It means: "You only need to look at your appearance when you marry a concubine, but you need to look at your virtue when you marry a wife." .
In fact, it is.
Throughout the ages, you will find that.
However, anyone who casually pulls out a noble family, a prominent family, will find that their hostess must be knowledgeable and knowledgeable.
In fact, in ancient times, in addition to many such blue-hearted and smart girls.
There are many such "good wives" in modern times.
The Yolanda we are going to talk about today happens to be one of them.
As a girl who grew up in a traditional family, she is very young.
In Yolanda's mind, the consciousness of "family" exceeds that of "career".
So, after finding a husband.
Yolanda completely abandoned her career and became a little woman in the family, taking care of the children and serving her in-laws.
And her husband Yu Xia in those years.
Yolanda has always been tolerant of friends and family with a super broad mind.
Besides taking care of his family, Yolanda always plays the role of mediator, easing the relationship between Yu Xia and his in-laws.
With her efforts, Yu Xia finally untied the knot and made a formal reconciliation with her past painful experience.
So Yolanda should choose a contemporary wife in the entertainment circle.
Your name on the list must be brilliant!
one
1996, yolanda's height has jumped to 1.68 meters.
She was only 19 years old at that time.
Because of her height, she exceeded the standards of Tsing Yi and Hua Dan.
No choice, Yolanda had to give up applying to China Theatre Academy and choose to study at Central Theatre Academy.
In this way, under the arrangement of fate, Yolanda and Zhang Ziyi, Mei Ting and others became classmates.
With her low-key and soft personality charm, Yolanda also attracted senior Yu Xia.
But unlike Yu Xia's obsession with her, at first, Yolanda didn't call this senior who was only one grade older than herself.
Although this senior is excellent, he made a circle with the movie Sunny Days at 1993.
But Yolanda still has no feelings for him.
Until I saw Yu Xia make my friends laugh in a drama performance.
Yolanda changed Xia Yulai and realized that this senior is also very good.
/kloc-one day in 0/997, Yu Xia got up the courage to go to the Great Wall to see the night scene.
Although this idea is beautiful, it is very helpless in reality and difficult to implement.
When they saw halfway, it suddenly began to rain.
No way, Yu Xia had to drag Yolanda to the movie seller to take shelter from the rain.
In this way, a night scene suddenly turned into a rainy scene.
However, although they were all wet, they still had a good time.
No, they also went out to enjoy the scenery many times after this night scene.
Slowly, ambiguity began to be around.
But because they are young and haven't graduated, they haven't broken enough paper.
It was two years later, 1999, when the relationship between men and women was officially confirmed.
Yolanda's career after lovelorn is also very satisfactory.
1999, Yolanda was attracted by directors He Ping and Hanqing Wu for her brilliant appearance.
At their invitation, he starred in the film "Dream of Spring".
With the role of "Zhou Xiaomei" in the film, Yolanda won the Best Supporting Actress Award in the19th China Golden Rooster Award.
In the next two years, through the movie "Beautiful Feet".
Yolanda also won the 26th Hundred Flowers Award Best Supporting Actress Award and the 9th China Film Performance Society Golden Phoenix Award.
It can be said that Yolanda is the representative of his debut.
But maybe because she was too smooth when she was young, God thought she was too fond of her.
In 2004, Yolanda's feelings went wrong.
Because of Gao Yuanyuan's intervention, Yolanda fell into the crisis of "being broken up" for the first time.
Until 2007, she and Yu Xia were on and off.
Maybe Yolanda just hinted to the media that something was wrong with her feelings.
On the other hand, everyone can see her happily watching Yu Xia take part in the team competition.
Because there are too many times of "on-off, on-off, and repeated changes".
The audience is really not sure whether this confusing relationship has really been going on.
However, the audience did not doubt for a long time. In 2009, Yolanda and Xia announced their marriage.
To tell the truth, watching their long-distance running love for 10 years, the public is not optimistic about their marriage.
After all, before they got married, the lovers were "noisy".
Especially the summer rain, and Gao Yuanyuan on and off for a while, and Fan Bingbing flirting for a while.
As long as you are a gossip, you should think that Yolanda can't control the summer rain!
Who knows, this time, everyone really guessed wrong.
Since Yolanda registered to get married, Yu Xia has embarked on the road of "the world is big, the wife is the biggest".
two
If Yolanda's family has brought her a lot of happiness, on the contrary, Yu Xia's family is full of gloom.
When Xia was only 3 years old, Xia Fu and Xia Mu divorced because of their incompatible personalities.
Therefore, Yu Xia, who lived with her father since childhood, did not enjoy much maternal love.
In addition to not enjoying maternal love, Yu Xia has no feelings for fatherly love.
It turned out that shortly after living with his father, Yu Xia was entrusted to his uncle and aunt by the only relative who accompanied him.
