It is also advisable to get angry properly. Looking at the world from another angle is broad.
Scientific research has proved that proper anger is good for your health!
One day, a big boss was walking outside the door and overheard one of his employees complaining that the company's salary was too low and the working hours were long. The boss refused to promote him. The boss was so angry that he almost wanted to go over and scold him at once. But he still stood for a while, and when his anger subsided a little, he went over to the clerk and asked, "Hello, have you been wronged recently?"
The employee panicked and said, "Nothing! I feel very good! "
The boss still said cheerfully, "Didn't you just say that you work too much and the company treats you badly?"
Deeply disturbed, the employee finally admitted what he had just said and said that the biggest reason for his unhappiness was that he broke a car tire in the mud last night.
When the employee told his boss about his unhappiness, his mood suddenly relaxed a lot.
Everyone should choose the most appropriate and effective way to vent their anger according to their own personality and form a habit, so that when dangerous anger rises, it is not difficult to disappear immediately.
In order to minimize the possibility of getting angry, we should learn to be tolerant, considerate and quiet, but sometimes it is extremely necessary to get angry seriously. After all, without venting, we can't channel the bad emotions in our hearts, and it's not good for our health.
Appropriate anger depends on your correct judgment of the situation, whether anger is conducive to achieving your goal, whether it is the best way to achieve your goal, and finally decide what kind of coping style to take, so as to properly vent your anger and prevent this bad mood from affecting interpersonal relationships because of excessive performance.
In fact, no matter what, I will be happy when I figure it out.
There was a disciple named Dao Qian under Da Hui, a famous Zen master in Song Dynasty. After years of meditation, he is still not enlightened. One night, Daoqian sincerely told his brother Zongyuan that he was not enlightened and asked Zongyuan for help.
Zong Yuan said, "I'd like to help you, but there are three things I can't do. You must do it yourself! " "
Tao Qian quickly asked, "Which three pieces are they?"
Zong Yuan said, "When you are hungry and thirsty, my diet can't fill your stomach. You must eat by yourself. When you want to pee, you must solve it yourself. I can't help you at all. " Finally, no one can carry your body on the road except yourself. "
After hearing this, Tao Qian's heart suddenly opened and he was very happy. He felt his own strength.
Everyone who lives in the world must first survive on his own, instead of relying on others to solve his most important problems. With this kind of self-help, many things will become easier.
Some people may look annoying, mean and cunning, but if you take a step to the left or right, and look at him from another angle, you will probably see his generosity, enthusiasm and kindness-it all depends on your perspective.
Therefore, forgive non-existent enemies as soon as possible. As long as you learn to tolerate and forgive, enemies may become friends.
Professor Louis Dixon Ritchie described an experience of his grandmother:
His grandmother has always regarded Mrs Wilkes as an enemy. When they became brides, they moved to the elm-covered streets in this town and became neighbors. They all want to live in this street forever. Ricky doesn't know why they often have "wars" because it was long before he was born. But Matteo Ricci thought that they would not remember the cause of the war themselves, but only knew that they were fighting fiercely.
There is no doubt that this is not an elegant and restrained "confrontation" at all, but an all-round "war", and everything that happens in the town can arouse their reaction. The 300-year-old church witnessed the Revolutionary War, the Civil War and the Spanish-American War, and may also record the battle between Ricky's grandmother and Mrs. Wilkes' women's rescue association.
Mrs Wilkes won the battle for the public library, made her niece Gertrude a librarian, and pushed out menstruation Phyllis from Matteo Ricci. The day Gertrude went to work was the day when Grandma Richie stopped reading books in the library.
In addition to these major "wars", some new fuses are often broken out or derived. When Ricky visited his grandmother when he was a child, it was one of the pleasures to watch two old ladies quarrel. Ruichi and others are also involved, which has become a people's war! For example, Ricky made faces at Mrs. Wilkes' grandson who couldn't make faces, stole grapes from one side of Wilkes' fence and chased Wilkes' hens. ...
One National Day, Ricky and his family put a snake in the rain bucket of Wilkes' house. His grandmother only expressed her opposition symbolically, but what they understood was that her grandmother acquiesced. ...
Ricky's grandmother likes to read the "Home Edition" in the Boston News every day. The home version is wonderful. In addition to daily cooking knowledge and hygiene knowledge, there is also a column, which consists of correspondence between readers. Here's how it works: If you have any questions or want to get angry, you can write to this newspaper and sign an alias, such as Yangmeishu, which is the alias of Grandma Richie. Then another lady who has the same troubles as you will write back to you and tell you how she handled this kind of thing, with the signature "someone you know" and so on.
