There is a friend who we have known for more than a year. I still remember six or seven years ago, when people were still very young, maybe in their twenties. At that time, her income was relatively suitable and she earned some money. After earning money, she especially likes to buy luxury goods. She often basks in the luxury bags sent by her husband in the circle of friends, and each bag costs tens of thousands of dollars. In addition, she often basks in the middle of the night to buy her own goods, and when she moves, she spends more than 10 thousand yuan, and a nightgown costs 1000 yuan. I am amazed every time I see it, and I will give her an evaluation: Why are you so powerful? It is simply enviable.
But no one can always make money. The other day, everyone was talking about her old circle of friends. She said that she regretted spending a lot of money in previous years. Ask her why. She said, I'm not particularly rich, or I made a lot of money that year, and I don't know what happened at once, so I think I must take it out if I make money immediately. I bought a house and concluded that I bought an apartment. When I wanted to change commercial housing this year, I realized that I didn't have that much savings. I especially regret how I spent all my money at that time. If I had spent less, I might not have so much work pressure now.
Second: Most of the high-profile courtship of WeChat friends circle is young people. I don't know if you found it. Most of the high-profile courtship of WeChat friends circle is young people. When I first fell in love in my twenties, I liked to show my love. But when I'm 30, I won't express my love any more. It's not that they don't have a good relationship, but that there is nothing to show. In fact, the day belongs to you, you can live comfortably and safely, and there is no need to expose it. What's the point of showing others that you are happy?
I once saw a question on Zhihu: After a woman divorced her husband, she often saw her husband falling in love with her on-the-job show in a circle of friends, which was greatly puzzled. He said that her ex-husband's job was for a third party to come to power. Do you have to get a tan to marry a third party? What is the psychological state? No shame.
The answer I gave her was: Why should I care about others showing love? How childish it is to show love in middle age. The circle of friends who show love is not necessarily sent by him, but is probably forced by him at work. The purpose of others is to clear his name. You don't need to care so much, because true love is not to be shown. Once you reach middle age, you will become less and less unassuming. Don't ask the other half why he doesn't show love. There's no need to show it. It's good for a family to live a good life. Why do you want to show everyone everything? That's not necessary.