As the father of a child, Xia is too idealistic.
In order to pursue painting and calligraphy, 1995, he abandoned his son and went to Japan to study painting alone.
Even if Yu Xia cries again, this cruel man never wants to look back.
No way, Xia's sister had to take responsibility, wipe her brother's ass and take care of this nephew.
Fortunately, my aunt and uncle are kind enough.
When raising Yu Xia, they not only didn't mistreat him, but also really raised people as sons.
With such warm care, Yu Xia, a little boy, has also grown up healthily.
With the growth of age, Yu Xia has a clear understanding of his parents.
He knows that he is neither liked nor liked by his parents.
At first, he will cry because of these clear cognition.
But after a long time, Yu Xia also relaxed.
He thought:
"Even if I don't like it, there are always people who love me. Really, my aunt and uncle love me very much. "
With this in mind, young Yu Xia made a decision.
In other words, we must support our uncles and aunts.
three
When planning a grand wedding with Yolanda, Yu Xia once suggested:
"The witness, don't look for my parents! Let my aunt and uncle do it for me. "
Yolanda was confused when she first heard her boyfriend's advice.
As a daughter who grew up in a traditional family, Yolanda didn't understand this operation.
But whether she understands it or not, she still knows why Yu Xia did it.
But it was knowing why Yu Xia did this that Yolanda couldn't agree with this opinion.
After all, boyfriends are so unfamiliar with their parents. If they are not found at the time of marriage, this parent-child relationship should not be maintained.
Therefore, in order to make her boyfriend have a healthy family environment, Yolanda took the initiative to act as a mediator between her in-laws and her boyfriend.
The first thing she mediated was the "marriage" incident.
At Yolanda's insistence, Xia Fu Natsume finally became her son's witness.
However, although he came to the wedding and married his son, Yu Xia was still not very close to his parents.
When thanking, he only described his gratitude to his parents in one sentence.
It took me a few minutes to express my feelings for my uncle and aunt in detail.
Seeing such obvious contrast, Xia Fu and Natsume are also a little sad.
Of course, they also understand their son. After all, children's childhood, they didn't get involved at all.
In 20 10, Yolanda gave birth to her daughter Xia.
After hearing the news, Xia Fu and Natsume immediately rushed over.
Yolanda was also moved to see her in-laws take care of themselves so soon.
However, unlike Yolanda, Yu Xia is very cold.
Even if Natsume brought a whole box of gifts, he was expressionless.
Yolanda is still mediating among them, and the atmosphere will not be too embarrassing.
In the hospital, Xia's mother took care of Yolanda for a long time.
It can be said that as long as she is confined, Yolanda will take care of her.
But this enthusiastic concern did not warm Yu Xia's heart.
When Xia mother finished watching her grandchildren and was ready to leave.
Yu Xia also doubled the gift money she brought back to her.
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In addition to refusing his mother's concern with actions, Yu Xia also severely attacked his father with words.
It turned out that after learning that his little granddaughter was born.
Early in the morning, Xia Fu bought the earliest plane ticket and rushed to Beijing.
But after arriving in Beijing, Xia Fu had no place to live.
At first, he planned to rest at Xia's house for one night.
But who knows, at night, Yu Xia suddenly took out his suitcase?
When Xia Fu asked, he got the result that he was going out to stay in a hotel.
Of course, Yu Xia's answer is still very polite.
He took the initiative to explain to his father:
"Children will make trouble in the middle of the night. If you live here all the time, your sleep will definitely be affected. I am afraid of disturbing your work and rest, so I decided to send you to the hotel. "
Although I know that the child is telling the truth, there is no doubt that at that moment, Xia's heartache was terrible.
After seeing her husband and father-in-law get along awkwardly, in order to ease the atmosphere.
Yolanda once again stepped forward as a mediator.
Knowing that her father-in-law wanted to get in touch with her daughter, she took the initiative to give way and let her grandfather and grandson get along all day.
Knowing that her father-in-law was going to live at home, she turned a deaf ear to Xia and let him know the loneliness of the lonely old man.
Thanks to Yolanda's efforts, Xia really moved back to his son's house and realized his dream of carrying on the family line.
five
In the same year 10, Yu Xia and his friends competed in skiing.
Due to uneven stress, he fell off the slide directly.
By the time his friend came to pick him up, the whole person had become a "blood man".
Not only are the arms and arms full of trauma, but they are also covered with blood.
I can't even stand up on my left leg.
After the accident, his friend immediately sent him to Beijing Haidian Hospital.
On the way to the hospital, my friend also took time to call relatives in Yu Xia.
Just got a call. Yolanda is stupid.
But soon, she recovered her mood and prepared to go to the hospital to visit her husband.
But at the thought of her son, who is only a few months old, Yolanda stopped again.
While she was struggling, Xia came forward.
