Kong Ziyun: "Forty is not confusing".

But when the threshold of forty is really in front of us, we find that forty is both confused and difficult.

Life is a chicken feather, work is a place, health is declining, and the future is in a fog.

But as Liang Shiqiu said:

When people reach middle age, they should not be knocked down by the violence of life, nor should they be lost by the world.

In the face of various contradictions in life, we should not escape, but learn to choose.

If you choose correctly, life will naturally be smooth sailing.

There are seats on one side and children on the other.

It is said that middle-aged people carry three mountains on their backs: making money, old people and children.

There are old people and young people in this world, and all the burdens are shouldered.

The pressure of life and the responsibility of family urge us to run forward and create a better life for our families.

I can run farther and farther away from my original intention, have more and more dinners, work longer and longer, but spend less and less time with my family.

Diana once said, "The real success is to spend time with your family."

Bloom will open again, but life is gone forever.

Children grow up only once and have limited time to spend with their families. If they miss it, they will regret it.

I once saw a short film called * * * Enjoy Dad.

William is an employee of a company called * * * Enjoy Dad. His daily job is to provide the service of renting out his father to those families who need his father's company.

These families are not without fathers, just because their fathers are too busy to spend time with their families.

As the backbone of the company, William worked hard and successfully played the father of more than 200 families, and was deeply proud of this work.

Until one day, he doubted himself for the first time.

That night, William came home and saw a happy birthday party in the room through the window glass. A father was played by a colleague.

He suddenly realized that he was playing someone else's father in a hurry, but forgot that he was also the father of the child.

At the end of the short film, William said:

The rest of my life is expensive, and time with my family is never wasted.

When I have it, I always feel that life is very long and I don't care about the company for a moment;

But when you lose it, you will find that the bonds between families are so fragile.

Children grow up and have no time to be close to you; Parents are old, you don't know.

Career, you can always do addition; Life is always subtraction.

But even if my career is successful, I can't keep up with the passage of time and make up for the lack of companionship.

Life comes and goes, and the future is not long.

When people reach middle age, they should find a balance between career and family. While fighting for your career, you should also accompany your family and be gentle with the years.

One side is face, and the other side is "lining"

Middle-aged people generally have two faces: they wear masks in front of them and are exquisite in all directions; People shed their disguises and returned to loneliness.

Jiang Wen once said: "Middle age is an age of laughter."

They live themselves into a "face", constantly establish relationships with each other, and call a once-in-a-lifetime friend and a once-in-a-lifetime friend personal contact.

Walking, you will find that your "brother" has forgotten your appearance, and you have already forgotten the name of "good friend" in your circle of friends.

A psychological study proves that the number of friends in a person's life is limited.

There are 60 people who have vague impressions of each other and have no substantive communication;

There are 30 people who are familiar with each other and communicate occasionally;

The only true friend who knows the root and the bottom is 10.

In other words, most of the connections we have spent a lot of time building are invalid.

In our life, we meet many people, but we are rarely called bosom friends.

Instead of letting yourself be kidnapped by social "face", it is better to break up with your heart and leave a "lining" that can really talk to you.

Among the four gifted scholars in Wuzhong in Ming Dynasty, Tang Bohu was the most sociable, while Wen Zhiming was the most "homebody".

Unlike Tang Bohu, who is romantic, open-minded and has many friends, Wen Zhiming is a person who doesn't like to socialize.

On one occasion, Ning Wang Zhu recruited talents in Suzhou. Tang Bohu persuaded Wen Zhiming to go with him, but Wen Zhiming was willing to be indifferent and unwilling to go.

But what happened?

Tang Bohu made friends everywhere, but he was framed and imprisoned during his scientific research. After becoming a guest of the public, he was implicated in the rebellion in Wang Ning.

Those friends who used to be his brothers stayed away from him when Tang was not backward.

Wen Zhiming either doesn't make friends or makes friends with his heart.

Although his friends are not many, they are all celebrities, such as Tang Bohu, Zhu Zhishan, Xu Zhenqing, Cai Yu and Tang Zhen.

He communicates with friends and improves himself; Help each other and tide over the difficulties together.

Yi Shu once said:

The sea of people is vast, and most people we meet can only accompany us for a journey.

But true friends are hard to find.