Usually the problem has been solved, and they still keep in touch for many years through newspaper columns. You tell her about your children, how you cook canned food, and even the new furniture in your bedroom.
An unexpected thing happened to grandma Ricky. She kept in correspondence with a lady under the pseudonym seagull for 25 years. She told the seagull everything she never told the second man. For example, she wanted to have another child, but she didn't succeed. That time, Uncle Steven put the word "idiot" in her hair and brought it to school, which made her feel ashamed, even though it had been dealt with before people in the town guessed. Seagulls are grandma's true bosom friends.
When Ricky/Kloc-was 0/6 years old, Mrs. Wilkes died. Living in a small town, no matter how much you hate your next-door neighbor, you should morally see if you can help the family of the deceased.
Grandma Richie wore a clean cotton apron to show that she wanted to help. After crossing two lawns, she came to Wilkes' house. The Wilkes' daughter asked her to clean the already clean front hall for the funeral. On the desk in the front hall, Ricky's grandmother found a huge scrapbook. In the scrapbook, grandma's letters to seagulls for many years are neatly attached. Grandma's sworn enemy is also her good friend! Grandma was in tears.
This is the first time Ricky has seen his grandmother cry. At that time, I didn't know why she was crying. Later, I learned that she was crying for an irreparable waste of time.
It was only tears that impressed Louis Dixon Matteo Ricci at that time, but what made him remember that day later was something more memorable than women's tears.
On that day, Matteo Ricci realized that if enemies learn to tolerate and forgive, they can also become friends.
Men might as well brag when their husbands have tears to play with.
We often say that men are men, and men don't flick when they have tears! Self-reliance and being able to handle problems independently is undoubtedly a sign of a man's maturity. Judging from China's traditional concept, it seems that men are not encouraged to express their feelings in order to seek venting, help and comfort, but advocate "endure, endure, everything becomes gold".
Therefore, men often carry things on their shoulders, often unable to vent their pain and boredom, or unable to find a channel to vent.
This is especially true for men in the East.
Think at the beginning, HarmonyOS system arise, flooding, Gun stole the "earth" of the Heavenly Emperor in an attempt to stop the flood, but in the end the flood didn't stop, and the water was more fierce, which made the people more miserable and was finally beheaded. Later, his useless son Yu led everyone to dig mountains and help divert water. In the end, he not only cured the flood, but also got a throne to sit on and was admired by all people forever. It can be seen that "water is unfavorable" is a wise saying.
People's emotions are actually similar to water. If bad emotions can't be properly channeled, once they break out, they will really get out of hand.
Therefore, men's "endurance" is often the reason for their illness: pain and boredom can only be kept in their hearts, and they can't help but endure, endure and endure; You can't vent, even after thousands of years of "endurance" education, you don't know how to vent: once you touch the key parts, you will "burst your banks", and then you will vent, vent, vent until the final mental illness has formed and become more and more serious: sadness, unhappy mentality, psychological depression, often leading to physiological dysfunction, leading to insomnia, dreaminess, right. It can be seen that forbearance is harmful.
The United States has done such statistics, many people are troubled by depression of different reasons, and nearly 1/5 of them can't get rid of these depression all their lives. Although statistics show that the proportion of male patients with depression is not as large as that of female patients, it cannot be ignored.
Usually, men don't like to ask for help actively, so it is difficult for them to consult a psychologist actively to solve depression and seek ways to ease bad emotions, especially for men of Asian ethnic groups. For them, instead of being a mother-in-law like a woman and looking for emotional counseling, it is better to be angry and have fun. However, anger cannot fundamentally solve the problem.
From the whole process of men's psychological problems and depression, if women's depression is regarded as dominant, then men's pain is undoubtedly hidden and imperceptible.
Fierce social competition and increased work pressure are often the root causes of male anxiety. Especially for Asian men, traditionally, they are accustomed to "the man is the master and the woman is the master", which requires men to be strong and bear greater pressure than women. In order to make themselves more like men, they are afraid to express their anguish and troubles. They are ashamed that they can't stand up when they encounter setbacks, feel guilty for their cowardice, and feel ashamed and guilty for their inability to solve difficulties quickly and effectively. ...
Because of long-term depression, men become more "strong" physically and psychologically. They seem to be used to depression, and they don't seem to realize it. Even if they want to talk to someone, they have lost the instinct to talk about their pain and it is difficult to accurately express their psychological experience. They often feel pain inside, but they don't know what to say and where to say it.
