The first story is called The Lion Roar, which I believe many friends have heard and seen. This "Hedong Lion" actually refers to his wife Liu, who is friends with Su Dongpo. They call themselves "Mr. Long Qiu". Chen Jichang is hospitable, loves art, enjoys life, and is also a henpecked wife.
Whenever there are guests at home, Chen Jichang always entertains them with wine, and asks several female wenqing, artists and fans to accompany him. During the dinner, the host and the guest chatted happily.
Female Wen Qing: "Shiro, I heard that you are very good at health preservation. Can you tell me how we girls should keep healthy? "
Chen Jichang: "When it comes to keeping in good health, my friend Su Dongpo is an expert. Unfortunately, he is not here today. "
Guest 1: "Brother Ji Chang learned sword when he was a teenager. Why is he obsessed with health preservation now?"
Guest 2: "Of course you can't hit your wife."
Liu (teacher): "! What are you talking about? "
Chen Jichang: "My leader called me. I'm going in. Excuse me. "
Chen Jichang: "What can I do for you, madam?"
Liu (teacher): "How did you promise me last time? You said you would invite your friend to drink in the future and never call her Wen Qing again. Why did you call her again today? I give you two choices: first, go out and ask them out. Second, I went out to drive them away. "
Chen Jichang was henpecked, and his wife lost her temper. He lowered his head and was reprimanded like a child who had done something wrong, and then asked the servant to send the young woman away. Su Dongpo, a good friend, deliberately teased him and wrote a poem for him: "Longqiu laymen are also poor, and they talk empty words and have no sleep at night." Suddenly I heard lion roars, and my crutch fell into my palm. "This poem has contributed an idiom to the Chinese world: the lion's roar.
Once, Liu and her husband were angry and sick. Another good friend, Huang Tingjian, wrote him a letter and asked him: I learned that my sister-in-law was slightly ill. I wonder if she is all right now? Brother Chen wanted to live a quiet life in his later years, and no longer organized dinners or invited women to drink. What does his wife have to worry about? Why are you still angry and sick?
Chen Jichang said in distress situation. Anyway, Chen Jichang's henpecked deeds have spread among friends. Not only spread among friends, but also recorded in history, making it famous in history. Later generations will always use "Hedong lion" to describe a tough wife; When it comes to men who are afraid of their wives, they will also be called "seasonal fetishes."
The second story of being afraid of his wife in the Song Dynasty is The Rouge Tiger. It is said that Zhu, the wife of Linglu in Weishi County, is a very strict person. Lu obeyed her orders and even his wife's decision in the county administration, so the local people nicknamed Mrs. Lu "Rouge Tiger". When the locals say rouge tiger, they mean their magistrate's wife.
In addition to the two allusions of "the roar of a lion" and "the rouge tiger", there is another one that is not often heard, and it is called "there is no shortage of truth". This allusion also comes from the Song Dynasty.
"Bridge lamp" means the spare lamp holder. What does it have to do with men being afraid of their wives? It turns out that in the Song Dynasty, there was a man named Li Dazhuang. This name sounds "big" and "strong" and is very heroic. But Li Dazhuang is not worthy of the name, because he is afraid of his wife and often lacks courage. Whenever he makes his wife angry, her wife always shouts to him, "Sit down!" "
Li Dazhuang obediently sat down and straightened up every time. As usual, Li Furen put a lamp bowl on his head, lit the lamp and said, "When you turn off this lamp, kneel down and rub the washboard instead, kneeling on durian." Li Dazhuang can only "hold her breath, like a dead wooden doll" and dare not move, for fear that the lamp bowl above her head will fall.
Everyone nicknamed him "the lamp to fill the vacancy". Slowly, "fixing the lamp" became a special adjective for being afraid of his wife.
Of course, there were more than these men who were afraid of their wives in the Song Dynasty. To say, there are quite a few household names.
Ouyang Xiu, a great writer in the Song Dynasty, was one of the "Eight Masters in the Tang and Song Dynasties" we were familiar with, and was also a hen-pecked wife.
On one occasion, Ouyang Xiu promised to write an epitaph for Wang Dan, a wise man in the Song Dynasty. Wang Dan's son was very grateful, so he sent ten pairs of golden wine lamps and two golden flagons to express his gratitude to Ouyang Xiu. Ouyang Xiu refused, but dared not accept it, saying, "This gift is too expensive. Besides, no maid in my family can play with these golden wine vessels. " Who knows Wang Zhongyi actually picked two maids to give to Ouyang Xiu. Ouyang Xiu had to accept the wine container and send the maid back, because Mrs. Ouyang was strictly in charge and he was not allowed to get close to the beauty.
