First, freedom and autonomy
When life is still up to us, we should learn to control ourselves, just like the clear sky in Wan Li in autumn.
Retired, without the pressure of work, without the hardship of making a living, without the temptation of fame and fortune, life began a second spring. As far as the average person is concerned, the average life expectancy is about 80 years old, that is to say, the time we can control freely is about 20-30 years. At this time, we unloaded the two burdens of career and family (children have their own family responsibilities), and the rest is the complete self. What we have to do is: I am the master in my later years. Think about your long-cherished wish when you were young, see what new knowledge and skills you can learn, find a healthier and more enjoyable lifestyle, and let the sails of life set sail again.
Second, activities and exchanges.
Man is a gregarious animal. We have been in group activities since we were two or three years old, attending kindergarten, going to school and working. People's communication and organizational behavior make people grow and progress actively or passively in communication. On the one hand, people have changed the world, on the other hand, people have changed themselves, which is a win-win result. After retirement, once you leave the group, people will inevitably feel lonely and decline, both physically and mentally will be hurt, and premature aging is inevitable. Therefore, when we are not too old (about 60 years old), flexible in legs and feet, and strong in body, we must take part in various organized activities to get ourselves moving and busy, such as senior universities, senior art troupes, senior sports games, senior tour groups, community activities, fitness activities, public welfare activities and so on. In short, what you like, what you have the ability to participate in, and what the society needs must be included in your own agenda and participate in a planned and selective manner. Make yourself aware that I need these activities and these activities need me. Psychology believes that this kind of demand and satisfaction is a necessary factor for mental health. In colleges and universities, various activities organized by the current withdrawal association have proved its necessity and importance. In all kinds of collective activities, the old teaching staff not only improved their realm and self-cultivation (collective concept and cooperative spirit), but also exercised their bodies, strengthened their physique and showed their talents, which can be described as killing two birds with one stone. Very good, very good!
In addition to actively mobilizing more veteran comrades to participate in the annual gerontology school sports meeting, our industrial retirement branch has also set up an art troupe to let veteran comrades who like art and can sing and dance show their talents. Over the past few years, our choir never sang in different parts, but sang in four parts at the meeting, which won unanimous praise in various performances and competitions organized by the school, especially the singing of Chairman Mao's poem "Yongmei", which became a reserved program of the art troupe. We organized a square dance performance, the passionate "Zama Pole" and the lyrical and elegant "Snow Mountain Ajia" (written and directed by ourselves, won the first prize in the school square dance competition). Everyone is singing and dancing, with beautiful movements and passion. Not only increased artistic accomplishment, cultivated sentiment, but also exercised the body and formed cohesion.
Another important purpose of participating in the activities is to communicate with each other, learn from each other's strengths and improve together. Although I am old and have no reaction ability, the more I don't communicate, the more I stimulate the hippocampus, the more it will shrink, the sooner people will be dull or demented, and some people will have mental illness. A good way to prevent Alzheimer's Harmo's disease is to communicate more, read more, study more, think more and talk more, so that the brain is always in a state of excitement. Scientific thinking mode and good mental state are one of the signs of happiness in our later years.
Third, be happy and healthy.
The scientific definition of health includes not only physical health, but also mental health. Mental health refers to: good mentality, harmonious interpersonal relationship, scientific health knowledge, correct self-cognition and evaluation. With these basic qualities, we can maintain a high standard and high quality of life in our later years; We can be happy every day, make ourselves happy and make others happy.
Luo Saidi, an ancient Roman philosopher, said in On Old Age: Old people should not only take care of their own health, but also pay attention to their mental and spiritual health, so they should continue to study when they are old. "A person who always makes a living in these studies and jobs will not notice the coming of old age." People's life, the arrival of life and death, are passive. Birth, old age, illness and death are inevitable in nature, and we have no choice. But what we can control is the mentality and mood in life. There are always unpleasant things in life. The important thing is not to avoid, but to adjust, learn to adjust scientifically, so as to get out of the unpleasant shadow as soon as possible and maintain a good state. Happy, happy life, should be our goal.
When we were young, we were naive and inexperienced. In order to survive and achieve something, we shoulder a heavy burden, always carrying it forward and stumbling. Now, like a ripe fruit, we are full and can control ourselves, and we have reached the stage of free choice. We can no longer carry a heavy load, but should learn to do subtraction and unload a heavy load. We should not only clean up the physical space around us and give those useless things to useful people, but also clean up our inner world and abandon wrong cognition, boring troubles and negative emotions. Learn to give up personal grudges and be kind to people and things around you; Learn to be more understanding and tolerant; Learn to give up too much desire, stop fighting for fame and gain, stop worrying about it, and treat every harvest as a reward for you; Learn to let go of your troubles. Children and grandchildren have their own blessings. Without your help, they will walk more steadily and better. Once we travel light, we can not only walk easily, but also smile proudly at life. This is the old age we want, and this is the happiness of old age.