Irritability makes them feel pain, and men's mindset makes them unable to think clearly about their own problems like women, thus making themselves comfortable and relieving anxiety; Men who are depressed and miserable tend to avoid talking about the feeling of depression, but vent their feelings in behavior, which makes them prone to violence.
Men believe that there is another way to eliminate pain-that is, to drown their sorrows by drinking.
When men encounter major setbacks, depression, pessimism and lack of energy in real life, alcohol is often used to alleviate the above negative emotions as a way for them to get rid of and escape. According to statistics, many patients with depression have used alcohol to relieve symptoms, and even finally got into the habit of drinking.
However, this relief is only temporary after all, because the paralyzing effect of alcohol will soon disappear, and it will also form a drinking habit that is difficult to quit. What's more, alcohol, like other drugs that have a direct effect on the brain, will gradually reduce its effect after repeated use, and it is necessary to increase the dosage to obtain the same effect; Moreover, long-term heavy drinking will cause damage to important organs such as the brain, such as memory loss, mental retardation, gastritis, liver damage, etc. Moreover, alcohol damage itself can also lead to depression, or make depression worse and difficult to treat. In this way, using alcohol to relieve depression is tantamount to "using alcohol to eliminate anxiety and more worries", forming a vicious circle.
Alcoholism can not only solve the depression of men, but also aggravate their pathological state.
It is better to brag than to drink when you are upset. Bragging, to put it mildly, is called "God speaks", which often gives people a feeling of clouds and mountains, and there is no end in sight. In this fast-paced life era, pressure is everywhere. We must find ways to relieve this series of pressures. For men, it is better to brag to let go of their psychological burden and give up the expectations and requirements of society and family.
Psychologists' research shows that bragging is an indispensable anesthetic for men with insufficient ability, that is, people often say that they have fun. If bragging is true, it can earn back some face and build up some confidence for men. If we admit that this society is a "male-dominated society", then the challenges faced by men are not only the promotion of official positions and the amount of income, but also the whispers of girlfriends or wives in their ears: "Why are you worse than so-and-so?"
Therefore, it seems that it is not a bad thing to give men the right to brag.
The basic characteristics of a braggart are enthusiasm, loud voice, good devotion and strong memory-because bragging must have content. Bragging people like to run to crowded places, they can't stop when they meet opportunities, and they often go beyond their control, so they often "speak freely" and say where they want, thus being mixed with a lot of water.
In bragging, two styles often prevail: first, the logic is very strict, the story is very strong, and the false things are vivid; One is that although the preface is inconsistent and there is no logic at all, their expressions are sincere and often make soft-hearted women cry.
Bragging must have content. Someone has studied it. Since the 1960s, in China, bragging has the following characteristics:
1960s-boasting about family members, such as workers and revolutionary cadres; 70 s-proud of hard work and simplicity, such as wearing patched clothes; 1980s-boasting about overseas relations, Taiwan Province compatriots and green cards; In the 1990s, he boasted that he owned an industry, Swiss bank deposits and many suitors. 265438+20th century-boasting that he is the boss, has good taste, keeps his mouth shut as "E" (Internet) and so on.
The psychological motivation of bragging is mainly: I want to explain to others that I am well informed, knowledgeable, have many friends, have a wide range of ways, and have the means and ability. ...
The cost or price of bragging: when several cowhide customers meet, they just pass cigarettes and pour tea to each other, and it doesn't cost anything. The position is very casual and unrestricted, and it is often easy to blow when sitting on the ground. In this case, men have a so-called "heartfelt" comfort in their hearts, and it is a bit fascinating for them to say what they think.
Is there a price for bragging? There may be, at least when they realize that they are lying, they will inevitably be a little nervous.
The folk evaluation of bragging is: bragging is not illegal and does not pay taxes. But we have to add: don't brag. If you are an official, I'm afraid you can't brag casually.
Advice to men who love to brag: the world appreciates people who do things, and you must not brag as a meal. It is ok to adjust your mentality, but it is dangerous as a profession.
Happy food. Be in a good mood.
"Food is the most important thing for the people" and "People are iron rice and steel". Almost everyone in China knows these old sayings and proverbs. China is one of the most diet-conscious countries in the world. Many countries in the world, which are much more developed and richer than China, pay less attention to food than China and China. Food is a must in China, and no country can compare with China's food culture. Paying attention to a reasonable diet is an important way for China people to keep healthy.
Health is unhealthy, happiness is unhappy, it depends on what you eat.
