1. Contact the doctor in time, make a professional diagnosis, confirm the degree of depression, and then start taking therapeutic drugs and other treatments prescribed by the doctor as soon as possible.

2. Ensure that the basic sleep is not less than 7 ~ 8 hours every day, reduce sleep or not take a nap at noon, and ensure the depth and quality of sleep at night.

3. Reduce workload and work pressure appropriately. If possible, please take care of the working environment temporarily and rest at home for a while.

4. Try to do more family activities, such as cooking, cleaning, etc., when your physical ability allows. Of course, do what you can, and you don't have to force it.

5. Tell your family, relatives and friends about your situation, gain others' understanding and encouragement, and avoid being bored at home alone.

6. Carry out some physical rehabilitation activities in a planned way, such as meditation and standing piles. You can also gradually adjust your physical condition through Chinese medicine and eating some Chinese medicines that soothe the nerves and replenish qi.

Under normal circumstances, depression will improve significantly after two to three months. I wish you a speedy recovery.

It seems that your childhood left you with obvious negative experiences and has always had a profound influence on you. After reading your problem description, your main problem now: 1. Sleep disorder: short sleep time, poor sleep quality, easy to wake up. 2. Feeling allergic: My father was super scared when he entered the room, especially when he heard footsteps. 3. Family relationship: The tension between parents makes you miserable. 4. Frustration: I have worked hard since I was a child, but I have never been recognized. To be sure, you do have some depression, but it is hard to say that you have reached the diagnostic criteria of depression, so I don't know whether the depression you are talking about is your own judgment or the diagnosis of the hospital. In my opinion, it's more like anxiety, maybe more serious than depression.

Your complaint is extreme fear, which sounds more like the complaint of anxiety than depression. Because what bothers you, or tortures you, is your deep fear of your father, and your unwillingness to starve without your parents' approval, rather than the feeling of helplessness, hopelessness and worthlessness of people with depression. There is still a clear difference between the two.

Speaking of anxiety, the most direct manifestations are: subjective tension, anxiety and inexplicable fear. Moreover, I don't want some obvious autonomic disorders in anxiety disorder, such as upset, flustered, chest tightness, shortness of breath, trembling, sweating, frequent urination, nocturia and so on. I don't know if you have the above physical symptoms. But when you talk about hearing your father's footsteps or seeing his father enter your room, you will feel inexplicable fear and anxiety, which is obviously more like anxiety than depression.

You mentioned that when you were young, your parents often quarreled at night, and almost every quarrel would wake you up in your sleep. It is very likely that the memories of that time made you remember your sleep and increased the habit of being awakened, so when you fall asleep, you often feel inexplicable fear, even for your father. In fact, the problem has passed for a long time, and parents have obviously made up. Recalling bad memories won't help you. It will only keep you silent when you sleep, and the slightest noise is enough to wake you up. Seriously affect your sleep, thus seriously affecting your rest and energy recovery.

Your feeling is that you are extremely afraid of depression. According to your description, you should basically deny yourself on the basis of decreasing your self-evaluation, because you think you are a loser, so you have extreme fear, but according to your description, your extreme fear seems to come from a projected goal, and this projection just reflects your lack of cognition, which is precisely the lack of cognition. It makes you biased, projecting your extreme fear from other aspects on your father, rather than the real fear of your father.

Now it seems that a kind of * * * knowledge has been formed in society. Whenever there are some problems, they will be linked with their families and parents. Family education, family environment, parents quarreling, etc. It seems that everyone has an influence on a person's growth, but everyone's cognition is constantly formed in the process of self-growth, especially the knowledge gained is very important to change cognition. At a certain stage in our growth process, we may not understand some contradictions between parents or husband and wife, but when we mature, there will be a correct cognitive change, or we can say that all our cognitive integrity is basically acquired.

In this case, if your cognition is complete, then you should have a constantly changing understanding of the family events or environment you encounter or experience, which is also a sign that we are gradually mature and know life, especially society. So in my opinion, some of my problems can't be said to have nothing to do with my family, which is absolutely rare. In your description, you also said that your father didn't hit you. Not once, but you have been growing up in denial. Even if you try hard, there is no recognition. Family education is different. Since you grew up in denial, you should have a strong ability to resist blows, but you are suffering from depression. And your present state, if it is related to your family, especially your father, is indeed far-fetched.

"Never succeeding is loyalty to the sense of failure. It is easy to explain my status. " This sentence represents your present state and also shows the existence of projection. Father has certain authority in the family, that is, the protagonist of the family. So whether you are working, studying or other aspects, have you experienced some fears that you think are authoritative, such as your leader, your teacher and so on. Or you have experienced fear, worry and fear in some events, which form a complete stress process for you and make you feel scared. It is because of this psychology that you constantly lower or deny your self-evaluation, and you think you are a loser. Of course, the feeling of failure is accompanied by fear, or it may be that this feeling or fear makes you unforgettable.

On the basis of this mentality, staying at home for a long time is easy to project this fear, that is, the fear caused by foreign accumulation, to other directions. Then the goal chosen in this direction is generally consistent with your other fears and authoritative. Of course it's what you think, or it may be true. Your persistent failure is a description of the loyalty of failure consciousness, a continuation of failure ideology, and your mentality at this time.