He asked Yolanda to take care of the children at home and Yu Xia himself.
Originally, yolanda had the idea of easing the relationship between father and son.
Now that the opportunity came, Yolanda agreed without hesitation.
In this way, Xia and I simply packed our bags and went to the hospital.
In the hospital, Xia massages her son almost every two hours.
After seeing his son's mobility is inconvenient, he will feed him intimately.
However, because he was "abandoned" as a child, when sitting in a room with his father, Yu Xia always looked embarrassed and could not speak.
Whenever this happens, Xia always takes the initiative to find a topic to chat with her son.
Through these opportunities to talk, Xia really narrowed the distance between himself and his son.
six
At the end of the year, the Yu Xia family went out to pay a New Year call.
Before going out, Yu Xia suggested to his wife:
"Why don't we go to your parents' home to pay New Year greetings this year, and then go to my home to pay New Year greetings? "
After listening to her husband's opinion, Yolanda was very moved.
But as a girl who grew up in a traditional family, she knew it was not good.
So, even if again, yolanda still insisted:
"Let's go to my parents' house first! "
Actually, except because it's a traditional habit.
The reason why Yuan Quan insisted on going to Yu Xia's home first was also the idea of easing the relationship between the two sides.
But she did not expect that even if she went to her parents' home first, the relationship between the two sides did not ease in place.
It turned out that after only staying there for half a day, Yu Xia and his family slipped to his aunt and uncle's house.
Yolanda felt a little distressed when she watched Yu Xia escape New Year's greetings.
But in order to untie her husband's heart, she still tried to bring the two sides together.
20 12 I am tired of staying in Japan in summer.
The older he gets, the more he longs for the fetters of family ties.
So, one night, he took the initiative to send Xia Yufa a message:
"son! I want to discuss something with you. You see, Japan is too far from Beijing. Every time I come to see you, I waste a lot of time. So I think, let's go back to Beijing and settle down. "
Although it is tentative, everyone can see that Xia's idea of going back to Beijing to live with his son is really urgent.
In the face of his father's proposal, Yu Xia was silent for a long time.
Xia Dynasty waited for a long time helplessly, and Xia Yu sent a short message:
"Dad, you are maverick since childhood. It depends on your own ideas. "
Looking at this line of words sent by his son to himself, Xia felt very sad and sad.
He knew that his son still couldn't accept himself.
However, although Yu Xia could not accept Xia Chao's thanks, his wife yolanda still welcomed her father-in-law.
No, after learning that my father-in-law will live in Beijing for a long time.
Yolanda also directly left the children and ran around to see the house.
In addition to setting up a two-bedroom apartment, Yolanda also took into account the characteristics of the house style that Xiafu liked, and renovated the building full of modern style into an antique quadrangle.
In this way, under the arrangement of Yolanda, Xia returned to Beijing and settled down with her son and daughter-in-law.
seven
After living together, Yolanda often looks for opportunities for the father and son to talk and resolve conflicts.
Under such an opportunity, slowly, Yu Xia began to say something to his father.
Once, I finished drinking at home.
Summer rain suddenly during the seriously said to his father:
"Dad, why don't you take me to live with you!"
After hearing his son's question, Xia first sighed.
Then his face turned red and he said shyly to his son:
"At that time I was poor! There is no place to live. Sometimes I have to be chased by creditors, how dare I take you away! "
Xia Fu's voice is very small, vaguely embarrassed.
But at this moment, Yu Xia is still completely listening.
He began to realize:
"It's not that my dad doesn't like himself, and he hasn't been rejected by them. What really separates him from his father is the factor of "poverty". "
After talking with his father, Yu Xia began to be filial to the elderly with Yolanda.
At that time, life in Xia was very irregular.
In order to inspire his painting, he often improves it with coffee and cigarettes.
In addition to unhealthy "imported" food, sleep in summer is also a problem.
When he really sleeps, he doesn't care about day and night.
Xia's health is not very healthy, because his work and rest are chaotic.
In winter, he often gets sick with a cold.
Considering his father's poor health, he began to strictly supervise summer's work and rest with Yolanda.
As long as in the evening, the two will take the initiative to accept Xia Fu's brush and let him have a good rest.
When seeing Xia's father smoking, Yu Xia will also take his daughter's bitterness to replace cigarettes that are harmful to health.
Under such strict supervision, Xia's physical fitness began to improve at a speed visible to the naked eye.
Even friends who haven't seen each other for a long time will be surprised by the changes in summer.
Except for the physical changes, of course.
What surprised my old friends most was the change of mentality in Xia Dynasty.
To say that in the past, although Xia was very successful, he rarely showed a happy mood.
But now, he is really happy. He can talk for a long time even if he chooses a common topic.
Therefore, judging from the changes in summer and the degree of family harmony, I did not marry the wrong wife.