College holidays, earn 2000 yuan a month. When I got home, my parents left with me and said they would pay my tuition, and they did. But my tuition at that time was only 3400 yuan, and it was not that my family could not afford this 2000 yuan. Well, I believe my parents love me, but they have no foresight, no knowledge and even a little simpleton. If they let me arrange this 2000 yuan by myself, my parents didn't send me to school in the first year of college to save the fare. On that day, although I was happy and excited, I also had loss and regret. I will remember the feeling of watching others with my parents all my life ... my parents are not welcome and my relatives have little contact. When I was admitted to a university to choose a major, I couldn't find anyone to help me. I asked them to study Chinese medicine at that time. My mother said it was useless to study Chinese medicine until my hair turned white ... Anyway, choosing a major in college is my lifelong regret.
My mother and I were not born to deal with this kind of thing. When I was a child, I packed jiaozi with her. I wrapped it neatly and beautifully. I could feel her looking at it at that time, that kind of eyes ... At that time, the atmosphere was very subtle, and I felt that I was competing with me. I was about 12 years old at that time.
At the age of 22, I was at home during the winter vacation. One day, my mother asked me to wash clothes. The clothes of the whole family coincide with my period. I don't want to wash them. I was bored in the middle of washing, so I cut my hand and went upstairs. After a while, I heard the sound of heavy footsteps approaching. I was so scared, I thought. Sure enough, she grabbed my hair, threw me into the bathroom, hit me hard, kicked me, slapped me in the face ... I cried and said that she only hurt my brother and sister. She gave me a positive answer without hesitation, saying that she had no expectations for me in the future. Even if my brother married his daughter-in-law, his daughter-in-law would not do this to her, which showed that she was better than me. I thought about what I had done, and I was careful to let my brother.
Now I can't get out of the shadow of my childhood, and I won't refute others at work. Growing up, she never asked me to refute her. When I refuted her, she was beaten every day ... When she came home this year, she told me that she would help my little sister in the future. My little sister and I are in our teens. What she means is that neither my father nor she can make money in the future, and I can provide it to my little sister.
Honey, are you in the same pain as me?
My family is a mess, too My parents taught me to accommodate my brother in everything, so when my two brothers needed money, they asked me for it and gave me as much as I wanted! As a result, these two beast brothers are becoming more and more inhuman! Hit me, scold me and threaten to kick me to death! My house is occupied by them, because my mother lives in it, and I can't get rid of him! My dad's salary card was dragged by them but kept at someone else's house. I have to pay alimony. Should I stop? I can't give it! ! My heart is too soft! My husband must give it to a fake model because he is not short of money because he thinks he has a good heart! !
Don't talk about your parents like that. I guess the parents who came from that era were all like this. My parents are similar to yours. My father is also a retired cadre. The only difference is that he didn't give his salary to others, but didn't discuss anything with his children. They don't want to be given a big house by the company for the second time. They prefer to live in a small house of 70 square meters. The key is to tell us afterwards. What can we do? They have reason to say that the two of us have lived enough, and your life is good. We can rest assured that your house is bigger than ours. My mother has never taken care of our children, saying that the next generation will take care of themselves and buy their own houses or something. We have their problems, but think about them. Originally, we should take care of our lives. As parents, they raised us, lived in a good family, accepted good genes and lived well through their own efforts. Why do you ask so much of your parents?
I also feel that my parents are calculating my money. My home is nearly 70 miles from my parents' home. My mother is a retired teacher. My father used to be a private teacher, with a monthly subsidy of more than 500 yuan, and my parents earned nearly 4,000 yuan a month. Considering that my parents are reluctant to spend money, I buy braised pork and other things for my parents every week. Sometimes I give my father some pocket money, and I only give my mother money on holidays. I didn't expect the money saved by my father to be given to my brother. I didn't leave a penny and told me that he didn't even have a penny. I was very angry after listening to it. My mother said that her monthly salary of several thousand yuan was given by the state, and I had to give her money. I originally planned to give them 500 yuan a month to support the elderly, but I won't see them every week in the future and want to be better to myself.