Medical research has found that happiness is actually a chemical reaction in the brain. Some foods contain ingredients that can relieve depression and help you get happiness. Therefore, selecting certain foods and ingesting the specific nutrients contained in them can promote the occurrence of "happy chemical reaction equation" in the brain. Eating is the most convenient way for people who want to find happiness.
So, which foods have this magical effect?
The brain is like a precise instrument, which always regulates and directs people's activities, so it certainly needs energy. The working energy of brain cells can be provided by a certain amount of protein, carbohydrates, vitamins, cephalin and minerals, so adequate nutrition is the basis for maintaining normal brain activities.
Some parents believe that children with good nutrition can learn well and let them cope with heavy study. This view has some truth. Good nutrition, not only the brain can get enough nutrition, but also the body can get nutrition. If malnutrition, it will cause functional weakness of all systems in the whole body, and various diseases will take advantage of it, and neurasthenia is no exception.
What kind of diet structure is most beneficial to the brain?
A reasonable diet is necessary for the brain. A reasonable diet includes protein, carbohydrates, fats, various inorganic substances and trace elements. Recent research shows that the lack of trace elements zinc and copper in the body is one of the reasons for neurasthenia. Because zinc exists in human body in the form of metalloenzyme, and the rest is distributed in the form of protein conjugate, zinc deficiency will affect the energy metabolism and redox process of brain cells. Lack of copper in the body will make the inhibition process of nerve cells out of balance, make the endocrine system in an excited state and lose sleep, which may lead to neurasthenia after a long time.
Which foods contain zinc and copper? According to the test, oysters and herring have the highest zinc content, while lean meat, animal liver and kidney, dairy products, apples and walnuts have higher zinc content. Foods rich in copper are: squid, snail, shrimp, spatula, mutton, mushroom, corn, broad bean and so on.
The following foods can help you relieve depression and get happiness.
1. Fish oil products relieve depression.
The latest research by experts from Harvard University in the United States shows that the symptoms of depression have been alleviated to some extent after taking fatty fish oil products.
Therefore, in order to prevent depression, especially people suffering from manic depression, scientists suggest that you should eat more foods rich in fatty acids such as fish and flaxseed, or try to supplement foods containing such fats, such as salmon and cod, which can play a role in diet therapy and have a positive preventive and health care effect on healthy people.
During the study of fish oil relieving depression, the researchers selected 30 patients and divided them into two groups. One group was supplemented with fish oil products every day, and the other group was given a placebo. Patients in both groups received psychological tests every two weeks. After four months of treatment, the results showed that the mood of patients taking fish oil products improved significantly.
According to the research results, researchers believe that fish oil products generally contain a substance called fatty acid, which can increase the level of some kind of tension in the body, thus alleviating the symptoms of depression. At the same time, this fatty acid may also affect the outer membrane of brain cells, making the brain more receptive to chemical information, maintaining the vitality of brain cells and increasing emotional stability.
Therefore, medical experts prescribe experimental prescriptions for patients with depression, so that patients can take10g of fish oil every day. Results: 14 patients, 12 patients responded well.
2. Garlic relieves tension
In the early 1990s, the world's first "Garlic Research Institute" was formally established in the UK. Its purpose was to announce to the world that garlic will bring bad breath, but it will bring good mood. A German study on the effect of garlic on cholesterol found that after eating garlic preparation, they felt less tired, anxious and angry.
People vigorously promote the benefits of eating garlic. According to Lussier, director of the Garlic Research Institute, garlic should be an essential part of your diet if you want to live to 90 years old. If you eat two or three a week, you will get great benefits.
Lussier said that many patients in the human body are caused by high blood lipid levels. We often eat eggs, sausages, cheese, bacon and so on. If we eat too much, the fat in our blood will double. But if you eat garlic at the same time, the fat level will not change much.
On the other hand, eating high-fat food will make you nervous; Smoking and drinking can also make blood sticky. If you can eat some garlic at the same time, it will be diluted. As long as the blood remains normal, there will be no diseases such as hypertension, heart disease and cerebral hemorrhage.
Suggestion: Eating garlic every day is of great benefit to sterilization, detoxification and longevity.
3. Spinach relieves depression
Popeye will have great strength after eating spinach in cartoons, but do you know that eating spinach will also make you feel good? Medical literature has consistently pointed out that folic acid deficiency may lead to mental illness, including depression and early-onset dementia.
A study by McGill University found that those who couldn't get enough folic acid experienced insomnia, forgetfulness and anxiety after five months. The researchers concluded that the lack of folic acid will lead to the decrease of serotonin in the brain, which will lead to depression.