This also shows that your self-confidence has been destroyed. Since self-confidence does not exist, you should use your self-confidence to rebuild your self-confidence to get rid of the present state. Self-confidence means that you believe in yourself, and self-confidence means that you are now. You should affirm your ability, know yourself correctly, eliminate yourself constantly, and suffer setbacks for some people or things that have not achieved the expected results, especially the mistakes made at work. Or the fear that learning has not achieved the expected results. In fact, this is your cognitive problem. Gradually change your attitude towards life, especially your behavior pattern, to adapt to this society, to adapt to your environment, or to communicate with others, so that your self-confidence can be established in a state of self-improvement to face everything, and your fear of depression will be gradually alleviated or eliminated.

Be in extreme fear depression, how to get rid of?

First of all, you must find out whether your depression is diagnosed by yourself or by a doctor.

Depression is mostly related to the stimulation received in childhood, which gradually develops from general anxiety to physiological anxiety and depression.

Sleep for two or three hours every day, patients will be in a trance, unable to concentrate on their studies, work will be in a mess, and life will have no quality. This is a symptom of early depression. He should go to the hospital for treatment immediately, which can effectively inhibit the development of the disease and gradually return to normal.

According to your description, if you want to get rid of depression, give the following suggestions:

1 Let parents accompany you to the hospital for treatment, let parents know the great harm of depression, and let parents know what kind of family atmosphere should be created to get rid of the disease control with you.

People with depression are easily mistaken for being melodramatic and pretending to be crazy. Only by insisting on scientific medication, active treatment and consulting a psychologist can we gradually recover.

3 Find a hobby of positive energy, focus on this aspect and reduce the interference of other things.

I hope my answer can give you some help.

First of all, my advice to you is that if the quality of sleep is not good at night, try not to sleep too much during the day the next day. This hope can make up for the loss of sleep, and the result is often counterproductive. Also pay attention to try not to play with mobile phones and drink stimulating drinks before going to bed.

I also suggest that you change yourself according to your own situation.

I hope you can embrace life in high spirits every day. If you have other symptoms, I suggest you go to a regular hospital for examination and treatment.

Hello, friend. The following is the note of an old friend of the counselor. I'm happy to answer your question.

From your description, my friend, I think it is important to have some information like this:

1, my friends, when you were young, you were greatly influenced by your parents' quarrel, which has become a psychological shadow and pressure;

2. Lack of encouragement and recognition from childhood has kept you in a state of "not believing that you can succeed or even deliberately fail";

3, my friend, you are always in a sensitive and defensive state, always nervous and unable to relax well, which is related to the influence of family background;

4, these years have been in a state of being consumed by shadow, tension, sensitivity, etc. As a result, friends have never grown up.

These problems are all important and have formed a cycle.

When your friends are constantly being consumed, it's hard for you to grow-it's hard to grow, you can't get out of consumption slowly-it's hard to get out of the influence of your family-leading to persistent problems-leading to persistent consumption-leading to more and more difficult growth.

Then, for your current friend status, I personally think that the breakthrough should be your personal friend status.

Everyone's personal status is very important. This importance lies in that when we are in a good state, we can calmly cope with all kinds of life, including some shadows and pressures. When we are in a bad state, let alone coping, a straw in life may crush us.

So, personally, I think, my friend, it is necessary for you to adjust your state now, at least:

1, not too nervous;

2, can sleep, sleep is ok;

3. the inner fear is slightly reduced.

As for how to do it, in addition to the general relaxation methods (meditation, deep breathing, exercise, etc. ), I personally think we can try to hint at ourselves and desensitize ourselves.

For example, as a friend now, you are greatly influenced by what happened when you were a child. Then, you can try to imagine yourself as a child and comfort yourself in bed.

At the same time, I think it is ok to take the initiative to see your own advantages and give yourself enough encouragement. After all, the past is over, and you need to give yourself what you didn't get in the past.

However, it is hard to say how effective these can be, so in order to help your friend get out faster, you can consider some drugs, and if conditions permit, please communicate directly with a psychologist.

Thank you, my friend, for reading. I hope my answer will help you see the real world clearly. Best wishes.

Hospitalization, family companionship, travel.

It is best to go to a professional mental hospital and receive professional treatment. There are many people with depression now. If you let go of psychological pressure and cooperate with hospital drugs, you should be able to recover soon.

Those methods of self-regulation, whether temporarily useful or not, are actually caused by the lack of a substance in the brain.

First, don't dwell on this matter. Born to live. You can't be held back by one thing. Distract yourself and do more positive things, such as running, listening to music, traveling and doing things you like.

Second, the reason is known to be related to relatives, open your heart and make things clear. He who tied the bell must untie the bell. After talking, just relax.

Third, what matters is not the matter itself, but whether you have enough courage to solve it.

Most people suffer from depression. First of all, family members should find, care and cherish the patient in time and give her understanding, support and love, not blame. Secondly, patients want to get rid of pain, but they can't do it themselves, especially at night, with poor sleep quality and repeated nightmares. Family members should understand and try to help him.

But as you said, will you consider communicating with your family to let them know about your situation and cooperate? For example, parents should reconcile, change their lifestyle and eliminate the root of your inner fear. Furthermore, living in different environments. If you really can't, talk to a good friend and find a psychologist. In fact, most of your fears are imaginary. Don't worry, don't be afraid. They're just fighting. How can there be couples in life who don't quarrel? They all love you. Don't worry!

You should go out for a walk, bask in the sun, communicate with people of different ages, and preferably sing and dance.