On September 25th, 2005, it was Yan Youyun100th birthday party. On that day, when she was dancing on the dance floor in high heels with her back straight, almost no one could believe that she was a centenarian, and she had just had cancer surgery.
That day, when Yan Youyun and the surgeon were dancing on the dance floor, it was quite a bit of a tribute to fate. In this way, she seemed to say to the death who passed by her: "Do you want to dance together!"
100 years old Yan Youyun dances with the surgeon.
If there is a god of death in the world, then on that day, death is probably very depressed. Generally speaking, what made Death even more depressed that day was that in her speech that day, she told everyone present the secret of human longevity.
On that day, Yan Youyun stood on the stage and made her first speech in her still clear voice. The only purpose of her speech is to share her longevity secret as a welfare to all relatives and friends who come to her birthday party. That day, wearing high heels and a skirt, she said slowly:
"There is only one secret to my longevity: don't dwell on the past."
Yan Youyun voice down, the whole banquet hall was silent. Yes, they all want to know: "What does the past have to do with longevity?" ?
See confused faces, Yan Youyun explained with a smile:
"Spend more time thinking about how to create a better future. In my life, no matter what difficulties I encounter, I always think that someone will lend a helping hand, and it is true. "
That's what Yan Youyun said, and that's what she did all her life. Anyone familiar with modern history knows that this famous woman of the Republic of China has experienced numerous setbacks and hardships in her life.
Before she married her second husband, diplomat Gu Weijun, she was a widow. Her husband, Yang Guangling, was brutally killed by the Japanese in the war. Later, the youngest daughter died unfortunately, but every time she chose to "turn grief into strength" and face the reality with greater courage.
Imagine, if Yan Youyun has been staring at the pain of the past in the face of these life disasters, can she walk into the sunshine of tomorrow? The answer is naturally no.
In Yan Youyun's world: Nothing is impossible, as long as it is over, it should not be entangled.
One morning shortly after Yan Youyun arrived in Manila in the 1940s, she found that all her jewels had been stolen. There is even her dowry here.
After reporting the case, Yan Youyun, who was eager to solve the case, soon discovered that her jewelry was stolen because someone saw her most precious jade bracelet and put it on the wrist of the wife of the police chief.
Immediately, Yan Youyun calmly accepted the fact. Later, Yan Youyun suffered several such thefts in troubled times, but each time, she accepted it as calmly as this time. When asked, she simply said, "That was a thing of the past."
Yan Youyun treats himself like this, and so do the people around him. You know, her mantra is: "Things may get worse".
On one occasion, Yan Youyun's daughter Yang Xuelan got off the plane and got into a taxi in a hurry to attend a relative's birthday party. In her hurry, she left her bag with precious jewels in the car.
That day, Yang Xuelan was very depressed after seeing his mother Yan Youyun, but Yan Youyun simply said:
"As long as you are here, it is better than anything. I've lost my jewelry several times, so I'll buy it later. "
Compared with people who are always obsessed with loss, Yan Youyun's attitude of "not being entangled" is how wise!
The past, no matter how entangled you are, will never change. After all, even God can't change everything in the past. The entanglement of this kind of thing is nothing but trouble.
Limited time and energy should never be used to create a better tomorrow. This is the way for Yan Youyun to live a long life, and it is also the secret for her to lay a better tomorrow after setbacks and hardships.
Don't dwell on the past, don't dwell on the past for a moment, no matter what things are faced with, Yan Youyun does so.
After getting old, Yan Youyun, who has been paying attention to maintaining her teeth, goes to the dentist to maintain her teeth once a month. But the years are ruthless. With the growth of age, Yan Youyun's teeth were finally "laid off".
After that, Yan Youyun, who loves beauty, had to spend a lot of time and money on proofing, inserting teeth and grinding his teeth. But just as everything was about to be completed, on the way back from seeing the dentist, Yan Youyun's newly inserted teeth collided because of a sudden brake of the taxi driver.
Yang Xuelan, a daughter, was heartbroken. She cried in tears, "It's a waste of effort!"
But Yan Youyun said with a smile: "Nothing, nothing, it turned out that this tooth fell by itself, and I probably don't want to install it." . The daughter can't laugh or cry after listening. It never occurred to her that her mother could still have a sense of humor at this time.
It took Yang Xuelan a long time to understand that mother's "carefree" is the best wisdom in the world. The word "don't dwell on the past" is the best way to deal with established facts and help people move towards a better tomorrow.
Compared with Yan Youyun's years of always looking forward and living to infinity, countless people still face the past even if they set foot on today's earth. So, even if they go to tomorrow, they still live in yesterday. How can such a person have a farther and better tomorrow?
Yan Youyun has never been like this. She must be in today's mood, not in yesterday's mood.
Yan Youyun often says that the translation of "this moment" in English is "gift", and "gift" also means "gift" in English. Therefore, every moment is a gift from God, so we must enjoy it.
That's what Yan Youyun said, and that's what she said all her life.
Yan Youyun and Gu Weijun.
Every day is a beautiful day! Look ahead! This is what Yan Youyun often talks about, and these words are an extension of her sentence "Don't dwell on the past".
20 17 On May 24th, Yan Youyun passed away peacefully in new york at the age of 1 12, leaving with a smile on his face. If there were few old friends in the world, I think she would be happy to live longer.
Since then, the legendary life of Shanghai celebrity "Miss No.84" has come to a successful conclusion.
In the eyes of China people who value "death", Yan Youyun's natural aging is envied by countless people. It is precisely because of this "emphasis" that China people think that the most perfect thing for a person is:
When you were born, everyone laughed at you and cried; When you left, everyone was crying and you were laughing.
From this point of view, Yan Youyun's life can be called "the most complete".
Live to 1 12 years old and die peacefully and painlessly. Yan Youyun's perfection is the ultimate embodiment of "don't dwell on the past" that she practiced all her life.
Compared with those dazzling views on health care, Yan Youyun's longevity secret is very different, and many of her lifestyles even run counter to her views on health care. But really help her live to 1 12 years old. Now the daughter, like her mother, does not deliberately pursue health, but lives wholeheartedly.
Yang Xuelan, now 84, said: "I just learned about my mother's entanglement, so I haven't had a slight illness."
After all, Yang Xuelan really knows the secret of mother's longevity. Psychology believes that your bad mood will be remembered by your body. Therefore, most of human suffering is caused by the heart. This truth was revealed by the famous doctor John Schindler in "Diseases from the Heart".
Physicians tell the world according to their decades of medical experience that any disease is essentially a heart disease, and a good attitude can even help the disease heal itself.
At this point, the reason why Yan Youyun can still step on cancer at 98 o'clock is also obvious. Then, when she died at the age of 1 12, the reason why she was still disease-free and painless also has the answer:
If you don't struggle, you will naturally have no worries. If you are not worried, you will always smile. Smile, physical and mental health, natural longevity.