Parents plan their children, and no one can stand it.
Seeing this topic, I touched too much. I can't say, I can't say, I dare not say. Dumb people eat coptis chinensis, knock out their teeth and swallow it. This kind of pain, like a nightmare, like a spell, has plagued me for decades. Three times in the middle of the night suddenly surprised me, all because of the feeling of being beaten by my mother. The homeless girl walked along the Yangtze River, crying to jump ... Every time I think about it, my heart hurts like a needle.
Parents are heaven, parents are earth, parents are indomitable, parents give birth to you, parents' blood is on you, you control everything, study, love, marriage and family, and you control it with one hand. Everything parents do is imperial edict, and they must not disobey it. Right is right, wrong is right. Disobedient, French service, scouts, beatings, scolding and quarreling are commonplace.
I escaped several times, and the tragedy was even worse!
Finally, I resigned, obeyed, pretended to be good, and found a chance to escape.
Finally got rid of mom's clutches!
Give her everything my mother wants, I just need freedom.
Single mother, nothing, give up everything that belongs to me.
Counting your own children and being nice to outsiders, I can't understand it in this life.
Why are they so crazy and demanding, even regardless of the children's lives? Have you ever met such a parent? No one will believe me if I say it. I might as well not say it.
You will collapse when you meet such parents.
Even now, I doubt whether my parents are my own. Why do they treat me like this?
Now, I don't want to go back to see my mother, and I don't want to call money to support her every month. She has money in her hand. She didn't ask my two brothers, but she kept asking. I don't know why she wants money. Why don't you blame me with my two brothers? This is also the doubt. Mom set me up. What's the point?
Wang Shuo wrote an article entitled "Sorry, I never loved my parents", and I felt the same way after reading it. My father is also a soldier, addicted to alcohol, rough feelings, extremely thin family values, and never hesitates to hit children. However, he has deep feelings for his comrades. Contact with comrades-in-arms at ordinary times is to go out to eat and drink. No matter who is in financial difficulties, he will give money to help, so his salary is simply not enough. He has to advance his salary every month, so that he can pay off the advance salary of the army after many years of retirement. My mother is a miser. I am not willing to eat or wear at ordinary times, but I am keen on seeing a doctor and keeping fit. Every time she buys health products, she can reach 10 thousand yuan. Not only are they unwilling to spend a sum of money on their children, but they are also calculating everywhere. At present, my father's retirement salary is more than 10,000 per month, and my mother's total monthly salary reaches 15,600, but our children basically buy their own home appliances. Maybe everyone doesn't believe it, but the three of us got married, had children and bought a house, and didn't spend a penny. When they are in poor health, we have to take turns cooking and taking care of them, but we have to pay for dinner. They are ill in hospital, so we should not only accompany them, but also spend money to buy them food and drink. They all accept red envelopes from friends and colleagues when they visit, but we have to pay them back later.
They are reluctant to spend money on their children and grandchildren, but their comrades-in-arms or widows are often very generous and give them help on a regular basis, each time for five or six thousand yuan. Once, my father was in hospital, and my mother showed off to the patients in the same ward, saying that my father had given all his money to outsiders. The patients were puzzled and asked him why he gave the money to outsiders. Mother proudly said, "My son and daughter are richer than us." The patient can't understand: "Your child can't give money to outsiders no matter how rich he is. It is good to buy a house and a car for your child! "
I never talk about my parents with outsiders because others won't believe me. Now I'm helping my daughter with her children in Beijing. Now I feel much quieter away from them. Go back and see them once in a while, they are very kind to each other!
The word calculation is too hurtful when used between relatives! Probably because we are used to being loved, selfishness is the patent of our generation! Human nature is fickle and greedy ... this is inseparable from the "interference" of the big environment! Most of their parents' generation couldn't get in because it was too bitter and difficult at that time. The tradition of frugality in raising children and preventing old age is vividly reflected in their generation! The son is everything to them, no matter how stupid or bad, the daughter is someone else's, not theirs. So it is normal for them to ask their daughters for some subsidies.