When a person reaches middle age, a good impression on a person begins with getting along comfortably.

People who are comfortable with each other often have one thing: moderate speech, earnest work, emphasis on commitment and openness.

"How to build a good popularity" wrote:

Really popular people are not smooth, but have principles and bottom lines to deal with life.

Do the following four things well, and your life will get better quietly.

There is a highly rated question on the Internet: "What did society teach you severely?"

One of them replied, "I can speak for seven minutes, not ten."

A boaster can easily leave a trail. If you are not careful, you will dig a hole for yourself.

In the Song Dynasty, a doctor named Li opened a Yiguang.

One day, a man with a strange disease came to find a light and said that he had seen several doctors, but there was no way to cure him.

After Li Lang's consultation, the doctor prescribed several medicines for him. The patient recovered after going home to eat for a few days.

The patient was so grateful that he personally came to thank Li Langzhong.

Li Lang warmly welcomed him, left him, prepared the table, and drank and ate together. The two chatted over dinner and were very speculative.

During the chat, Li Langzhong mentioned an old friend to the patient, who was a neighbor when he was young.

He told many anecdotes about his neighbors, and the two of them laughed together and entertained themselves.

Unexpectedly, it was not long before Li's doctor, Yiguang, was taken away by the government.

I was so anxious that Li Langzhong inquired about the reasons everywhere. I just realized that it was the former patient who spread the story of two people talking about their neighbors to their neighbors' ears. At this time, neighbors have already become court officials.

It's too late for Li Langzhong to regret it, so he shouldn't make shallow remarks. Blame yourself for not having a janitor, and you will have to pay for it in the end.

This is a casual acquaintance, there is no need to speak from the heart. On impulse, the loss outweighs the gain, leaving hidden dangers for yourself.

As the Bible proverb says:

"It is inevitable that there will be many words, and the lips are forbidden."

The most taboo in interpersonal communication is lack of discretion.

Not much to say, but good.

Only by grasping the scale of speaking can we be comfortable in interpersonal relationships.

As the saying goes: "People stand without faith, and businesses thrive without faith."

A reliable person makes a promise, and once it is agreed, it must be fulfilled.

In the hit drama Meet Happiness, there is such an impressive plot.

Zhen, played by, was caught in a sandstorm on the day of the interview. The sandstorm made passers-by stagger, and everyone ran into the house to escape.

Zhen Panda Kai had to hide in a breakfast shop and buy breakfast with a leather bag.

Breakfast shop owner and Zhen Kai are acquaintances. Knowing that she is going to have an interview today, she asked anxiously:

"Where to go for such a big sandstorm? I am afraid that the interviewer will also hide at home. "

Zhen open very seriously:

"No way, it's all arranged, and people have to keep their word."

Zhen Fangkai traveled all the way, covered in yellow sand. When she walked into the interview hall, all the interviewers looked at her in shock.

She asked the organizer for a glass of water to rinse her mouth, adjusted her status and told the interviewer that she could start the interview.

The interviewer asked her a few questions, and after knowing her business ability, she said directly, "You have been accepted."

I didn't expect that I would be admitted so easily. I was a little surprised.

Later, I learned that because of the sudden sandstorm, many people who made an appointment for an interview that day did not show up as scheduled, only she came.

Zhen conquered the interviewer with her own actions and got a job.

Old people often say, "Listen to what he says and watch what he does."

The best way to judge a person's character is to see if he is reliable in doing things.

Rest assured that the staff will not delay and keep their promises. They are full of responsibility and responsibility.

Get along with such people, be practical and secure.

Buffett said: "Reliability is a more important quality than cleverness."

Only reliable people are the most worthy of deep friendship.

In "Youlan Grass", I wrote such a sentence: "Cooperation is like orchid, and fragrance is overflowing; Take it and enjoy it, * * * wins the quartet. "

Between people, it is mutual. Helping others means helping yourself, which is mutually beneficial and win-win.

20 19 Spring Festival, three films are all New Year films, and the competition is very fierce.

The Wandering Earth directed by Frant Gwo; Crazy Alien directed by Ning Hao; And "Flying Life" directed by Han Han.

As soon as these three films were released, they set off a war of robbing people on all major platforms.

I thought the three directors would compete with each other and would definitely fight against each other. But unexpectedly, the three directors appreciate each other and support each other.

When director Frant Gwo was filming The Wandering Earth, the space capsule and spacesuit were lent to him by director Ning Hao.

Director Han Han publicly praised The Wandering Earth in Weibo: "Grand romance, the first year of domestic hard science fiction, a milestone of China science fiction movies."

Director Frant Gwo also praised Han Han in a fancy way: "Behind the first day of breaking 300 million, Lao Han didn't sleep for three days."

Writer Hai Jin said:

Jealous people are easy to stay away from. People who know how to achieve each other are easier to get close to.

Those who can achieve great things know how to use leverage. Because they know that building bridges for others is also paving the way for themselves.

There is a saying in Caigen Tan: "Sleep eight feet at night and get two liters a day. Why care? "

Open-minded, broad-minded, comfortable is the most important.

Miss Mozi, the author, shared a story about her friend's calligraphy:

Once, Xi Zi went to a restaurant for dinner. When the proprietress was serving, she accidentally didn't hold the plate steady and spilled the soup on her clothes. Not only was Xizi not angry, but she also said to the proprietress, "Nothing, nothing."

The proprietress felt very embarrassed. To express her apology, she sent a plate of braised beef to Xi Zi.

After she got married, her mother-in-law always told her in front of her husband that this was not good and that was not good. However, Xizi did not accuse her husband's mother-in-law, but communicated with her mother-in-law to enhance her feelings.

As time goes by, my mother-in-law realizes that Xizi is a reasonable person, and her relationship with Xizi is getting better and better.

There is a troublesome colleague in the writing unit. He always likes to snitch and make trouble for his handwriting. However, Xi Zi is dismissive of this little trick. She believes that everything depends on strength.

So she devoted herself to her business ability, and finally, she became the sales champion of the whole company.

Some people may think that people like Xi Zi are cowards and cowards.

Mu Xin wrote in his poem: "I don't know what to forgive, but I really think everything can be forgiven."

Nine times out of ten, life is not satisfactory. If you don't compete with others, you will be more open-minded and comfortable.

Huang Zhizhong once said in The Story of Seven Paes: "Nine times out of ten, the troubles of life lie in interpersonal relationships."

The better people are, the more popular they are. The more popular people are, the easier it is to go uphill.

He who speaks carefully wins respect;

Reliable people are worth trusting;

Altruistic people are ready to help others;

Open-minded people will be rewarded.

May you and I regain our popularity in the practice of this life and make our life quietly better!

Author | Bai He Qiqi, a catwoman cured by words

Image | vision china