People who are meaningless to you in the circle of friends, or people who push a cup with you in the hustle and bustle, are all vanity "faces".

True friends don't mean what they say, they don't ask for it blindly, they are as plain as water, but they can moisten things quietly.

These friends are real "Gigi Lai".

Ge Hong said:

The quality of friends is not quantity. Only by giving up the illusory "face" can he win the most precious "lining".

On the one hand, it is life-saving, on the other hand, it is hard work.

"Zhi Yi" said:

Before the age of forty, I always felt that I had endless energy and could squander it unscrupulously;

After forty years old, powerlessness will follow, physical function will gradually age, and health will gradually decline.

But for middle-aged people, this seems to be an inescapable fate.

When people reach middle age, making money has become an unshirkable responsibility, and the price paid is health.

So "soaking Lycium barbarum in a thermos cup" has become the standard for middle-aged people. They are busy running around, drinking Lycium barbarum water in a thermos for health.

Overdraft your health in order to make money, and use the money you earn to maintain your health. In the long run, it will form a vicious circle.

Spinoza said: "Health is a responsibility."

I'm impressed.

Hua Shao, the host of Zhejiang Satellite TV, blew himself up in the program.

Daily high-intensity hosting work, staying up late is commonplace; At work, it is often inevitable to drink and vomit.

Long-term irregular work and rest, unhealthy diet and great mental stress made his body collapse soon.

In the worst case, two blood vessels burst and vomited blood 500cc at a time.

From then on, Hua Shao began to reflect: Is it wrong to put money before health?

I have heard the saying: "Health is 1, others are 0." Without the preceding 1, 0 is still a 0. "

Unfortunately, we often put the cart before the horse, squander our bodies desperately and pursue money and fame.

As everyone knows, everything you have worked so hard to build will collapse as long as you have a serious illness.

The health of middle-aged people is a responsibility.

With health, we have the capital to continue to struggle and the guarantee to enjoy life.

Remember, life is not a sprint, but a marathon.

Don't let yourself give up halfway, and don't carry it hard when you are tired.

Only by slowing down, resting your feet and knowing how to accumulate strength for your body can you continue to exert your strength in the second half.

On the one hand, it is supporting the elderly, on the other hand, it is afraid of old age.

Yu Dafu wrote a poem:

When we were young, we all dreamed of "retirement", hoping to realize the dream of planting flowers, raising fish and traveling around the world as soon as possible.

But when this day really approaches, the fact of "getting old" is presented to us without reservation.

So worrying about anxiety has become the norm for middle-aged people.

Worried about No Country for Old Men, worried about being rejected, worried about not saving enough money.

But in fact, aging is a natural transition from the beginning to the end of the life chain.

Instead of dwelling on the final result, it is better to live every moment carefully.

When I read the story of teenagers, an old man left a deep impression on me.

His grandson shouted from the high platform: "Grandma, you are over 70 years old, and you are not young. Can you save your mind and stop going out to work? "

Grandma asked, "What do you think a 70-year-old should do?"

The teenager said, "Take the baby, take a walk, play mahjong and dance square dance."

Grandma said, "Some old people do, but that's not my life. I hope to have my own life value. "

A person's aging is never an increase in age, but a negative mentality.

Liang Shiqiu said: "Forty years old is only the beginning of life."

Life is not a narrow and dark forest, but a wider and wider avenue.

Huang Zongjiang said in "Three Records of the Liyuan":

Why are people who live seriously afraid of getting old?

Live a good life on the way to old age, don't worry about the future, and don't miss every moment of the present.

Don't be confused, don't be trapped in love, don't be afraid of the future, and don't miss the past.

Pave the road ahead, and the road behind will naturally not be bad.

I walked for half my life and flashed into middle age.

Pressure and responsibility follow, glitz and noise follow, and we are at the center of all kinds of contradictions.

In fact, every stage of life will encounter all kinds of problems, and the key lies in how you choose.

Choose the person you cherish, and you won't regret it if you miss it;

Choose what is important to you, and you won't regret choosing the wrong one;

Choose the road that suits you, and you won't get lost because of confusion.

For the rest of my life, I hope you can afford it and put it down; I can hold it, but I can see it.

Light up the watch, I hope you can face the storm in your life bravely, and you can also open a small flower in your yard indifferently.