What are the vegetables rich in folic acid?
The answer is spinach!
Therefore, eating more spinach can reduce the symptoms of depression and keep a good mood.
4. Whole wheat bread boosts mood
Carbohydrates help to increase serotonin. Dr. wortmann of the Massachusetts Institute of Technology said, "Some people regard foods such as pasta and snacks as edible antidepressants."
Eating complex carbohydrates, such as whole wheat bread and soda crackers, is healthier, although the effect is slower.
What's more, it was recently discovered that trace mineral selenium can cheer people up, and whole grains are also rich in selenium. And don't forget the chewiness and taste of whole wheat bread, which is also one of the factors that score it.
Psychological testing and training
Test one
Choose the one that fits your symptoms:
Persistent sadness, anxiety or emotional loss.
Yes or no
2. Lose interest or fun in various activities including sex life.
Yes or no
3. fidgeting or crying too much.
Yes or no
4. Feeling guilty, worthless, helpless, desperate and pessimistic.
Yes or no
5. Sleeping too much or too little is dry when you wake up.
Yes or no
6. Loss of appetite or overeating, weight loss or gain.
Yes or no
7. decreased energy and fatigue.
Yes or no
8. Thinking of death or suicide, or attempting suicide.
Yes or no
9. Difficulty in concentration, memory loss or indecision.
Yes or no
10. Physical symptoms that are ineffective after continuous treatment, such as headache, digestive dysfunction, chronic pain, etc.
Yes or no
1 1. The mood is unusually high.
Yes or no
12. Irritable.
Yes or no
13. Severe insomnia.
Yes or no
14. Exaggerate ideas.
Yes or no
15. More.
Yes or no
16. Thinking escapes.
Yes or no
17. Increased activity, including sexual behavior.
Yes or no
18. Excessive energy.
Yes or no
19. Dangerous behavior caused by misjudgment.
Yes or no
20. The mood is unusually high.
Yes or no
2 1. inappropriate social behavior.
Yes or no
If your answer is more than 10 "Yes", you should pay special attention and make up your mind to adjust your life and work.
Test 2
Read each question carefully, and then choose the appropriate answer according to your actual feelings in the last week.
L, it seems easier to be nervous and anxious than usual.
A. no or little time
B. A small part of the time
C. for a long time
D. Most or all of the time
I feel scared for no reason.
A. no or little time
B. A small part of the time
C. for a long time
D. Most or all of the time
3. It's easy to get upset or panic in my heart.
A. no or little time
B. A small part of the time
C. for a long time
D. Most or all of the time
4. I feel crazy.
A. no or little time
B. A small part of the time
C. for a long time
D. Most or all of the time
I feel that everything is not good, and misfortune may happen at any time.
A. no or little time
B. A small part of the time
C. for a long time
D. Most or all of the time
6. Hands and feet are shaking.
A. no or little time
B. A small part of the time
C. for a long time
D. Most or all of the time
7. Suffering from headache, neck pain and back pain.
A. no or little time
B. A small part of the time
C. for a long time
D. Most or all of the time
8. Easily weak and tired.
A. no or little time
B. A small part of the time
C. Quite a lot of time
D. Most or all of the time
9. I seldom feel calm and it is difficult to sit quietly.
A. no or little time
B. A small part of the time
C. for a long time
D. Most or all of the time
10. Feel my heart beat faster.
A. no or little time
B. A small part of the time
C. for a long time
D. Most or all of the time
1 1. I often feel dizzy.
A. no or little time
B. A small part of the time
C. for a long time
D. Most or all of the time
12. Often faint or feel faint.
A. no or little time
B. A small part of the time
C. for a long time
D. Most or all of the time
13. Inhaling and exhaling are not easy.
A. no or little time
B. A small part of the time
C. for a long time
D. Most or all of the time
14. I often feel numb or tingling in my hands and feet.
A. no or little time
B. A small part of the time
C. for a long time
D. Most or all of the time
15. I often suffer from stomachache and indigestion.
A. no or little time
B. A small part of the time
C. for a long time
D. Most or all of the time
16. I often want to pee.
A. no or little time
B. A small part of the time
C. for a long time
D. Most or all of the time
17. Hands are often dry and warm.
A. no or little time
B. A small part of the time
C. for a long time
D. Most or all of the time
18. Blushing and fever.
A. no or little time
B. A small part of the time
C. for a long time
D. Most or all of the time
19. It is not easy to fall asleep, and I can't sleep well all night.
A. no or little time