Teacher Pan starts with several basic concepts.
What is self? Ego is a collection of all psychological representations about itself, including knowledge and emotion.
Self is a highly functional structure. What is your own function?
Let you stimulate vitality, maintain self-continuity, creativity, sense of integration, self-endurance (regulating emotions), and maintain self-esteem and self-control
What is self fragmentation? There is no sense of continuity and unity.
What is the self-object? It is the object that provides psychological function for self.
Three functions of self-object.
1, affirmation, praise, encouragement, seeing, reflection in the mirror,
2. Protect, comfort, make it calm and safe, and make it self-cohesive.
3. Accompanied by similar companions,
These three functions are as important to children's growth as sunshine and rain.
What is exaggerating yourself? Exaggerate oneself from the sex and aggression in classical theory. Intrinsic is motivation. Externally, it is to regain happiness, while internally, it is sex and aggression. For example, flying in a dream is exciting and heroic.
What if you exaggerate yourself and are satisfied?
Energetic, creative, emotional, sublime, mourning, intelligent and humorous.
What will happen if you are dissatisfied? Fear, helplessness, loss, avoidance, anger, shame, inferiority, guilt.
What is a weak self? It corresponds to the needs of idealized self (powerlessness and helplessness).
What happens if a person's weak self is satisfied?
Will be excited, very safe, very calm (the ability to appease emotions), the ability to comfort themselves, full of hope. It will also be transformed into internal psychological structure (conscience, morality, value).
If you are not satisfied: fear, disappointment, shame, despair, looking outward, fantasizing about magical power (super-value concept)
What is the mirror self-object?
When a person wants to exaggerate, give him the function that the person who exaggerates his experience brings to him.
What is an idealized self-object?
When a person is helpless, I hope to have a function that can help him soothe his emotions and rebuild his sense of security.
What is the need to mirror the self-object?
When exaggerating a person's desire to be satisfied, he wants to be positively appreciated.
What is the need to idealize the self-object?
When I am weak, I need someone (or something) to calm me down, give me support and manage my emotions effectively.
What is mirror self-object empathy?
Visitors express their needs to be seen and affirmed to the counselor.
What is the idealized self-object empathy?
Visitors are idealistic about consultants and expect them to have a positive resonance.
Self-transformation
1, Structured: A mirror reflects the idealized C twin of B.
2. Compensation: Mom can't find Dad, Dad can't find Grandpa, and Grandpa can't find a teacher (compensation structure).
3. Transformation internalization: two processes.
A proper answer? B just the right setback
What is narcissism:
Freud's theory of narcissism is: Libido throws himself (loves himself). Advocate transcending narcissism and loving the object.
Freud believed that narcissism is limited, and that if you love yourself more, you will not be able to love others. This is a trade-off relationship.
Kohut's theory of narcissism, that is, loving oneself and others, is an ability and develops at the same time. As much as you have the ability to love yourself, you have the ability to love others. This is a pendulum relationship.
Second, how to use autologous heart to solve clinical problems. First of all, we must clarify several concepts.
1, understanding of shame:
Freud's understanding of shame: A, I am eager to be exposed, and B-ultrasound, my ideal has not been realized.
Kohut's understanding of shame: A exaggerated things are not satisfied, and B narcissism is crushed and frustrated.
2. Understanding of trauma:
Freud's understanding of trauma: the unfortunate experience of childhood has a bad influence on the heart.
Kohut's understanding of trauma: the insatiable fear when children need to reflect and idealize their own objects.
3. Understanding of castration:
Kohut's understanding of castration: fear caused by the loss of self-object function.
4, the understanding of impedance:
5. Understanding of Oedipus Complex
How Freud explained Oedipus complex: killing father and marrying mother
Kohut believes that children with rich self-objects and high quality will spend the Russian period happily and safely. If it is missing, children's feelings for their parents are regarded as lust by their parents, and competitive attacks are regarded as hostility by their parents, so Oedipus complex appears.
7. The understanding of empathy opposes empathy. How to deal with the empathy of self-objects?
Anti-empathy (counselor's feeling);
1. If the counselor is bored, sleepiness and boredom are the mirror images of self-object empathy, and the visitor needs you to see him. 2. If the counselor feels independent (unlike the visitor), it is a twin self-object empathy, and the visitor is pursuing the similarity with the counselor. 3. The counselor has the feeling of belittling himself, which is an idealized self-object empathy. Visitors should be patient when idealizing the counselor.
Psychological counselors should use their own anti-communism to infer the empathy of visitors.
There are still many wonderful things to be continued ...
Teacher Pan shared it magnificently for more than two hours. We listened for more than two hours and felt very enjoyable, beneficial, worthwhile and moved. This is the power of knowledge and the charm of psychology. Thank your for his hard work and wonderful dedication. At the same time, I would also like to thank Mr. Than Shwe for building such a good platform, so that we can meet at the same frequency, learn together, experience together and grow together.