35 years old is a watershed in the workplace. Before that, you have plenty of opportunities to plan for the future and constantly adjust your life direction. By the age of 35, you are past the age of "selling at equal value" and are not qualified to be whimsical. You can only show your value from constant trading. At this age, the most important thing is to recognize yourself. This paper starts from three aspects to help you alleviate the crisis in the workplace, keep your active attitude and move on.
The workplace is like a playground. Physical strength in the first half and endurance in the second half.
35 years old is the age when grandma doesn't love her uncle. On physical strength and energy, you can't compare with young people; In terms of qualifications and determination, you can't compare with older people.
Believe it or not, you will feel a "hollow phenomenon" when you walk around any company:
Several executives in their forties and fifties, with a group of teenagers in their twenties, can't help wondering, where have all the "new middle-aged" people in their thirties gone?
In fact, they never deliberately hide it, but in comparison, some people have to take a back seat early.
Because most people in their thirties are old and young, they have to buy a house to raise children. If they talk about work, it is only a small part of their lives.
You know, before the age of 30, you can work 18 hours a day for only 3,000 yuan; But now, you have to go home from work on time, even if you work for eight hours, it will affect your normal life.
In the final analysis, before the age of 30, it is for hope, and after 30, it is extravagant hope.
As a friend of mine who is nearly forty said, 35 is a watershed in the workplace, and every day after that is a "midlife crisis":
You want to try your luck by starting a business, but you don't want to let life slide; But I am afraid that if I rush out, I will be shot on the beach without mercy.
However, if you think about it in turn, time is actually a double-edged sword, which can not only smooth out your tenacity, but also make your tenacity stronger.
In other words, the most important thing for people over 30 is to "know yourself"!
The essence of the workplace is nothing more than the exchange of interests.
When I was young, I often heard my peers complain:
"Why do I have to do all the dirty work?" "Is this job valuable to me?" "Why not arrange for me to do something interesting?" ...
Over time, such doubts become less and less, because it is better to have a job than nothing, and it is better to have hard work than to be relaxed.
The reason why some people think so is because you understand that everything in the workplace is a transaction.
The so-called world is full of interests, and the world is full of interests. No matter the boss, colleagues or partners, all relationships are based on mutual benefit.
In other words, an excellent person in the workplace will never expect gifts from others. They will only constantly strive to improve their "usable value".
People in their twenties have infinite daydreams about future opportunities, just like the old saying-"Press the right hand to win a game, and win with the right person for a lifetime".
This sentence was true, but it was obviously eclipsed by a person in his thirties.
For example, in the workplace, you will still find many "older speculators" who only pay attention to relationships and opportunities, thinking that as long as they meet a good boss and a rich man, they can immediately turn over and become a modern version of "Hu Xueyan".
But the problem is that you are no longer a young man in your twenties. Do you want to be young? What can others do for you?
You should clearly realize that the boss pays you a salary and the customer gives you money, not because they want to make friends with you too much, but because their only purpose is to get benefits from you.
After all, 35 years old has passed the age of "waiting for the price to be sold", and you are not qualified to be whimsical. You can only show your value from constant trading.
And the value you can use is also the biggest bargaining chip for the rest of your life.
If you can't control the result, don't judge right or wrong at will.
Mature people never judge others at will, nor live in others' evaluation.
I have to say that some people are more confused and ignorant. They like to judge others according to their own logic, but they can't help being influenced by other people's comments.
For example, if you are 35 years old, you can't get on. There is a saying called "right and wrong, right and wrong", but the problem is that people of this age seem to have experienced everything, but not so thoroughly.
So many people will live on that shallow "empiricism".
For example, there are many qualified "old people" in the workplace, and a newcomer has just arrived at the company. In less than two days, they said that people can't do this, leaving no room for careful observation;
For another example, you can often see a few greasy "middle-aged people in the workplace" who get together for a drink after work and talk about who has done a new project, but they are looked down upon as soon as they come up;
For another example, you will also find that some people in the office are old. No matter who puts forward a new idea, it will be suppressed according to its own empirical logic. ......
There is no doubt that people need to rely on a kind of self-confidence, whether it is good or bad.
Immature people rely on "thinking that they are better than others" to maintain their lives, while mature people rely on "the gap between themselves and others" to draw strength.
The difference between the two is essentially because of everyone's "cognitive black hole".
In short, those who live in judgment are usually accustomed to the infatuation and dependence on certainty.
For example, after the age of 35, many people are afraid of change and dare not face failure. They dare not make effective choices on major opportunities because they are afraid of suffering losses beyond their own experience.
Therefore, they expect to gain a sense of security from other people's judgments and seek superiority from their own evaluations of others.
