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One day, a new Friend Request appeared in the WeChat address book. He added me through junior high school group chat and wrote a note.
I recalled that there seems to be such a person in junior high school who agreed to a friend's request.
He said a few polite words to me, although I didn't want to say it, I managed to get by.
The last point came. He was getting married and asked me if I would go. I replied politely that I would go if I had time.
If it weren't for marriage, he probably wouldn't add me. He only added me to collect money.
I have a look at this junior high school group, and there are only two friends who are really good with me. We all dive in this group, and most of them are people I don't know, so I don't comment.
I thought about it and quit the group chat.
Later, my friend's classmate got married, and I didn't arrive or accompany him.
Our friend Nan Nan asked me on WeChat why I didn't follow the ceremony.
Because I don't want to. I don't want to.
Later, Nannan gave me a so-called junior high school classmate, and I didn't even press the ceremony when I got married.
Nannan said that I was too unsociable, that it was time to establish contacts, and who might be used in the future.
Is the network just to add a friend to each other?
In fact, the real relationship is that you are good enough and others are willing to exchange friendship with you.
02
There are 99+ messages in the group dragged in every day. Although I blocked all these groups, most of them will be displayed at the top because someone is talking.
What I hate most is the "full staff".
I quit more than 30 useless groups without hesitation.
After quitting the group, I looked at my friends list again. I actually have more than 500 friends, including family, friends and colleagues. I don't know why so many people are added to the rest.
I cleaned up my WeChat friends again and deleted about 300 friends.
Wechat business, selling goods by swiping the screen, sending N friends to places with positioning, and the kind of "Versailles literature" that I can't stand most have also been deleted.
When I quit 30 groups and deleted 300 friends, I felt relaxed instead of missing something.
I remember Wang Han said after deleting Chen Kun and Fan Bingbing: "After deleting them, you will feel very, very relaxed. All the time is yours, and you will feel that your whole life is different. "
03
I remember there is a very popular word called "breakup" in Little Red Book.
The simple explanation is to encourage people to abandon useless things.
I think not only useless things should be discarded, but also useless social activities should be discarded.
Once I went to a health center, the teacher in charge of me didn't come for a long time. Later, she came to tell me that she watched the live broadcast on Aauto faster and grabbed the lipstick.
Ask me again if I want to rob? I said I didn't have a faster car.
What about Tik Tok? I said no.
Ask me again if I want to play the glory of the king? I also said I don't want to play.
Ask me if I have seen the latest play. I said I wouldn't chase.
She said I can't get in the way of everyone like me, and I can't talk about drama with others.
So what if you can't catch the stalk, so what if you can't get in the way. I just don't like to do things I don't like in order to fit in with inappropriate circles.
When buying clothes, the clerk will also let friends who add WeChat say that it is new and convenient to buy.
Taking the subway, some people will say that they are helping to add a WeChat when starting a business.
I have started to delete friends who have gradually lost contact, and I don't want to have too much intersection with such strangers.
The usual life is already very tired, so just keep your own small circle.
04
There is a sentence in the book "The Courage to Be Hate": "I care more about my life than what others think of me."
I don't look at my mobile phone much when I come home from school on holiday. Friends who know me say that I will disappear as soon as I have a holiday.
When I go home on holiday, I mostly watch TV at home, go shopping with my parents, cook together and take a walk together.
I think we spend a lot of time together at school, so we should spend our holidays with our parents.
Later, when my friends learned about my habits, I didn't have any ideas because of my slow reply.
In the past, my friend invited me to dinner, even if I was very tired, I would choose to go because I was afraid that I wouldn't go this time and others wouldn't call me next time.
A friend I haven't contacted for a long time informed me that I was married, and I would arrive even if I didn't get there.
Many of my friends like to watch movies at night and go to bars for drinks at night.
They know I don't like staying up late and won't call me, but they won't think I'm unsociable just because I don't play with them.
Maybe in the process, some people will think you are unsociable or something.
Maybe there are fewer so-called good friends, but those who stay are people who understand me.
Everyone is an individual and everyone has his own way of life.
"gregarious" or "unsociable" is your choice.
For me, the so-called "gregarious" is really not so happy, but "unsociable" makes me comfortable and free.