What are the four manifestations of emotional giant babies?

1, out of control

In the definition of cognitive psychology, emotion is characterized by impulsiveness, which leads some individuals to lose control, which is also the reason why many people easily lose control of their emotions.

When we talk about managing emotions, we don't mean suppressing them. Excessive inhibition will lead to hidden dangers of monitoring, such as gastrointestinal problems and endocrine disorders.

To manage emotions, we must first change our cognitive and thinking patterns.

Alice, an American psychologist, put forward the concept that cognition determines emotion in his emotional ABC theory. He believes that a person's cognition and evaluation of stimulating events determines his mood and behavior. When the rational brain can't replace the perceptual brain, your emotions will be infinitely amplified.

2, easy to be self-centered.

Due to the lack of growth, emotional giant babies tend to be "self-centered" when facing their own desires or etiquette problems.

Being self-centered and not seeing good scenery will only make you fall into the whirlpool of anxiety and irritability.

Step 3 avoid mistakes

Perceptual error, rational brain can't beat perceptual brain, but rational brain works normally.

I don't want to admit anything, but I'm always used to confronting many problems with rebuttals. I feel that the outside world is not safe, and I need to spread thorns to fight it myself.

4. Poor emotional and state stability.

Emotions are sometimes like a black hole, sucking up people around you, especially those closest to you, and letting others pay for their emotions at any time.

These two life rules are not the secret of keeping in good health, but a very simple way of life.

Rule one, don't waste your energy on trifles; Second, everything is a small matter.

Life is always asking for trouble. If you let your emotions intervene, life is like a mess, and your mood is naturally not much better. It is the best practice for a person to learn to adjust his emotions.

How to get along with emotional giant babies

1, see what they "lack"

Interaction between parents and children. If we go back to Home of Origin, we usually find that the parents of emotional giant babies don't know how to control their emotions themselves. Therefore, in their childhood, they will face a lot of denial, attack and neglect, and they don't know how to recognize their emotions.

If this emotional baby happens to be a family member you care about, you might as well "look" at his mood. You must tell him: "I know you are in a bad mood. I know you may be hurt. Do you need a rest? " These words will make up for his lack of childhood feelings to some extent.

2. Draw a clear line and don't do anything drastic.

Man is an animal that can sum up experience. Many times, when emotional giants find that their "little tricks" seem to be quite effective, they will do the same thing again and again, using emotions as weapons in conflicts again and again.

When you are attacked by emotional giants, you must first realize that they are not attacking you, but opening their childhood emotional wounds and saying in a voice you can't hear: Take care of me! Come and feed me!

At this time, the sense of boundary is particularly important. You fight hard with him, in fact, you meet his unreasonable expectations in disguise-but you can't cure him. Tell each other gently and firmly: if you want to solve the problem, you must first restrain your emotions.

3. Demonstrate how to recognize emotions and face the essence of problems.

To exaggerate, emotional giant babies often present two extreme groups, one is the group that lacks love and mother, and the other is the group that is overprotected or spoiled by parents.

Therefore, these two types of people, one is completely unaware of where their emotions come from and where they are going; Another kind of emotion is taken care of by parents.

In short, no one has the ability to manage emotions. Therefore, as people around us, we should actually become their "model parents", remold each other's hearts with inclusive, positive and rational love, and give them accurate reminders and guidance when their emotions are about to erupt.

People's growing environment is really "dynamic", full of uncertainty and hope. Therefore, the emotional giant babies created by childhood emotional deficiency are definitely not a group of people who can't be redeemed.

Because they lack love, they need people around them to nourish them with more rational, firm and wise love.