Don't force children.
Parents can't underestimate their children's abilities, but they can't force them to do things beyond their power.
We want our children to try new things and become more independent. But if they are not ready, we will force them. This may backfire and make children feel frustrated and defeated. If they dare not try new things, they will rely more on us.
Let children choose some simple tasks to do first, such as packing toys, making beds, or putting books in their schoolbags.
Make children feel more involved.
In order to make children more independent, they can be involved in doing some housework, such as setting the table and watering the plants.
Letting children participate in housework will make him realize that his participation and contribution are very important and will make children grow up in different roles.
Set a fixed time for independent training.
A fixed schedule will help children grow up, and it is no exception when learning to be independent. Set a fixed time every day for children to try new skills, such as folding paper towels and cleaning tables.
When the child does well, parents must praise the child in time, but praise the child's attempts and efforts to complete the task, rather than praise the results, which will make the child more willing to try.
Let the children make decisions.
According to the child's ability, you can gradually try to let the child make some decisions and let the child know that his ideas are valued. For example, you can let your child decide whether to eat apples or bananas. Should I wear red or blue shoes when I go out?
Letting children make their own decisions will give them a sense of control over their lives and encourage them to think independently.
Give children timely support.
Making children independent does not mean helping children when they need help, regardless of them. For example, if a child is injured or afraid, offering help will not prevent him from becoming independent.
When children feel safe and calm, they will try to become more independent. Making children feel comfortable and care about them is not encouraging independent enemies, but the best support for independence.
Of course, supporting children does not mean rushing in and doing things perfectly when they are depressed, but encouraging children to find their own ways.
Stop using baby language
What kind of language people accept determines what kind of life they are in. So are the children.
Therefore, don't babble with your baby, but express it in the language between normal adults. For example, instead of asking "Do you want to drink water", ask "Do you want to drink water?" .
Ask your child for help.
Children depend on their parents most of the time. Teacher Jia Hezao suggested that you can also ask your children to help you.
For example, or study how a toy works. You can say, "I don't know what to do. Do you have an idea? " Or simply say, "Can you help me?" This will make children feel important and proud of it, enhance their self-confidence and make them more willing to be independent ~