If you ask me, on the one hand, we can see that Ouyang Xiu is single-minded to his wife, on the other hand, we can see that in the Song Dynasty, it was very high to ask experts to write epitaphs.
Ouyang Xiu is a literary giant, so the forces in the ruling and opposition are not afraid of his wife, are they?
Not exactly. Song Zhenzong has a powerful man named Wang Qinruo. This Wang Qinruo is in power. Many people are afraid of him, but he is afraid of his wife. Madam said one, but Wang Xianggong dared not say two; Lady said west, Wang Xianggong dare not say east; Madam said not to take concubinage, and Wang Xianggong never took concubinage.
On one occasion, Wang Qinruo built a study in the backyard and named it "Sanweitang". The name of "three fears" comes from a sentence in the Analects of Confucius: "A gentleman has three fears: fear of fate, fear of adults, and fear of the words of saints." It should be said that the name "Sanweitang" is very learned. However, Wang Qinruo's colleague, a academician named Yang Yi, said to him, "Wang Xianggong, you haven't chosen the name of this hall, just call it Si." Wang Qinruo said inexplicably, "Four fears? Which four are afraid? " Yang Yi said, "I am afraid of destiny, adults, saints' words and my wife. Four fears. "This is to make fun of Wang Qinruo afraid of his wife.
All right. The representative writers and Quan Xiang in Song Dynasty were afraid of their wives. What about scientists?
Shen Kuo, a famous scientist in Song Dynasty, has a 1 1 century's smartest head hanging around his neck. He knows everything about astronomy, geography and physical chemistry, but Shen Kuo is also famous for his henpecked wife. His second wife, surnamed Zhang, is definitely a strong presence in the family. She specializes in all kinds of disobedience and often beats Shen Kuo. Shen Kuo only dared to dodge and never dared to strike back. Several times, his beard was torn off by his arrogant wife, and his blood flowed. When the children saw it, they were frightened and cried and begged their mother, "Mom, please give dad a break."
And Shen Kuo? Although he is often abused by his wife, he has deep feelings for his wife. Later, Zhang died of illness, and all his friends were happy for Shen Kuo, thinking that he was finally relieved, while Shen Kuo himself had been in a trance and missed his dead wife very much. One day, he crossed the Yangtze River by boat and tried to drown himself. Fortunately, someone caught me in time. Not long after, however, he died of depression and left with his wife.
In fact, we can list a long list of henpecked women in Song Dynasty: besides Wang Qinruo, Ouyang Xiu and Chen Jichang, there are also Yan Shu, Qin Gui, Zhou Bida and Lu You. They are all famous and afraid of their wives.
In the Song Dynasty, men were afraid of their wives, which was not a case, but a common phenomenon. Why do you say that? Because Ceng Gong, another Song poet who was listed as one of the "Eight Masters of Tang and Song Dynasties", once complained, which roughly means: In the past, women were obedient, taking care of their husbands and educating their children, and observing the three virtues; However, since modern times-Ceng Gong said modern times, that is, the Song Dynasty, since the Song Dynasty, this trend seems to have changed. Girls are keen on dressing up, wearing expensive jewelry, marrying people and riding on their husbands' heads to rule their power. Ceng Gong used eight words to spit out this social phenomenon: "Let men serve women, and husbands succumb to their wives." Ceng Gong doesn't like this phenomenon very much.
If you ask me, it doesn't matter if a husband waits on his wife. I think many good men are afraid of their wives now, and "being afraid of their wives" has become the embodiment of a man's upbringing. But there is also a saying that a scholar in the Ming Dynasty said that a scholar-bureaucrat cherished his reputation and was afraid of his wife because he didn't want to lose the bad reputation of family discord and defile his image. This passage can also be used to explain the wife-fearing phenomenon in Song Dynasty.
"Men follow women and husbands follow women" became a phenomenon in the Song Dynasty, which also shows from another side that the social status of women in the Song Dynasty is not as condescending as people think.
The first lady in the Song Dynasty can not only order takeout, but also ask the four departments and six bureaus to arrange banquets at home, and she can also have some respect in front of the "xianggong". I kind of want to live in the Song Dynasty.