brother and sister?

Ruby Lin is three years behind Wallace Huo, is five years behind Gao Yuanyuan and Mark Chao, Huo Siyan is five years behind Du Jiang, Lin Chi-ling is seven years behind Akira, Alyssa Chia is nine years behind Xiujiekai, and Zhong Liti is twelve years behind Zhang Lunshuo. They are all very happy together.

But if we really want to talk about a brother-sister relationship, besides having a strong heart to resist the pressure of society and family, the root of happiness lies in factors other than age.

According to a survey conducted by the Social Science Data Research Center of Fudan University, women are 3-4 years older than men and have the highest happiness index. This actually tells us a truth: the psychological age of men and women with this age difference is basically matched.

In the movie Brothers Sleeping in the Upper Bed, Yang Guo, who is about to graduate from college, is young and frivolous, and has nothing to do with maturity and stability.

Xu Meixin (Qin Lan), an older woman, is considerate, elegant, mature and generous. On the first day of internship, Yang Guo fell in love with Xu Meixin at first sight and expressed his love bluntly.

Xu Meixin is six or seven years older than Yang Guo, and Yang Guo is not her expected partner. She didn't want to and didn't have the courage to accept her sister-in-law's love.

But what happened next made Xu Meixin identify him.

In the workplace, when Xu Meixin was about to be molested by her business partner, Yang Guo was in a hurry to "dive" to protect her and accidentally scratched her.

Yang Guo didn't shy away from the finger pointing and gossip of his colleagues. Like is like, has nothing to do with others.

Yang Guo just graduated from college and got a job that others dreamed of, but in order to fall in love with Xu Meixin cleanly, she resigned decisively.

This brother who is not on the right path is firm and responsible for love, which is a man's performance. What is Xu Meixin worried about?

Therefore, although a man is small, he is still a woman's dependence, and although a woman is big, she is still a man's cuteness.

Otherwise, Qin Hao always said that Yi Nengjing was "made" and "made" very cute; Otherwise, Christy Chung will always be the romantic little woman in front of Zhang Lun's great masculinity; Otherwise, Gao Yuanyuan always looks at Mark Chao lovingly.

Like ordinary love, the psychological age of successful brother-sister love is actually similar.

I have heard a saying: "the reliable standard of brother-sister love is that there is no generation gap between the two sides, and their psychological age is similar, but they met a little late, that's all."

Tu Lei, an emotional expert, said: In order to succeed in the relationship between brothers and sisters, the elder sister can't seniority, and the younger brother can't pamper himself.

This is probably the case with the unsuccessful brother-sister relationship. In the process of getting along with men, women have misplaced roles. She has been playing "mother" or "strong woman", and men are "lazy sons" or "soft rice men" in front of women.

In Lazy Son, women eat and drink Lazar, and men either ask for more or rebel and flee.

"Soft rice man", when he first met a woman, was poor and white and bored with women. With the support of women, he even started a company and became the boss, so he wanted to leave the woman on the grounds that he had no "love".

In an emotional program, 22-year-old Zhou Xiao and 28-year-old Xiao Liang experienced a brotherly love. My younger brother Zhou Xiao likes to cling to his elder sister, who is independent. She doesn't like people clinging to him, and she doesn't like cuddling in public. She often trains him like a "son", which makes Zhou Xiao very uncomfortable.

Therefore, in these two "sister-in-law" relationships, women are in a dominant position and condescending, which violates the principle of "equality" between husband and wife.

Mrs. Carnegie, an American educator, said: "Being like-minded with her husband is the foundation of a happy marriage."

Brother-sister love can be discussed. It is very important not to look at the external age gap, but to look at the psychological age, whether the sister-in-law relationship can be happy, and the inner maturity of men.

A man's immaturity has nothing to do with his age, but with his education, growing environment, experience and personality. Some men are old and can't afford anything all their lives. Some men are young, but they know how to be independent and responsible.

When a man is mature enough to take care of your feelings, care about your emotions, meet your expectations and care about your every detail, then although he is younger than you, he is actually a qualified other half, which can bring you happiness.

How to treat psychological age, I think there are the following points:

First, the communication is relatively smooth, and the speech is basically on one channel;

Second, hobbies are basically the same. Men like to stay up late to make friends and play games, while women like to be quiet and enterprising and can't play together.

Third, the three views are basically the same, and the views on the problem will not differ much;

The fourth is to maintain independent personality and respect each other, so that women are not strong and men are not overly dependent.

Conclusion: Woman, if you are still hesitant about "sister-in-law's love", besides love, it depends on whether the psychology is in tune.