But the real strong, in the face of the second half of the workplace, can clearly realize that there is no one else in the next game, he only needs to face himself.
Therefore, the more powerful people are, the more they can maintain an "empty cup mentality." Whether they meet new people, new things or new environments, they are more willing to meet changes than young people.
Pay attention to yourself and focus on the key parts.
The workplace is like a battlefield. The best war strategy is to "take advantage of yourself and attack others short." As mentioned earlier, after the age of 35, many people have a sense of powerlessness in competition. Because they are used to pursuing certainty and are afraid of fluctuation. But the problem is that competition in the workplace is not something you can avoid. So at this time, how to find out your strengths and weaknesses has become a top priority.
When we were young, we listened to many great truths, such as "longboard theory" and "barrel effect", but many of them were contradictory. Is it important to find the advantages or to make up for the disadvantages?
In fact, both advantages and disadvantages are essentially determined by "potential difference".
For example, if you change jobs at the age of 35, if you go to a brand-new company for an interview, your age will become your "contrarian", because no matter your qualifications or logic, in the eyes of the new company, it may not be as fast as training a young person.
But if the Offer you are looking for today is a well-known enterprise, then your age may become "follow the trend", because they want people who act in concert, and your experience and logic will become the most suitable thing for them.
Therefore, we often say that a person can try more directions before the age of 35, but don't adjust the direction casually after the age of 35.
In other words, if you want to go further in the workplace, you must have a certain degree of "self-strengthening personality" after the age of 35.
For example, you have only one choice, that is, to be the most expert in your field, and even have an unreasonable self-confidence that you can do better than others.
At the same time, you have to keep learning in this key place.
However, whenever I talk about this, there will always be people around me who say, "What if I don't have any talent?"
Usually my answer is: "Talent is the seed, and advantage is the result." In the workplace, everyone only looks at the results. "
As we often say, adults only look at pros and cons, while children only distinguish right from wrong. In the second half of the workplace, mature people only talk about results, while immature people look at talent. Because there are very few people who can really get things done by talent, most of them rely on accumulated repetition and continuous stuttering in key parts.
So, on the other hand, 35 years old is the second half of the workplace, and you can also think of it as a brand-new 20 years old.
As psychologist Meg Jay said in another speech: We know that 80% of the decisive moment in life occurs at the age of 35.
This means that those decisions, experiences and "epiphany" moments that can affect your life all appear in the middle of 30. Therefore, if you are facing or about to face the 35-year-old watershed, you should know that your greatest advantage is not your experience and qualifications, but your ability to know yourself independently and gain insight into the world.
Compared with yourself at the age of 20, you should be more aware of what you can and can't do, what you are good at and what you are not good at, what you like and what you don't like. At the same time, you should greet the next 10 and 20 years in a brand-new state, instead of simply regretting golden decade, who is 25 to 35 years old, like many people.
Fortunately, after all, you still have time to realize your hopes and have enough ability to balance your hopes.
In the process of growth, it is very important to find a company with growth potential and development space and grow together with the company.
First, you can witness the growth process of a company from small to large, from weak to strong, have a deeper understanding of the company's operation, and also appreciate the position and role of your role in the company's growth.
Second, in the process of the company's growth, your value will have more room to play and it will be easier to show it. Many people tend to look for big companies when looking for jobs, which is understandable, but in order to grow rapidly, it is actually a better choice to find a growing, small-scale company. Because in the process of growth, the demand for talents will be more urgent, and your position will be promoted faster.
Third, your loyalty will bring more returns to your development. Loyalty is one of the most important things for enterprises to employ people. No enterprise likes its employees to change their minds frequently. Especially when the turnover rate and turnover rate of many enterprises are high, loyalty has become a very valuable professional spirit.
No matter you are in the "third grade" or on your way to the third grade, please always tell yourself: don't waste your good years, seize all the time you can and accumulate more thickness for your life. When you get old, look back on your life. Do you want to live a happy life or a life of regret?
"People can't do too many things in this life, so everything should be done brilliantly. Your time is limited, don't live for others. Don't be limited by dogma, don't live in other people's thoughts. Don't let other people's opinions affect your inner voice. The most important thing is to follow your heart and intuition bravely. Only your heart and intuition know what you really think, and everything else is secondary. "
When you feel that your income is inferior to others, don't compare with others casually, because you never know what others have paid behind earning income. Similarly, when our life is inferior to others, there is no need to envy, because our quality of life is created by ourselves. If you think your life is not good enough, you are not working hard enough. In fact, it is easy to persist for three days, but it is difficult to persist all the time!
Wang Qi Bowen