There are three reasons for the discord between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
1, the mother-in-law has a problem.
A large part of the reason for the disharmony between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is that her mother-in-law is possessive.
There is no denying that even if you have a cat and a dog, you will feel uncomfortable when you see an outsider occupying it for a long time, let alone raising a child from childhood to adulthood.
It is hard to bear to watch a little boy go from hungry to full of vigor and vitality until the boy becomes a man, mature, energetic and elegant as a young husband. Finally, I was rejected by others. Can you accept it? !
If the mother-in-law can't adjust her mood in time, she won't be satisfied with what kind of daughter-in-law her son gets back. Isn't that quarrel inevitable?
2, the daughter-in-law's own problems.
With the progress of the times and the development of society, we have to admit that modern people have a bad temper, pay attention to the development of personality, and no longer deliberately emphasize respect for their elders. And many children are spoiled, but women must pay more when they are wives than when they are unmarried. If the daughter-in-law is uncomfortable, just vent and say nothing. . . Two women will definitely quarrel with you!
Moreover, many daughter-in-law did not give her mother-in-law an attitude of "I came to love your son", but showed an attitude of "I came to rob your son of love". Can we not fight?
3. Most importantly, the problem of son.
I forgot which sentence said that the quarrel between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law was mostly because her son was useless.
This uselessness does not necessarily mean that his career is successful, but that his family status is not strong enough.
Your mother nags you, and you dare not resist. You only dare to listen. Your daughter-in-law nags you, but you dare not talk back. You only dare to listen.
Just don't talk back. The problem is that after a long time, you get bored, so you tell them to stop nagging. At this time, as long as your balance is slightly tilted, the world will be in chaos.
You can't stop your mother, your wife, your emotional intelligence as a peacemaker, and you don't want to hear complaints. You expect your mother-in-law to be a mother and daughter. Then I advise you to sleep a little longer. You're still awake.
Man is a gregarious animal. As long as he is in society, there will be interaction, and as long as there is interaction, there will be friction. What's more, two women are vying for your love?
What you can do, don't talk first! Those complaints ended when they were heard. Women are naturally talkative. You listen to them, you think it's no big deal, watch the fun!
Second, show it to your majesty. Although this is a modern society, you don't pay attention to three obedience and four virtues, but at least you are the head of the family, right If you are the head of the family, show your majesty and tell your mother that this is the woman you will spend the rest of your life with. Don't complain if you don't want to leave you alone Tell your wife that this is your mother, and you don't have to treat her as your own mother, but don't speak ill of my mother.
Third, the role of starting lubricant. A good word from both sides can save a war. Why not?
Women are strange creatures. The reason why they have good feelings may be because they have * * * feelings. Their bad feelings may be due to some gossip.
Therefore, in order to have a harmonious family, a husband should be like a husband, a daughter-in-law like a daughter-in-law, and a mother-in-law like a mother-in-law. Do your job well.
But personally, it is better not to live together. After all, solve the problem from the root.
Gee, it seems to be beside the point again.